We are trying to move about 40 minutes away from where we are now (better public schools - we will apply the money I pay in tuition for private school to a PT nanny for after school). I currently live on the same street as my sister (20 years my senior, with two adult children who live at home and totally take advantage of her) and two streets from my parents.
The FFFC is - I am sort of excited to be moving away from family. The nanny will be at my house, I can watch the girls walk home from the elementary school if we get the house we put an offer in on in April (still negotiating repairs UGH) and I can avoid any drama. Right now, my sister and neice say they will "help with the kids" but never show up when they say they will so I never get to do anything I plan - you know, things like DD comes home from school and mentions at 7 PM that she needs XYZ - tomorrow. I cannot wake DS to run out, and have to work the next day. Then they get upset when I make other arrangements or complain about needing help because DH is out of town. I think it will be nice to be away from the drama!
We have three weddings coming up - two are H's side of the family and we don't see them often. H has a big belly - he has gained weight and really has no desire to exercise or make any changes to rid himself of said belly. I really don't care - it doesn't change what I feel/think of him - I still find him sexy and I"m incredibly attracted to him. The issue is that for the weddings he basically wants to find a spanx shirt for men - to compress his belly so he doesn't look as big. I am actually really annoyed by this. Why doesn't he want to look better for me (not that I want/need him to) but why is looking better for other people rated as more important than for me?
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Sapphire I totally get it! DH and I actually had a lunch date last week - we planned this. I wore a cute dress. We never, ever get dates. He wore shorts and a button down with flip flops - typical casual summer attire. That evening he was going to a concert for his daughter. He was going to shave, shower and wear slacks and a shirt and put in his contacts! I asked him why on earth he was going to do that when he had a DATE with his WIFE and was just going to sit in a dark auditorium alone for an hour?
Sapphire I totally get it! DH and I actually had a lunch date last week - we planned this. I wore a cute dress. We never, ever get dates. He wore shorts and a button down with flip flops - typical casual summer attire. That evening he was going to a concert for his daughter. He was going to shave, shower and wear slacks and a shirt and put in his contacts! I asked him why on earth he was going to do that when he had a DATE with his WIFE and was just going to sit in a dark auditorium alone for an hour?
Yep. He dresses nicely day to day - either a nice polo or a nice button up short sleeve and does his hair, etc. and usually wears nice jeans. But sometimes he just doesn't think! He used to dress like a slob and I finally commented on it. I said why do you dress like that? He dressed nice when we started dating, then dressed like a bum for awhile and when I said something he did change and started dressing nice again.
He knows he needs to lose weight, he doesn't need me telling him that but it is frustrating that he doesn't think about me - he wants to look nice for others. It's like when he compliments me on a shirt or hair or something I do it more since I know he likes it. Guess we just don't think the same!
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My H seriously needs to buy new clothes.
I nag him about it frequently. He says his clothes are fine.
It's getting ridiculous, because then when he wants to wear something nice he says he needs new clothes, and my response is always "i told you so"
When people run every single detail by their pedi. I was browing another board - I think it was baby forums? Anyway, there was a comment about a woman moving her child to a toddler bed and everyone disagreed and said it was too soon and she replied and said she would ask her pediatrician. I guess I'm of the mind set that I will ask her medical questions but parenting questions are our choices to make.
I guess some people doubt their instincts so they want the validation from a pedi and I get it - some do it to be safer, etc. but I think a line needs to be drawn. Some of these are parenting questions that are specific to family, etc. and I don't think pedis are the best ones to make the choice in that situation.
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This might get some debate going:When people run every single detail by their pedi. nbsp;I was browing another board I think it was baby forums? nbsp;Anyway, there was a comment about a woman moving her child to a toddler bed and everyone disagreed and said it was too soon and she replied and said she would ask her pediatrician. nbsp;I guess I'm of the mind set that I will ask her medical questions but parenting questions are our choices to make. nbsp;I guess some people doubt their instincts so they want the validation from a pedi and I get it some do it to be safer, etc. but I think a line needs to be drawn. nbsp;Some of these are parenting questions that are specific to family, etc. and I don't think pedis are the best ones to make the choice in that situation. nbsp;
I totally agree though.
