We moved into a new 2 story house a few months ago. DD used to be a good sleeper, but since moving has started waking up 2-3 times a night. She says she's scared upstairs, wants someone to pat her back for a minute, etc. It never takes more than a few minutes to get her back to sleep, but I admit it is a huge PITA going up and down the stairs. I usually am the one to go to her, but sometimes if I'm too exhausted or if I've already been up there once I'll ask DH to go to her. And every.single.time he comes back down stairs with her and lets her sleep with us. It would be one thing if it was 5:00 in the morning, but we're talking 11:00, 12:00, 1:00 so she ends up in bed with us most of the night. I absolutely hate it because she is always all OVER me so I can't sleep. I typically end up finding another bed in another room. He knows how much I hate it, but keeps doing it. So last night he did it again and I said "Ok really? So either I get up with her every single time, every single night, or she ends up in our bed and I have to sleep somewhere else?" He said "Yep pretty much. She'll probably just be up again in another couple hours, and I'm not going up there again." I'm just really irritated that 1. he's completely disregarding my feelings on this, and 2. I feel like he's just reinforcing her waking up. She loves sleeping in our bed, so why wouldn't she keep waking up in hopes that he'll go up there and just let her sleep with us? Do I have a right to be annoyed? WWYD?
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Re: Annoyed with DH
I keep telling myself I'll just have to do it. The problem is I already struggle with my own sleep issues. And it's killing me because it never fails that by the time I finally get to sleep, she is waking me up. It's maddening to lay there for hours and then finally start to drift off, only to hear "Moommmmmyyyyy!!"
Thanks, you worded it well. I feel extremely disrespected and he's showing blatant disregard for my feelings. He does this often with many issues, and I'm so tired of getting the "So how long are you gonna be mad about this?" line. He makes me feel like any issue that I'm upset over is just petty and ridiculous.
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Yeah, I would do this out of sheer laziness. Getting out of bed is annoying as is, I can't imagine having to go up and down stairs all night. Since you mentioned there are other beds, could you potentially relocate your kid to your floor for a while or is everything upstairs? Maybe if she was on the same level she wouldn't be as scared and would sleep better?
I agree with all this. I wouldn't be regularly getting up with a 4 year old multiple times overnight. DS wakes up some nights and we go to him but if it was almost every night, no. And also, we stop going to him when we know we're being played because some nights it just keeps happening because he's bored or just can't sleep. Tough noogies, harsh as it may sound.
I agree, she's definitely too old to be doing this. Like I said, she used to be an awesome sleeper until we moved. She's never done well with change, so I knew moving to a new house would totally throw her off. Which it has. We've done numerous things...a fish tank with a dim light that stays on all night as her night light. She has a couple of stuffed animals she's attached to that she sleeps with. Also a dream lite that she really wanted, so she could turn the light on if she got scared. To be honest I blame DH with the whole back-rubbing habit. When we first moved into this house, she gave us some difficulty with going to sleep at bedtime. DH is the one that puts her to bed, and realized it was so quick and easy to rub her back for 5-10mins and poof she was out. No dealing with bedtime battles or fears, she was asleep and it was done. But I think she's become reliant on it and now wakes up needing/wanting it. That's part of what annoys the crap out of me in this situation, because I feel like he helped create this monster.
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Why do you have seperate beds? Are you in seperate rooms as well?
My parents always had seperate rooms.