When you were pregnant with your second..

crene84

As you can see in my siggy, I adopted a newborn last September.  She's now 8 months old and I found out recently that I am pregnant.  They'll be about 14.5 - 15 months apart.

This is my first time ever pregnant and it's been way rougher than I ever expected.  I have a ton of nausea, fatigue, and migraines.  I find myself super overwhelmed and emotional.  i find myself questioning if I can do it, if I should even be a mother at all...I seriously feel like something is wrong with me and I'm the only one that feels this way.

I know my hormones are running wild, but it's hard to know that is why I feel this way.  I am hoping I'm not alone and that some of you may be able to give me some hope that this may end soon...I'm only a week away from my second trimester so fingers crossed.. 

NavyPilotWife

My second pregnancy was definitely harder than my first.  I was sick for 18 weeks (vs 14 weeks with DD1) and then my hip pain set in a few weeks later.  I also felt really guilty about cheating DD1 out of one-on-one time with me.  As I got further into pregnancy, I got more and more excited about DD2.  My girls are best friends and I love having them close together.  Best of luck and I hope you feel better soon!

jesselayne8

I wanted to die first trimester but I truly got that 2nd tri burst of energy. Hang in there!

blablabalala

It's perfectly normal to feel the way you are feeling. Most women go through the same emotions when pregnant with their second and successive children. You are not alone by any means! And you can do this!

Courtimilk

It sounds like my every pregnancy. My first advice is drink PLENTY of water. It works wonders to nip the fatigue and headaches, and I found food to ''sit'' better in the mornings had I already had a decent amount to drink throughout the night.

If you don't think this is the case then I do suggest talking to your doctor and/or lurking the PPD board for a bit. I'm not saying that you have depression as you sound pretty normal to me, but it wouldn't hurt to start researching into it before LO2 is born.

jessalynn521

I definitely felt that way. I had horrible MS with both pregnancies, and when my son was 4 months old that didn't go over very well. I was lucky enough to receive help from my mother. She came and helped me out until we got my MS under control with medication. My best advice is accept help that is offered to you.

I totally get the emotions you are talking about as well. It is scary stepping into this role of 2u2 and the different things that it brings along with it. I promise you can do it. It won't be the easiest thing you have ever done, but it will be worth it in the end.  

MitoRachel

My kids are 14 months a part. Both the physical and emotional sound like my first tri. Trying to take care of a baby while dealing with the nasty that is first tri. is really hard. Good news is, at least for me, things just keep getting better. Hang in there!

michelle7482

I got pregnant when DD was 9 months old and it was rough.  I had no energy and tons of nausea.  For me I started to feel better about the 10 week mark and honestly, the rest of the time I have felt great.  I am 25 wks now.  Nap when your DD naps and take it easy.  It will get better.

RedDDD

God I could have written this myself.  Im 22 weeks and my 2 will be 17 months apart.  I thought once I got thru the exhaustion of the 1st tri it would get better and it hasn't.  Im pooped...totally wiped out and I feel emotional all the time.  This pregnancy is definately harder then my first.  I have had the same issue of questioning whether I can do it, whether I was cut out for this, and then thinking Im a failure because everyone else seems to be doing it ok and why can't I.  My DH even mentioned he was starting to get worried about me since I have been so emotional this time around. I just keep saying to myself that I can just get thru the next couple months and those first rough newborn weeks and the fog should start to clear. I also remind myself to take time outs and give back to myself. I need ME time and if I can take 10 min here or a hour there I grab it.  You can do it! Just be gentle on yourself and make sure to take time for you when you can.

Now I need to go take my own advice... LOL GL!

msualum96

Congrats!  I remember you posted at least once (maybe more, I'm more lurker) on the Sept 12 board!

Mine are a little further apart, 20.5 months, but I did have the same fears & concerns as you.  It is a hormonal time, and for me it did get better after 1st tri.  I planned my 2nd pg, and it was still rough to try to wrap my brain around the challenges that I knew we'd face.  I cried a lot, both from the thought that my 1st LO wasn't going to be my "baby" anymore, and the fact that I was somehow taking something away from him, and the feeling of "How can I possibly do this?".  But he will NEVER know a time without his sister, and the way she adores him melts my heart!  Just know that you CAN do it, but don't expect it to come easily right out of the gate.  There will be tears, from ALL of you probably!  YOu will find your groove, and it will be amazing....eventually you'll wonder what you were even worried about!  (It's taken me a good 8 months to get to that point though!  :-))

Good luck, H & H 9 months, and you'll do great! 

mediagurl

Congrats! What a blessing! You can do it and everything you're feeling is normal. Soon you will be feeling much more human! Nap when your daughter naps if you can your body needs it!

jani7

Congrats on both your adoption and pregnancy!  I also got pregnant when my (adopted) son was 8 months.  I was exhausted during the first trimester and very sick but it does get better in the second and third trimesters!  You can do it!! Hang in there. 

luvmyducks

I felt like absolute hell this time around--much worse than with my first pg.  I felt guilty bc DD got a lot of TV time.  I felt much better in 2nd Tri but overall it is exhausting caring for a toddler and being pg.  Hang in there and congrats!

StefandTodd

Physical pregnancy symptoms aside, the emotional aspects of "can I do this?!" and "what did I get myself into?!" are rough, and I remember them well.  Honestly, mine lasted up until the very end...but now that I have my beautiful boy, I'd never change it in a million years.  It'll get easier.  Hang in there!!

harajukugirl79

Hi there, mostly a lurker but just had to chime in and tell you that what you're describing sounds completely normal. Not to mention you are dealing with first time pregnancy loveliness (nausea etc) but you are actually dealing with 2nd time emotions - pretty tough but hang in there it will get better. Also, just felt the need to chime in and tell you that your daughter is so adorable. You are a lucky lady!! Good luck!