My first ped had a couple of ideas that I didn't listen to and did my own thing
I have a friend that I love dearly but who absolutely drives me crazy. She spends ridiculous amounts of money on diaper bags and wallets to go in diaper bags etc.. I swear she texts me every week with some new diaper bag and accessory that she's purchased, then she keeps complaining about how she has no money and she keeps having to find ways to pay off her credit card bill.
I swear she has like 7 or 8 diaper bags, and they're all jujube or petunia pickle bottom, so it's not like they're 'affordable' bags.
That's beyond the point though... Who the eff needs 8 diaper bags!??? She only has two children.
I have two diaper bags, and that's only because the first one ripped so we keep it in the car in case we forget the other diaper bag.
I have three tattoos, and want more, but totally judge the hell out of people with full or partial sleeves or tons of visible tattoos. My good friend has 18 (or more, not sure now!) and they are all hidden when she is dressed for work (polo, pants/shorts and sneakers). They can be tasteful, and do not have to cover every inch of your body.
Not only are you hurting your career prospects in many fields (right or wrong, it is the truth) but you are going to look like an idiot when you get to a certain age/physical condition.
When people run every single detail by their pedi. I was browing another board - I think it was baby forums? Anyway, there was a comment about a woman moving her child to a toddler bed and everyone disagreed and said it was too soon and she replied and said she would ask her pediatrician. I guess I'm of the mind set that I will ask her medical questions but parenting questions are our choices to make.
I guess some people doubt their instincts so they want the validation from a pedi and I get it - some do it to be safer, etc. but I think a line needs to be drawn. Some of these are parenting questions that are specific to family, etc. and I don't think pedis are the best ones to make the choice in that situation.
I agree with this. I do ask my pediatrician questions, but I sometimes feel like I trust my own instincts more than other people on tb seem to (not so much this board, but others I've noticed). I'm not saying I just solve my own medical problems without consulting a doctor, but for something like a toddler bed transition I would definitely just do some research and figure it out myself.
When people run every single detail by their pedi. I was browing another board - I think it was baby forums? Anyway, there was a comment about a woman moving her child to a toddler bed and everyone disagreed and said it was too soon and she replied and said she would ask her pediatrician. I guess I'm of the mind set that I will ask her medical questions but parenting questions are our choices to make.
I guess some people doubt their instincts so they want the validation from a pedi and I get it - some do it to be safer, etc. but I think a line needs to be drawn. Some of these are parenting questions that are specific to family, etc. and I don't think pedis are the best ones to make the choice in that situation.
i would say yes and no to this. If you have strong gut feel about something by all means do what you think is right. But asking your doc for advice is not bad per se, probably better than asking a bunch of strangers on an internet forum... Most peds are parents themselves so they can share some insight. Plus they deal with dozens of parents and kids daily so they usually have a wealth of info on how things worked out for others...
What I personally find ridiculous is said strangers on these forums trash talking medical professionals in general, stating that they are stupid, uneducated or unprepared to give advice about health and general child health and raising matters... From breast feeding to vaccination issues to whatever....
When people run every single detail by their pedi. I was browing another board - I think it was baby forums? Anyway, there was a comment about a woman moving her child to a toddler bed and everyone disagreed and said it was too soon and she replied and said she would ask her pediatrician. I guess I'm of the mind set that I will ask her medical questions but parenting questions are our choices to make.
I guess some people doubt their instincts so they want the validation from a pedi and I get it - some do it to be safer, etc. but I think a line needs to be drawn. Some of these are parenting questions that are specific to family, etc. and I don't think pedis are the best ones to make the choice in that situation.
i would say yes and no to this. If you have strong gut feel about something by all means do what you think is right. But asking your doc for advice is not bad per se, probably better than asking a bunch of strangers on an internet forum... Most peds are parents themselves so they can share some insight. Plus they deal with dozens of parents and kids daily so they usually have a wealth of info on how things worked out for others...
