How do I really know?

DaizyMay22

I have felt since Daisy was born that our family is complete. DH has agreed with me until We found out about the BRCA. I know I want both surgeries and DH is supporting me 100 percent but now he says he's not sure we're done having kids so now I'm second guessing if I want another. I'm just so conflicted right now!

ETA: bumping on phone and somehow it posted before I was done... Stupid touch screen!

bethanyturon

I think much of it may be the finality of making such a decision where you can't go back.  My DH changed his perspective once the time came to really make the decision on making a permanent change (of the snip, snip type), so I think sometimes it is a guy's way of informally saying they need some emotional support to work through the finality of it all.  Trust your heart and what it's telling you inside despite what DH is saying.

DaizyMay22

Yeah, I think this whole thing has him scared. I told him that if he really wants another baby I'm ok with another one. I think he's worried in going to make a hasty decision and do a hysterectomy right now. We're not making any major decisions for a few months but I told him that we do need to get on the same page soon so we can prepare for what lies ahead. No matter what that path is.

MrMrsandBaby

I'm so sorry you have to make these decisions, but I would say if you felt done before, don't let this diagnosis scare you into having another baby.  If you were on the fence before you have to have some conversations with DH.

So much easier said than done, but if three weeks ago you were sure about being one and done, then that is your answer.  It may also help to talk to a counselor about this...someone to just get it all out to.