TTC Questions?

ctilley7911

I am of course not ready to even think about it yet and my body not ready yet. But when i am ready i like to have support and personal story's to think about and help my decisions about ttc. Also kind of seeing the average timing on some stuff with other woman. So here they are. If you dont mind answering i be very grateful thank you. Also the reason i ask here is because i loss my baby and i like to know the thoughts and decisions of mothers ttc after a loss. So i pray i dont offend any one if i do i am truly sorry. If any question does not pertain to you then just of course skip it.

How long did it take after your loss for AF to return?

How long before you ttc?

When did you know you where ready, what did you do to prepare your self to ttc?

Are you doing anything to help cove again successfully?

If you are pregnant with your rainbow baby. How long did it take to conceive? 

If you already had you rainbow baby, did you loose any in the process before finally having you baby? If so how many more times did you losse your precious babies.

Are you scared being pregnant again or able to enjoy it? 

If not pregnant again then are you excited to ttc or scared about it?

Thanks again! I want ttc again just scared but excited and just need to see how other mamas with losses are handling it. 

shandorfml2

Might want to ask on TTCAL as well...as they are all actively ttc. You need to remember every woman is different, we all have different loss stories, were at different stages and different reasons for our losses. The best person to ask some of these questions is your doctor. You could get all kinds of different answers to these questions here.

Personally...

It took 11 weeks for AF to return post loss. We were told we could try right away (after our 6 week postpartum check up). There was no reason found for my baby's death. No disease or anything like that. I knew I wanted to ttc again right after she was delivered. I knew I was ready after I buried my angel, and I was willing to try again and know it wouldn't be her. I can never have her back. I am charting my temps and cervical fluid. It only took me 2 cycles to conceive my daughter when I charted. Hoping for the same this time.  I am terried of getting pregnant, and having something go wrong. However, I am willing to risk it to have a baby. I am also excited to be trying, and very much looking forward to getting pregnant again.

GL!

PerkyErky

As Shandorfml said, you might get better answers/responses on the ttcal board and the PgAL as those ladies are actively trying after a loss or pregnant after a loss. For me, I knew I wanted to try again right away. We are currently benched this cycle, but after af shows hopefully tomorrow or the next day based on temps and charting we are cleared to start trying again. We lost our daughter at 20w4d on 3-27-13. We fell pregnant fairly easily, only two cycles of trying so I am hoping it happens quickly again. We lost our daughter due to an incompetent cervix and I am terrified to be pregnant again and have it happen again. But I have done a lot of reading on cerclages and preventive measures so I feel confident I will make it to term next time with monitoring and a cerclage. I am sad that I will no longer have a carefree pregnancy, I will be hyper aware of every twinge and ache. I no longer have naivete and innocence for future pregnancies. I know things can go terribly wrong so another goal of mine is to practice coping and destressing techniques so when I am pregnant again my anxiety won't overwhelm me.

ETA - fix mobile errors 

OSUWifey09

***ticker/pg warning***

 

AF came back about 4.5 weeks after Devon was born sleeping. We couldn't TTC for three months because of a shot I got before leaving the hospital, so we were on break until November. We tried in December but pretty much missed my window, so no dice. After that, I went on BC for three months to regulate my cycles.

Honestly, trying again in December [3.5 months after my loss] was WAY too early. I was so obsessed with getting pregnant again that I just didn't care; I wanted to be pregnant right away. After that didn't work, I really sat back and wanted 2013 to be better. So we took a break, I went on BC, I lost 10 pounds and went into counseling. I really needed to do all of those things for myself to really get back to where I needed to be for a new baby, and I'm SO glad I took that time. Counseling really helped me really accept Devon's loss and find a way to move forward, and I needed that sort of closure.

H and I decided to try again at the beginning of this month, not quite sure what to expect. It was my second cycle off BC, and I still wasn't quite sure where things stood with my cycle. The day I finished counseling, and nine months to the day that Devon was born sleeping, I got a BFP. I'm still not quite sure I believe it, and it's been hard for me to get excited because I'm terrified this won't be our rainbow. I try to not focus on the negative and just go day to day; my first u/s is in two weeks, and it will seriously be the longest two weeks of my life. I am totally expecting I'll go back in counseling as my pregnancy [hopefully] progresses, because it's been an emotional journey as it is - and I'm only 5.5 weeks.
 

Noethola

 

We are not blessed with a rainbow yet, but I figured I would answer some of your questions. 

How long did it take after your loss for AF to return? 13 LONG weeks. 

How long before you ttc? We are on cycle 4 now. 

When did you know you where ready, what did you do to prepare your self to ttc? Our doctor said we could start right away. The first few months I would have meltdowns when AF came because I was so baby focused and wanted a baby in 2013. Its natural for us to want to be pregnant. But now, I can focus on this as a separate pregnancy. My body has readjusted itself, so we shall see where we go from here. 

If not pregnant again then are you excited to ttc or scared about it? I think we will always face the fear, because we are no longer innocent in thinking that pregnancy is safe. But, I hope to just appreciate every day I get with my LO even if it is only in the womb. 

Heatherhah

How long did it take after your loss for AF to return? it returned after 3 months

How long before you ttc?  we started as soon as my Af came back

When did you know you where ready, what did you do to prepare your self to ttc? I knew i was ready honestly as soon as we lost her we wanted another baby and we lost her so I knew it would be hard but it didn't matter I wanted a living baby. Yes I was scared but I still wanted a baby.

Are you doing anything to help cove again successfully?

If you are pregnant with your rainbow baby. How long did it take to conceive?  It took us 6 months to get pregnant with our rainbow.

If you already had you rainbow baby, did you loose any in the process before finally having you baby? If so how many more times did you losse your precious babies. I didn't lose my rainbiw she is here.

Are you scared being pregnant again or able to enjoy it? I was scared the whole time I was pregnant with my rainbow I will not sugar coat is , honestly it was the hardest thing to do next to lose my angel baby.

If not pregnant again then are you excited to ttc or scared about it? we are now done TTC our family is complete at this point.