What I personally find ridiculous is said strangers on these forums trash talking medical professionals in general, stating that they are stupid, uneducated or unprepared to give advice about health and general child health and raising matters... From breast feeding to vaccination issues to whatever....
Did I miss something? I don't ever remember anyone trash talking their peds on this board?
My 4 yr old knows how to turn on the Wii and play whatever game he wants. If DD is taking a nap and I want some me time or to get something done around the house I let him play it until Im done. He's the type that wants to be entertained and sometimes I just don't have the energy or time. Flame me all you want but Im ok with it.
Regardless of how often I bleach my bathroom floor or wash the rugs, when it's hot and humid, my bathroom always smells like pee.... and seeing as i go to the bathroom sitting DOWN, I can only come to one conclusion here.... :X
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When people run every single detail by their pedi. I was browing another board - I think it was baby forums? Anyway, there was a comment about a woman moving her child to a toddler bed and everyone disagreed and said it was too soon and she replied and said she would ask her pediatrician. I guess I'm of the mind set that I will ask her medical questions but parenting questions are our choices to make.
I guess some people doubt their instincts so they want the validation from a pedi and I get it - some do it to be safer, etc. but I think a line needs to be drawn. Some of these are parenting questions that are specific to family, etc. and I don't think pedis are the best ones to make the choice in that situation.
i would say yes and no to this. If you have strong gut feel about something by all means do what you think is right. But asking your doc for advice is not bad per se, probably better than asking a bunch of strangers on an internet forum... Most peds are parents themselves so they can share some insight. Plus they deal with dozens of parents and kids daily so they usually have a wealth of info on how things worked out for others...
What I personally find ridiculous is said strangers on these forums trash talking medical professionals in general, stating that they are stupid, uneducated or unprepared to give advice about health and general child health and raising matters... From breast feeding to vaccination issues to whatever....
I don't know who was talking trash about medical professionals. I simply stated that someone that asks their pedi about every thing is someone that is denying their instinct or not realizing they have one. Nobody knows your child better than you do.
My cousin quit breastfeeding her daughter at 12 months because the pedi said it was time. She didn't trust her instinct or her desire to continue nursing and now she regrets stopping when she did. The doctor said she needed to eat more solids and gain more weight, but she is now at less than 5% - lower than she was when she was also nursing. My cousin thought she was teething and that was why she didn't eat well for those two weeks but the pedi said it was due to nursing "too long". A week after she weaned her - 4 teeth came through at once (her molars).
She knew her daughter but listened to her pedi and wishes she had followed instinct. Those are the kinds of situations I am talking about. My pedi would recommend my son be in a crib not a toddler bed - but he is great in his bed and calls for me when he wakes up. He doesn't even get out. I don't like the tent things to keep them in when they try to crawl over - they don't look safe to me. So it was right for our family to transition to a toddler bed. These are the situations I am referring to.
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Regardless of how often I bleach my bathroom floor or wash the rugs, when it's hot and humid, my bathroom always smells like pee.... and seeing as i go to the bathroom sitting DOWN, I can only come to one conclusion here.... :X
This is DH's bathroom! I cannot get the smell to go away! If we owned the house, I would replace everything in that room starting with the toilet.
Yeah, we rent too.... the tenant before we moved in left the toilet running for days and it soaked the bathroom floor (which has never been replaced, classy place, I tell ya)... so I think that has a lot to do it, too. UGH!
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On the topic of peeing...This is total new mom ignorance, but I can't figure out how potty training my little boy will work. I bought a potty and have let him sit on it naked, but his penis is pointing up. How does this thing work?
Another more FFC type confession...With my pregnancy with C I was super strict by-the-book. This time around I'm drinking coffee and/or soda and I just ate a *gasp* cold cut sub.
I feel bad when I think about it because it seems like I care less about this baby than C. I'm just TIRED and HUNGRY and with a toddler my options are super limited.
