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Looking for a kindergarten program chesapeake!

My son's bday falls 18 days after the cut off to go to kindergarten but my son is ready for kindergarden, any one else having this issue? Any school reccomendations? Need help! We are also a military family....

Re: Looking for a kindergarten program chesapeake!

  • Call the school and see if there's an appeal process for entering kids whose birthdays are shortly after the cutoff. 

    My state (Maryland) has a 9/1 cutoff.  But both of my kids have students in their classes whose birthdays are just after the cutoff.  So there's some kind of appeal process for it here.

    The other option would be to look for a private school that has half or full day K and have your child do K at a private school, then do another year of K in public school when he meets the age requirement. 

    High School English teacher and mom of 2 kids:

    DD, born 9/06/00 -- 12th grade
    DS, born 8/25/04 -- 7th grade
  • We've moved a lot (not military, though) and found ourselves in a similar situation. DD has an October birthday.  She started preschool at almost-3 in a state with a December cutoff, and then in the middle of her second year of preschool we moved to a state with a firm August 31 cutoff for kindergarten and first grade.  I didn't research the public schools very thoroughly because it was clear there wasn't going to be any getting around it, especially since she was a month and a half past the cutoff.  But I felt strongly she was on track to be ready for kindergarten in the fall.  I selected a pre-K program at a Catholic school based partly on their willingness to promote her to kindergarten that fall pending assessment by the pre-K and kindergarten teachers, who agreed she was ready after she had been there a few months, so she started kindergarten last fall.  In January we moved again (!) to a district with a September 30 cutoff, and the principal at the nearest public school agreed to let her continue in kindergarten on the understanding that they could have her repeat K if necessary.  But she has done just fine and will be continuing on to first grade this fall.

    Now when I say my daughter was ready, I mean I was dead certain she was ready in terms of academic preparation and classroom behavior and 90% sure she would be fine socially, although she started out preschool rather shy (she's not anymore, though).  She has been resilient through our moves, makes friends easily, and adjusts well to new classroom environments.  A lot of parents would still have gone with the local cutoff on the assumption that being one of the oldest in her class instead of one of the youngest would be preferable.  And while I definitely believe, especially now that the year is nearly over, that we made the right decision, I do think girls tend to mature earlier and that the disadvantages of being younger than her peers (size, for example), are not as pronounced.  I also admit that since DH and I were both among the younger students in our classes but still did very well academically, I had similar expectations for DD, and risked projecting my experience onto her unique personality.  (I think she is bright but I wouldn't venture to say yet that she's gifted.)  So, while in general I advocate determining kindergarten readiness by individual assessment rather than birthdates, you should be certain that this is the right step for your son and expect that you will encounter people who are either surprised you want him to start kindergarten early or discourage you from doing so.  I can't tell you how many times I've heard people say that nobody regrets holding their kids back but many regret starting their kids in kindergarten too early.  All I can say is that so far I don't regret it.  But be certain you won't either.

    DD born 10/10/07 * DS born 11/25/11 * #3 due 3/9/2015
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  • I am going to make some of the comments made above. There are other things o consider suh as other parents that wait will now have kids that are a year and a half older than your child. It might no seem like a big deal but there is a good chance that by first or second grade the majority of the kids with summer birthdays will be a year behind so your son might be 4 or so months youger than the next oldest child especially the other boys. I am personally fairly against redflagging a child but I think if you send your child ahead on purpose the school will be looking for them to fail.

    As for where to look for other options. Do any districts have other dates? Private schools in those districts will follow their dates? Or try private schools to see if they will test.
    Jen - Mom to two December 12 babies Nathaniel 12/12/06 and Addison 12/12/08
  • Most of the private  schools have the same rules there are some that im looking into now
  • If you cannot find a private school and the public school will not test him then the only option is homeschooling him for one or two years depending on your school rules for what they will accept. And I am not saying he is not ready and would do great but just rember if you have to wait the year he will be in the correct grade. My kids missed the cutoff by two months and we had friends that lived two towns away who has same birthday and made the cutoff. I had to remind myself that yes if he lived in that town he would make the cutoff but if I went around it and found a way to send him he would actually be a full grade ahead not just two months ahead. And my friends DDs 3rd grader turns 9 this month and is thr youngedt in her class because of people redshirting or being left back or in our town we have a transitional first grade where essentially they repeat first grade instead of kindergarten. So having a June birthday now makes you young. My comments are not to dissuade you but to make you feel better if you have to wait.
    Jen - Mom to two December 12 babies Nathaniel 12/12/06 and Addison 12/12/08
  • Totally understand! My son is 4 years old and misses cutoff by 8 days for public school. He was going to repeat his 4 year old preschool/daycare but it's 7,000 year. We actually looked at small catholic school we are not catholic and its 2100 year. He will do one year at private and repeat in public school for kindergarten next year. I am not sure if something like this would be available to you?
  • Some schools will allow you to test for early entrance.  My home district has a strict no early entrance rule but we open enroll to a district that allows Sept bdays only to enroll (Sept 1 cut off).  I personally would never enroll my child early but I know 2 kids that have and are just finishing 1st grade now and doing fine.  My concerns center more around the teen years.  Anyway, call the district but also look into PreK programs and other programs that are geared for kids who miss the deadline or are ready for something more than basic preschool but not yet at kindergarten due to age or readiness.  My kids both did an amazing PreK program at the elementary school.
    Jenni Mom to DD#1 - 6-16-06 DD#2 - 3-13-08 
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