Rough day-vent

Heather2884

I'm having a bad few days.  I've had a little set back with my ppd.  I was doing great, but then I got a letter yesterday saying I have been selected for jury duty between July-September.  Total panic!  I stay home with my daughter, my husband will be gone part of the time for Army training and family lives in other states. There is no way I am leaving her.  Anyway, it set me back into total anxiety just thinking about being forced to explain to a judge why I need to be excused from this term. For me part of the ppd has been that I only have a small group of people I will leave her with and I am not willing to leave her with anyone outside of that group.  I'm stressed at the unknown of how this works and what they will do to me when I bring her with me.  The sad part, I was really doing extremely well and had just recently felt so much better, and then this.

 On top of that, my SIL is pregnant with her 3rd child.  I am very happy for them and I know they wanted it so bad, but I am OAD not by choice,due to serious health reasons.  For whatever reason, it made me feel a little sad for us that we don't have that option.  Although I would never want to go through what I went through again.  It was a living nightmare.

I just needed and outlet.  My best friend has had several recent losses and the other is facing infertility.  Obviously, I am sensitive to their hearts and don't want to call them and talk about my minor issues.  Please be kind.  I am grateful for what I have, just a little sad and anxious.  

tulips1058

I know itS easier said then done but try not to worry too much about the jury duty. You can always postpone it for a few months and when it comes back up if you are still feeling the same you probably could get a doctors note for the ppd. The judge will understand!!

Cellis

You shouldn't have to serve jury duty since you are primary caretaker. You should be able to just fill something out online or call a number. 

kaitylin

Sorry you are having a hard time. I had bad PPA too and it sucks.

Don't worry about jury duty. You are primary care taker of a young child so you have an automatic exemption. There will be a spot on the form or online to get out of it. I just had to do it this past fall and it was simple :

Chapter79

First off.. ::hugs:: to you, I'm so sorry things are rough.

As far as being the primary caretaker and jury duty- unfortunately, the above is not always true.  It completely depends on your state (and perhaps even your city) as to how they handle it.  Here in NY, they could care less if you are the main caretaker, and it says right on the website and papers that you are not exempt and need to find childcare. THAT all said, I have gotten out of it once THERE and told them I was a SAHM and it would be wayyyyy difficult for me. They would rather take people on the jury who are more available and want to do it.   But I had to show UP and tell them this.  So it depends on the state.  But don't be nervous!  Check with your state and the jury site for your area and see what it says.

More hugs to you, I hope things get better soon.

MidwestMeetsMA

For what it's worth - I have a diagnosed anxiety disorder and deal with some depression issues.  When I was given jury duty, the judge asked if there was anything that would prevent me from serving, and I told him about my medical stuff.  I was excused.  PPD is a recognized problem, and it may help you avoid serving when you're not ready to.

hopefulmom81

I am so sorry you are struggling.  

I suffered terribly with Post Partum Anxiety and still have some residual issues a year later.  It is hard to feel that out of control of your thoughts and emotions

Have you been getting any therapy or treatment to help? 

I got out of jury duty EASILY when I was pregnant.  I think you just call a number as PP have said and explain that you are the primary caretaker and that your husband is gone for the Army.  If they need a further explanation, you can bring up the PPD, but you might be fine even without explaining it that much.

I can totally relate to the sting of seeing a family member pregnant but still be happy for them at the same time.  I suffered losses before DD and my SIL got pregnant with # 2 and was due at the same time I would have been.  It sucked to watch her be pregnant with my "what would have been".  (HUGS)

I think you can actually relate quite well to your friends who have suffered losses and IF, maybe not if they are freshly dealing with them, but in the future.  You are not OAD by choice, that is a big deal and should be treated as such.

These aren't minor issues, by the way.  PPD/anxiety, and mourning being forced to be done having children if that isn't what is in your heart are pretty big deals imo.