When do you stop trying?

axidnqc

Five years, one son, one on the way and tired of trying to make it work. We are both clearly done with each other. Good days turn bad; bad days turn ugly. I tried and I was lied to. He was cheating and I'm still trying to make things cordial. I'm tired of trying alone. Problem is we live together and I need the financial help. What to do?

tracy41

I found that when I knew I had done all I personally could to do make it work I was done. When you're ready you'll find a way. Good luck.

Nokkouttmomma

Like PP said, you'll know when you're done. For me it took my ex moving across the country with his ex girlfriend.

When you're ready to let go you won't have to ask anyone for advice.

Best of luck.

inthelost

when you've done everything you could possibly do and nothing changes, that's when. it takes two to make a relationship work.

oswansongo

As PPs have said, you can only do so much on your own before you need to realize that it takes two people for a relationship to work.

I stayed with my ex-husband longer than I should, because I thought there was no way I would be able to be a parent on my own... it's been a little over a year and a half now, and I've been able to. You can do this, but you do need to make sure you're willing to walk away (possibly for good).

 

All the best.

tanner921

Going through that is difficult, I can't imagine doing it while pregnant.  For me, it took my ex-husband to tell me he was unhappy in our marriage.  I had been unhappy for some time, but believed enough in the institution of marriage to carry on.  As soon as I heard his words, I was able to let go.  You can't stay in a marriage of one and carry all the weight.  As PP said, you will know when the time is right to make the move.  And you won't look back.

That was 2 1/2 years ago~left the 1 person marriage only to be 11 weeks pregnant today and have the babies Dad also step away.  I didn't want to have a child as a single parent...but the strength and growth my past gave me has helped me in my present.  Best of luck to you and your little family. 

Hold your head high and know the path may not yet be determined but it WILL work out.  Best of Luck to you!