On the topic of peeing...This is total new mom ignorance, but I can't figure out how potty training my little boy will work. I bought a potty and have let him sit on it naked, but his penis is pointing up. How does this thing work?
Another more FFC type confession...With my pregnancy with C I was super strict by-the-book. This time around I'm drinking coffee and/or soda and I just ate a *gasp* cold cut sub.
I feel bad when I think about it because it seems like I care less about this baby than C. I'm just TIRED and HUNGRY and with a toddler my options are super limited.
I ate turkey sandwiches all the time when I was pregnant with Caroline. I also drank a dr pepper everyday. All I ever wanted to eat was turkey or pbj sandwiches. My older sister was very by the book with the first and not so much with the 2nd. She said that once she started having to chase a toddler around the book went out the window. It's not that you care less it's just you have less energy because you have another baby.
I am so tired of people (doctors) using PCOS as a fertility death sentence. The BFP post above reminded me of it. Is it harder to get pregnant with PCOS, yes. Impossible, no. Can there be contributing factors that make it even harder. Of course!
And before you jump all over this, yes, I have PCOS. The two doctors who diagnosed it both said "textbook" when refering to my ultrasounds/tests/etc. It took us over a year of trying before I got a BFP. But seriously, I have seen one too many posts that are along the lines of, "poor me, I have PCOS and can't have a baby." It is possible, you just have to work harder and longer at it.
I'm sure we have a lot of PCOS veterans on this board...some got pregnant without IF treatment, some with, some were surprised, some were shocked. Regardless, it isn't a reproductive dead end.
On the topic of peeing...This is total new mom ignorance, but I can't figure out how potty training my little boy will work. I bought a potty and have let him sit on it naked, but his penis is pointing up. How does this thing work? Another more FFC type confession...With my pregnancy with C I was super strict bythebook. This time around I'm drinking coffee and/or soda and I just ate a gasp cold cut sub.nbsp;I feel bad when I think about it because it seems like I care less about this baby than C. I'm just TIRED and HUNGRY and with a toddler my options are super limited.
With my nephew, my sister pointed his penis down until he knew to hold it down himself. Then he eventually stood to pee.
On the topic of peeing...This is total new mom ignorance, but I can't figure out how potty training my little boy will work. I bought a potty and have let him sit on it naked, but his penis is pointing up. How does this thing work?
Potty training my 3 year old right now. You just tell him and remind remind REMIND! him to point it down! They figure it out. Also if you are sitting on the floor while he is on the regard toilet, you will be sure to tell him to point it down because that thing is right there pointing at you otherwise!
I have another one - it has been plaguing me and I could not bring myself to post it as it is really bothering me.
Yesterday while visitng my Dad at the nursing home (he is there as a "reprieve" to give my mom a few days break) with DS, Daddy needed diaper help and accidentally missed the potty. I was cleaning him up and DS fell face first into the metal old school hospital bed and got his first bloody nose. When DS woke up this morning it had bled again overnight. I was alternating between my Dad and DS so the bloody nose lasted longer than it probably needed to, but then again, how in the heck would I have gotten DS to sit still and put his head back anyway? UGH.
On the topic of peeing...This is total new mom ignorance, but I can't figure out how potty training my little boy will work. I bought a potty and have let him sit on it naked, but his penis is pointing up. How does this thing work?
Another more FFC type confession...With my pregnancy with C I was super strict by-the-book. This time around I'm drinking coffee and/or soda and I just ate a *gasp* cold cut sub.
I feel bad when I think about it because it seems like I care less about this baby than C. I'm just TIRED and HUNGRY and with a toddler my options are super limited.
I drank a pepsi everyday with A and ate a cold cut at least once a week. I ate a couple beef hot dogs too. I'm doing the same with this pregnancy.
It drove my sister nuts. She went completely by the book with both of her pregnancies.
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We are trying to move about 40 minutes away from where we are now (better public schools - we will apply the money I pay in tuition for private school to a PT nanny for after school). I currently live on the same street as my sister (20 years my senior, with two adult children who live at home and totally take advantage of her) and two streets from my parents.
