Frustrated

Britt_6694

So little man is almost 7 months old now. We had a hard time ttc because I have pcos. Now that we have aiden I feel like I do it all. I love my husband but there are days I just want to smack him. I think he has given LO a bath twice maybe and he only feeds him when I am at work. He just started solids and we have decided to exclusively BF. the downside to this is that my husband is constantly reminding me how many bottles we have saved up. He also goes back to sleep after LO gets up for the day. I love both of them very much but I am just exhausted. I work full time and somedays I feel like I don't have the energy to even get dressed. Thanks for listening to my venting. I just needed to get it out. 

skate88

You are not the only one out there!! My DH has not ever given my DD a bath, has not ever fed her solids, seldomly changes a diaper, never puts her to bed, and never gets up with her at night if she is up. But he does play with her, talk with her, and is worried about her well-being. I know he loves her more than anything. He's just kind of scared of babies as he has never had any experience with them. I wish I could change him, but I have learned that you can't change someone. For what he does do, I am greatful. On the plus side, my DH cooks all of our meals! Just try to remember the positive things about your hubby and ask for help. 

mhaley1107

You're not alone! DH has only helped me with baths never gave one himself and cleans up and does G's laundry only when asked. When he comes home from work I ask him to feed her but hr wants to have dinner. Um I'm pretty sure I eat my dinner as I feed her almost daily. You can do it too to give me a break for a minute!

GrantHenson

I think that most of us are in this boat and agree that we have to try to see the things that they are doing or we will begin to resent them and our babies.  I also have to ask my self on occasion if I have asked for help because most of the time I have not asked.  I am lucky my hubby usually says yes when I ask and is pretty good at noticing when I am done.  That being said he helps with baths but would have no clue how to do on his own.  He also has not fed her and I usually end up eating dinner with her in my lap and after she has put her hands through my food.   I have heard from some of my friends who have older babies that dads get more involved around age 1.

GIJoLana

My husband helps, but I still feel like it's not enough at times. I think it's part of the psychology of being a mom and knowing you are responsible for this little being who can't fend for themself. I have fibromyalgia and sometimes have meltdowns and explain to my husband that I can't do it without his help. The best advice is to be honest! He needs to understand you are NOT a machine that can keep going like this. The two of you need to be a team. And he needs to know breastfeeding takes a lot out of you, it depletes you of vital nutrients even if you are taking vitamins. My husband has a book called the Everything Father's First Year Book and I think it helped him become more comfortable with caring for the baby. Men are men though, so understand they will get stuff wrong and still tick you off. ; I was giving myself a little refreshing by telling you all this, so my husband isn't my idea of perfect either. We can't expect them to be perfect like us. : JK