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bigbootyjudi
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Do you tattle?
bigbootyjudi
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Man, I'm tempted as all hell.
A co-worker of mine is 23. She just had gastric bypass surgery. She found a doctor who wouldn't make her diet and exercise before giving her the surgery option because she just "knew she wouldn't do it." So, whatever, do what you need to do.
We had an insane day at work yesterday. We launched a new system, sh!t was crazy. She was hardly awake, saying how she hadn't eaten in 4 days (she's like 3 months post-op), a co-worker had to catch her when she almost 'fell,' said she had to go to the ER...so, my boss let her leave, leaving us each with 12+ patients on a day we didn't even know how to use the system.
Later on that night, I get on FB and there she is, at a party posting picture after picture. I thought maybe they were old, but then, she comments, "Tonight was crazy. So-and-so, we're up here now, you should come up," at 2am, when she's FB friends with almost everyone we work with.
So, DS and SO are pathetically sick. I woke up congested. DS won't nap because he can't stop coughing. I call to see if I can get a personal day (which I NEVER ask for, this girl went on an 8 week medical, got back 3-4 weeks ago, and has gone home at least 5 hours early 5-6 times and only works 6 days every 2 weeks!), and I get a big fat NOPE.
I'm so tempted to tattle on her. I know that's immature, but it pisses me off SO bad. I worked short last night, then probably again tonight (she forewarned all of us that if she 'wasn't feeling good' she wasn't coming in - probably not since she just got to the club at 2am...), and I have to go into work sick, leaving SO and DS at home sick, because.....why?
WWYD? Just be secretly pissed at her? Probably. But I'm livid.
ETA: If we call off on the weekends, we have to make it up the next weekend day we have off. The next weekend day I have off is SO's first Father's Day, which I requested off because we have (paid for) plans.
ETA2: Sorry this is tl;dr. We get off at 11:30pm, she left at 6:30pm, so it's not like she had the entire day to 're-coop' before she went out.
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Re: Do you tattle?
I totally agree with you that this is not right. If it were me, I probably wouldn't come right out and say co-irker is doing x,y, and z when she leaves early. I would probably be a little more passive agressive and tell my supervisior to take a look at the pictures co- irker posted on FB. Maybe she know already , maybe she doesn't. But if your co-irker is leaving every body else with her work, and you can't get a day to take care of your family because they are sick, maybe they can find another person more motivated to have a job and do it.
Sorry for your work situation. They are called co-IRKERS for a reason.
She purposely found a doctor that wouldn't make her do anything beforehand. That's what she blames all of her "I need to go home" stories on, "Oh, this surgery. I should've went to a better doctor. I think he did something wrong." Etc, etc.
We're friends and I think that's what's really pissing me off. I brought in a fruit salad for her because her birthday is next week, I won't be there, and she can't have cake - so it's not like we've ever been on bad terms. This is the second time she's been caught at a party on a day she asked to go home early though.
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I don't think its tattling. She presumably faked an illness so she could go out and get smashed at a club. If she's stupid enough to post on FB, that's on her. She sounds like she's really immature for 23.
I understand the urge, and it was crappy of them to decline your personal day. But as a manager, I feel this would reflect badly on you.
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Age isn't an excuse for being a twat, IMO. I'm 24 and the last time I called into work was January of 2012. I've been paying my own bills, living on my own, etc. since I was 18. At 23, you've been an adult (and a mom, in her case) for quite awhile, you should have it together.
Kira & CT, I talked to her and let her know that it was a sh!tty move on her part. She said, "Well, it's my birthday Monday, so you guys should have known I wouldn't be there anyways. Sorry, but it's not my problem we don't have staff!"
I ended up calling the union about this whole making up a day thing and since I haven't called off in so long, she said it won't be a problem. So, I called off. Then, my mom called me to tell me that my sister was admitted to the hospital and having emergency surgery...so it's a good thing I did.
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Huh. Maybe. It's been a while since I was 23 so maybe my memory is skewed. Either way, it's douchey and totally unprofessional .
That's a tough one. I agree that 23 is too old for that sh!t, especially when you have kids. I would maybe casually ask my supervisor under what circumstances they would want to know about this kind of thing. Of course, I say that here, but IRL, I'd probably fume in silence on that front.
Major side-eye to her response when you confronted her. F'ucked up attitude. I never friend coworkers on FB. It's like a rule.
In a way, your coworker is right: It ISN'T her problem if you're working short staffed. That's a management issue. It also shouldn't be your problem if someone is abusing the system; you shouldn't have to police your coworkers. And let's assume for a second she really was sick and you had a personal emergency ... what then? This is your boss's problem.
It's good that you had recourse with the union and, again, hope everyone in your family is good as new soon.
She's a nervous wreck, poor girl. She's the baby, never been in the hospital, and she's only 19. She had some stomach pains last night, my mom took her in, and they decided on 'emergency' gall bladder removal because it was 3x the size it should be due to a blocked duct. Then, the doctor decided to do another cat scan to see if he had to do the surgery tonight or if it could wait until the morning (so he could go home and have dinner? I don't even know WTH this was about...). I wasn't there when that happened, my timid mom and sister were, didn't say anything, she went for the scan, he said it can wait until tomorrow.
They'll let her know what time her surgery is after midnight. I think she's underestimating what this is really going to be like. I bought her some feminine wipes because this is the hospital I work at, so I know she's going to be on strict bedrest until the anesthesia wears off (2-3 hours), but she'll be getting fluids, so she'll need to use the bedpan. When I told her I brought them for her, she was like, "FOR WHAT?! I HAVE TO DO WHAT?!" Lol. Welcome to reality, babygirl.
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This happens at my job on a regular basis.
We have people who say they "can't work" their regular scheduled shift for whatever reason, and end up working another day, only to find out they were at the bar.
Once, a coworker sent an email out asking people to cover for own of her shifts. No one could, so she just called out. It was my on call day, so I ended up having to work. She wanted it off to go golfing. She ended up posting pictures of her self on the back of a golf cart, drinking a beer. I was so livid.
On Easter, another coworker had sent an email out asking for someone to cover her shift. When everyone was like "It's Easter, no way." She called out.
One girl posted pictures of her out partying and all the drinks she was drinking and then called out like 2 hours later for day shift because of a migraine. It's called a hang over.
Nothing rarely gets done, so everyone just kind of stopped tattling, even though something should.
What makes me more mad than anything is when I was out for a weekend after a D&C from a miscarriage and posted one pic of DS hunting Easter eggs. I wasn't in it, for all they know I wasn't even there, and I got called in the office, because apparently two seperate people complained that I had called out on a holiday weekend and then posted "fun Easter pics". No one had to cover for me, we were a full shift, and the people who complained, wouldn't have even been the people who had to come in. Anyways... it just aggravates me to no end.
To answer your question - I don't think I would, but if you think something would actually get done, then I maybe would. Do people normally get talked to for something like that?