The FFFC is - I am sort of excited to be moving away from family. The nanny will be at my house, I can watch the girls walk home from the elementary school if we get the house we put an offer in on in April (still negotiating repairs UGH) and I can avoid any drama. Right now, my sister and neice say they will "help with the kids" but never show up when they say they will so I never get to do anything I plan - you know, things like DD comes home from school and mentions at 7 PM that she needs XYZ - tomorrow. I cannot wake DS to run out, and have to work the next day. Then they get upset when I make other arrangements or complain about needing help because DH is out of town. I think it will be nice to be away from the drama!
Yep. He dresses nicely day to day - either a nice polo or a nice button up short sleeve and does his hair, etc. and usually wears nice jeans. But sometimes he just doesn't think! He used to dress like a slob and I finally commented on it. I said why do you dress like that? He dressed nice when we started dating, then dressed like a bum for awhile and when I said something he did change and started dressing nice again.
He knows he needs to lose weight, he doesn't need me telling him that but it is frustrating that he doesn't think about me - he wants to look nice for others. It's like when he compliments me on a shirt or hair or something I do it more since I know he likes it. Guess we just don't think the same!
I nag him about it frequently. He says his clothes are fine.
It's getting ridiculous, because then when he wants to wear something nice he says he needs new clothes, and my response is always "i told you so"
This might get some debate going:
When people run every single detail by their pedi. I was browing another board - I think it was baby forums? Anyway, there was a comment about a woman moving her child to a toddler bed and everyone disagreed and said it was too soon and she replied and said she would ask her pediatrician. I guess I'm of the mind set that I will ask her medical questions but parenting questions are our choices to make.
I guess some people doubt their instincts so they want the validation from a pedi and I get it - some do it to be safer, etc. but I think a line needs to be drawn. Some of these are parenting questions that are specific to family, etc. and I don't think pedis are the best ones to make the choice in that situation.
I totally agree though.
My first ped had a couple of ideas that I didn't listen to and did my own thing
I have a friend that I love dearly but who absolutely drives me crazy. She spends ridiculous amounts of money on diaper bags and wallets to go in diaper bags etc.. I swear she texts me every week with some new diaper bag and accessory that she's purchased, then she keeps complaining about how she has no money and she keeps having to find ways to pay off her credit card bill.
I swear she has like 7 or 8 diaper bags, and they're all jujube or petunia pickle bottom, so it's not like they're 'affordable' bags.
That's beyond the point though... Who the eff needs 8 diaper bags!??? She only has two children.
I have two diaper bags, and that's only because the first one ripped so we keep it in the car in case we forget the other diaper bag.
I have three tattoos, and want more, but totally judge the hell out of people with full or partial sleeves or tons of visible tattoos. My good friend has 18 (or more, not sure now!) and they are all hidden when she is dressed for work (polo, pants/shorts and sneakers). They can be tasteful, and do not have to cover every inch of your body.
Not only are you hurting your career prospects in many fields (right or wrong, it is the truth) but you are going to look like an idiot when you get to a certain age/physical condition.
Whew...feels good to get that out.
I agree with this. I do ask my pediatrician questions, but I sometimes feel like I trust my own instincts more than other people on tb seem to (not so much this board, but others I've noticed). I'm not saying I just solve my own medical problems without consulting a doctor, but for something like a toddler bed transition I would definitely just do some research and figure it out myself.
i would say yes and no to this. If you have strong gut feel about something by all means do what you think is right. But asking your doc for advice is not bad per se, probably better than asking a bunch of strangers on an internet forum... Most peds are parents themselves so they can share some insight. Plus they deal with dozens of parents and kids daily so they usually have a wealth of info on how things worked out for others...
What I personally find ridiculous is said strangers on these forums trash talking medical professionals in general, stating that they are stupid, uneducated or unprepared to give advice about health and general child health and raising matters... From breast feeding to vaccination issues to whatever....
