To those who aren't getting the support they are hoping for...

AshleyDoll

I've seen a few posts today about people not being so supportive about your pregnancies and I just wanted to say that there are so many people who are going through the same thing even though not a lot of people mention it... I am one of them. I have 4 daughters, and I'm just about 23 years old. I'm married, and the only one who was NOT planned was my oldest daughter. But that doesn't mean I love her any less than my other girls... She is just as much as a blessing. I am young yes but I've also had to grow up really fast and am mature than even a lot of adults I know. I'm a great loving mom! I'm a stay at home mom and luckily my husband gets paid enough to where we aren't rich or close to it, but we are comfortable.

 Anyways! Because I'm young, my grandma (who raised me) is not supportive at all of any of my kids, thinks I can't be a good mom because I'm so young and with two of my pregnancies told me to abort them. My other two pregnancies and this one, she has told me to give the baby up for adoption. My mother (who has never been a mother to me herself) keeps telling me that I'm so young that this is hard on my body and I'm going to end up killing a baby because of that. Of course when these babies are born they are loved to pieces. It's hard not having support from those who are supposed to support you know matter what, from those who are FAMILY.... The best advice that I have for you is to ignore them and if they don't want to be supportive of you then for the mean time anyways, cut them out of your life. You don't need the stress right now. These babies are MIRACLES, little miracles and if someone can't be happy for you well there's no reason for you to be upset when you are so blessed to have something so precious. Just ignore the negative and if you are able, cut it out of your life as much as possible. It's not worth it for you to be hurting so much from people are too ignorant to be there for you and be your family. No matter what your situation, if you are able to care for your baby/babies, you aren't in a place where it's a bad environment for a child and if you think you are going to be able to support your baby then no one else has the place to not be supportive. Everything happens for a reason, every baby is part of a plan... Babies don't happen because they are mistakes and are just here because the condom broke or whatever the situation... These babies are part of a plan.

It may be hard to cut family out of your life but it really isn't worth the pain, at least while you are pregnant. A lot of the time it changes when the baby is here and that baby is loved by those who told you to get rid of it.... And if not, then that's THEIR loss and at least you know that you are blessed to have your baby.

 Sorry for the long novel, I just want you all to know that you aren't alone, you CAN do this and I know all these mommies on this board will be here to support you!

KatelynEA90

I am also one of those people.
With my daughter, no one was happy for us. I spent most of my pregnancy upset because I felt like I wasn't allowed to enjoy it at all. I was very happy but everyone around me was so negative. My daughter is certainly loved to pieces by everyone though.

With this pregnancy, I know my family will be excited but part of me doesn't want to tell them because I'm afraid of them being unsupportive again. I'm afraid of feeling like I can't enjoy it again.
I know my ILs will not be happy at all. They never will because they think we are too young. We could wait ten years and they would act the same way. It's upsetting but it won't bother me as much because I refuse to hang around the negativity.

Sywilson

I aggressively with both of you. Ido have support by my family and stuff. But I think those without the support or support but not happy about it families need to just focus on themselves. Enjoy you pregnancy! Every child is a gift. I feel God would not give you a child if you could not handle it. So embrace it I say!!! Families will come around to it but you have the support of your hubby and that is what counts the most!!!

Sywilson

Oh my agree!!! Lol I have auto correct on!!! Lol does not Mayer what I type sometimes lol

Mnelli14

The strength you ladies have is admirable. I don't know what I would do without the support of my family then again women i say women, not people : have the capacity to endure real difficulties and we bounce back.

Mrs Bookworm

I'm so sorry to hear this.  Remember that now your husband and your children are your real family, and the one that matters most.  It doesn't sound like your mom should really be giving you parenting advice anyway.  You're right that you don't need the stress, so just focus on the family that really matters and love on them - there you will get all the support you need