ahead of myself, but still terrified!

ArmyWife0623

since i frequently lurk here when not on ttgp, i figured i would ask this question here first, being a newbie and all. i know im obviously getting way ahead of myself here, but since this TTC for #1 i have no idea what to expect, i mean i know what to expect but i know my anxiety/being terrified is going to do a number on me! obviously,  i want nothing more than to get a bfp, and experience every aspect of pregnancy. and i know i will be truly blessed to experience childbirth/labor, but all the while i am terrified of the actual childbirth/labor! i am terrified to the point that i'd consider it a phobia! lol, is there anyone else that feels the same way?? terrified of the actual birth/labor?

kcisthebombdotcom

Yep, that fear is pretty common. Then if you decide to have more kids you get terrified of labor/delivery again plus the fear of how will you manage 2 (or more) kids, etc. then when you have kids everything they do ( or don't do), every illness, etc terrifies you. Consider your fear good preparation for your future life with kids. Lol. 

salt78

I think a lot of people feel/have felt that way. Just think of it this way...it's just such a small part of the whole process you go through to become a parent. You (hopefully) only have to deal with it for a day. You will likely be surrounded by professionals who do this sort of thing all the time.

There are great pain management options available if that's what you are worried about. I had the best epidural of all time and my labor was completely boring. I sat around watching a Cupcake Wars marathon, talking to my family and texting with friends. In the end I had to have a c-section because my DD's head got stuck, but even that wasn't even such a big deal. It didn't hurt and while I was in some pain for a few days after I don't remember any of that now.

Sure unplanned things can happen, but unplanned things can happen at any time of the day anyway. I think it's best to just go in with a very open mind, a very flexible plan, and remind yourself that you CAN do it and that it's just such a small piece of time you need to get through in order to have your child.

And then as PPs said, the baby will be here and you will have a whole new set of worries.

 

 

Mommy2Boys09

KC_13:

Yep, that fear is pretty common. Then if you decide to have more kids you get terrified of labor/delivery again plus the fear of how will you manage 2 (or more) kids, etc. then when you have kids everything they do ( or don't do), every illness, etc terrifies you. Consider your fear good preparation for your future life with kids. Lol. 

 

This! I've gave birth twice and because neither went the way I wanted them too I'm still scared when I think of doing it again. Plus the thought (in my case) of having 3 kids! I believe my youngest may be sick now and I'm worried to death because he can't tell me whats wrong. He's been cuddling me the past hour when he normally wakes his older brother so they can play. 

meowsm

I suffer from panic disorder and had several attacks when I was pregnant with DS because I was so afraid of labor and delivery. Turns out, all that goes away when it is actually happening. It's like your body goes into this mode where you are completely focused on what you have to do and nothing else matters. I remember getting out of the shower and something about my vision changed. I called my mom and told her I felt weird and she came to stay with me. I went into labor 2 days later. Honestly, labor/delivery are extremely relieving! You spend ten months barfing, being fat, not being able to breathe, getting kicked in the ribs and waddling around on the verge of peeing your pants daily. To me, labor was like getting my body and my life back! Obviously it was painful and scary, but you will feel like superwoman after youve been through it.