I don't know who was talking trash about medical professionals. I simply stated that someone that asks their pedi about every thing is someone that is denying their instinct or not realizing they have one. Nobody knows your child better than you do.
My cousin quit breastfeeding her daughter at 12 months because the pedi said it was time. She didn't trust her instinct or her desire to continue nursing and now she regrets stopping when she did. The doctor said she needed to eat more solids and gain more weight, but she is now at less than 5% - lower than she was when she was also nursing. My cousin thought she was teething and that was why she didn't eat well for those two weeks but the pedi said it was due to nursing "too long". A week after she weaned her - 4 teeth came through at once (her molars).
She knew her daughter but listened to her pedi and wishes she had followed instinct. Those are the kinds of situations I am talking about. My pedi would recommend my son be in a crib not a toddler bed - but he is great in his bed and calls for me when he wakes up. He doesn't even get out. I don't like the tent things to keep them in when they try to crawl over - they don't look safe to me. So it was right for our family to transition to a toddler bed. These are the situations I am referring to.
Yeah, we rent too.... the tenant before we moved in left the toilet running for days and it soaked the bathroom floor (which has never been replaced, classy place, I tell ya)... so I think that has a lot to do it, too. UGH!
On the topic of peeing...This is total new mom ignorance, but I can't figure out how potty training my little boy will work. I bought a potty and have let him sit on it naked, but his penis is pointing up. How does this thing work?
Another more FFC type confession...With my pregnancy with C I was super strict by-the-book. This time around I'm drinking coffee and/or soda and I just ate a *gasp* cold cut sub.
I feel bad when I think about it because it seems like I care less about this baby than C. I'm just TIRED and HUNGRY and with a toddler my options are super limited.
My Colton...Growing up so fast!
And Coralee, his baby sister...On the way!
I ate turkey sandwiches all the time when I was pregnant with Caroline. I also drank a dr pepper everyday. All I ever wanted to eat was turkey or pbj sandwiches. My older sister was very by the book with the first and not so much with the 2nd. She said that once she started having to chase a toddler around the book went out the window. It's not that you care less it's just you have less energy because you have another baby.
I have another one....
I am so tired of people (doctors) using PCOS as a fertility death sentence. The BFP post above reminded me of it. Is it harder to get pregnant with PCOS, yes. Impossible, no. Can there be contributing factors that make it even harder. Of course!
And before you jump all over this, yes, I have PCOS. The two doctors who diagnosed it both said "textbook" when refering to my ultrasounds/tests/etc. It took us over a year of trying before I got a BFP. But seriously, I have seen one too many posts that are along the lines of, "poor me, I have PCOS and can't have a baby." It is possible, you just have to work harder and longer at it.
I'm sure we have a lot of PCOS veterans on this board...some got pregnant without IF treatment, some with, some were surprised, some were shocked. Regardless, it isn't a reproductive dead end.
With my nephew, my sister pointed his penis down until he knew to hold it down himself. Then he eventually stood to pee.
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Potty training my 3 year old right now. You just tell him and remind remind REMIND! him to point it down! They figure it out. Also if you are sitting on the floor while he is on the regard toilet, you will be sure to tell him to point it down because that thing is right there pointing at you otherwise!
I have another one - it has been plaguing me and I could not bring myself to post it as it is really bothering me.
Yesterday while visitng my Dad at the nursing home (he is there as a "reprieve" to give my mom a few days break) with DS, Daddy needed diaper help and accidentally missed the potty. I was cleaning him up and DS fell face first into the metal old school hospital bed and got his first bloody nose. When DS woke up this morning it had bled again overnight. I was alternating between my Dad and DS so the bloody nose lasted longer than it probably needed to, but then again, how in the heck would I have gotten DS to sit still and put his head back anyway? UGH.
I drank a pepsi everyday with A and ate a cold cut at least once a week. I ate a couple beef hot dogs too. I'm doing the same with this pregnancy.
It drove my sister nuts. She went completely by the book with both of her pregnancies.