GTKY

littleredfish

Sorry it's late, my mom is here visiting and she's been whipping my house into shape. Cleaning with her is like working out with a personal trainer. I'm exhausted.

On that note; has being a mom changed your relationship with your mom? A bit, a lot, not at all??

I don't find there's a lot of change between us, but a little bit for sure. We're totally different personalities and have never had a lot to talk about, now we have things to talk about on the phone. Sometimes she's pretty old school in her advice so I often ignore it and do my own thing, but sometimes we have a "moment". Like tonight she was giving DD her first hair cut and reminiscing about the first time she cut my hair, and my sisters hair, and it was nice to hear those stories. We never talked about that type of stuff before. 

Also I find we have a different kind of respect for each other. Getting up at night with my DD, having my heart skip a beat when she falls off the couch, feeling exasperated when she's having a tantrum and I can't calm her. Knowing she did all those things and more for me that I have yet to experience, also knowing the love I have for my DD puts in perspective just how she feels about me even though we don't always get along.

picklesx

I never had a great, super close relationship with either of my parents. I was the "difficult" child and we were always fighting. Things between us got a lot better after I moved out, and while we still aren't super close, I think that our relationship has improved quite a bit. I visit at least once a week just to hang out and I like to think my parents enjoy the company.

joshandpanda

I hoped/thought I'd have a better relationship once I had kyler... Nope...  Not at all. 

She has seen her 2 granddaughters that live half way across the county more times than she has seen kyler, who lives less than 10 miles away, in the year he has been alive.

I have come to terms with our relationship, or lack there of, for the most part, but it still hurts.  I'm just really happy that my step mom has stepped in to be a great grandma to him.  I have always been close to my dad since I was a little girl, and he LOVES his little grandson.  

selockar

Our relationship didn't change at all with my first. Now that I have two, it's changed a little. I find myself caring a little less what she thinks about the little things. For example, my mom is a bit of a neat freak. My house is always clean, but not like her house. Before DS2 I would stress myself trying to keep up with her standards. Now, I don't really care.

bellelamb

When Danny was born I lived with her and we got so close! We were always close but grew apart when I was at college. But now that I've been married and lived in our own home for six years and had two more kids we aren't as close and it bugs me. She has gotten more self centered and has had some health problems so she isn't as reliable as she used to be. Plus she is a major spoiler with my kids so I have a hard time with the way my kids act around her which is hard for me. Don't get me wrong we're still close just not as close as I had hoped.

My mother in law are very close now which is nice, things are less tense when we're all together so we spend more time with dh's family!