really Mom?!?

michaelaskedlauren

This past weekend was my sister's wedding. Our nanny came with us since the wedding was out of town and DS was the ring bearer. I absolutely adore my nanny and know that I am so lucky to have found her. At the rehearsal dinner my Mom leaned over to her and said "You are really doing such a great job of raising DS." She said that TO THE NANNY. Really Mom?!?! WTF!! I am the Mom, I am the one who is raising my son. I know that she didnt mean anything by it, and I wasnt about to make a stink given it was my sister's weekend, but REALLY?! I dont want to mention it to DH since itll just piss him off, but I needed to get it off my chest. Blergh. /rant.

Virgo17

Ewww, what a weird thing to say.  She could have just said "You are really doing such a great job of taking care of DS".

I wouldn't have told my DH either, sometimes those things just add fuel to the fire...

Maebb

Sorry. My mom says passive aggressive stuff like that, and it drives me crazy. When I told her I planned to go back to work after the baby, she said, "You're not going to let daycare raise your baby, are you?" And judging by her expression and tone of voice, she might as well have said, "You're not going to let Satan raise your baby, are you?"

Anyway, maybe your mom has the best of intentions, but I can certainly empathize with you. My response is to smile and explain that DH and I are very happy about the way we've decided to raise DS, and we're doing what we believe is best for our family.

cecilyandgautam

Your nanny was probably really creeped out. 

michaelaskedlauren

Yeah. I could sense that it made her a little uncomfortable, but I dont think my Mom meant it the way it sounded. She just obviously needed to choose her words better. Im not going to say anything to her since the moment has come and gone, but I knew that you ladies would share in my uber irritation at her comment.

sugarbear0524

Was the nanny a guest? Or working? I guess I don't understand, not having a nanny myself, why she would be there in a work capacity. In my mind, a nanny takes care of the kids when their parents are working. Not at family social events. If the nanny was a guest at the wedding, that's totally different.

RachieTK

sugarbear0524:

Was the nanny a guest? Or working? I guess I don't understand, not having a nanny myself, why she would be there in a work capacity. In my mind, a nanny takes care of the kids when their parents are working. Not at family social events. If the nanny was a guest at the wedding, that's totally different.

What does that have to do with the comment that was made?

Comment= mom wasn't thinking about word choice... I hope!

DaisyJanie

sugarbear0524:

Was the nanny a guest? Or working? I guess I don't understand, not having a nanny myself, why she would be there in a work capacity. In my mind, a nanny takes care of the kids when their parents are working. Not at family social events. If the nanny was a guest at the wedding, that's totally different.

I'm going to leap to the assumption that the nanny came because the reception was happening after LO's bedtime, so nanny would take him to the hotel after the wedding and the OP & husband could have a good time at her sister's wedding reception. I fail to see what that has to do with the mom's rude comment, though. 

michaelaskedlauren

Nothing really more to it. It was just a crappy comment. As I said earlier, I just needed to share my frustrations with someone about the comment since I knew telling DH would just piss him off, and most of my friends couldnt relate.

And DaisyJane had it exactly right. My sister's wedding was an evening affair, so the nanny came to the wedding so she could bring DS back to the hotel once he hit his "wall", allowing me and my husband to stay at the reception and enjoy ourselves.