I think BM is having ex parte communications with officers of the court. Two examples stand out that give it away.
A couple of years ago, BM was supposed to do something ordered by the court. She hadn't so we called the court to ask if we file a motion or contempt or both. They transferred us to Self Help to get the necessary paperwork which arrived a week later. But 2 days after we called the court, BM suddenly emailed DH out of the blue an update on what she was ordered to do, after almost a year after being ordered to do it.
The second big example was a couple of weeks ago. We had a hearing on Monday, May 6 and Saturday, May 11 she was talking to DH and said things that were in the court order dated May 22. The things she said were word for word what was in the court order.
The latest court order was not favorable for one thing ($) to my DH. Previously it had been ordered that they pay half and half of something. This had never come up in court but it was suddenly in the court order that DH had to pay all of it. It was never even requested by BM in court though!
Do you think it is possible she has a friend that works there and is supplying her with information behind our backs? If so, how do you think we prove it without pissing off the hearing officer? Should we contact the judge and ask for a subpoena of phone and email records of the hearing officers staff between BM and them? I am just lost. But I might also be acting paranoid. Ahhhh