DD and sleeping or lack of sleeping

honeydew01

I am so envious of all you guys whose LOs is STTN.  I know every kid is different and I shouldn't compare but I read all these posts where people report 6-10 hours of uninterrupted sleep and I wish that DD would give us a break like that once in a while.

DD will be 12 weeks on Sunday and still wakes up every 1.5 to 2 hours like a clock. Last night we started the bedtime ritual at 6:30, she fell sleep at 7 woke up 15 minutes later. She finally went down at 9 only to be up at 10:45 and then every hour and half until morning.

We swaddle, dark room, white noise, bath, massage and she sleeps in her RnP.. she refuses bottles still so DH can't help with feedings.

I feel desperate and sleep deprived, she also hasn't gotten good sleep so she's cranky and tired..one or two night of this is workable, but when it's every single night it gets really hard.

I read so many sleep related books and never thought I'd consider CIO but this morning I find myself questioning if that's what we should try when she's older (I know she's too young for CIO)..I of course feel conflicted as I never thought I could hear her cry for extended period of time but we can't go on with such little sleep for months..

I feel overwhelmed I just wish she'd sleep.

mben1119

First, don't compare your LO to others. I know its hard, but don't. Most babies are not sleeping 6 hour stretches at 3 months, so get that idea out of your head. Your LO will sleep longer when she's ready, and no earlier.

Its hard, I get it. DS was up every 2 hours, then every 3 until at least 4 months. He didn't STTN until 6 months.

finallyplanned

Have you considered transitioning her into a crib? Maybe the RNP isn't comfortable anymore and she needs more space to sprawl out. Just a thought.

honeydew01

finallyplanned:

Have you considered transitioning her into a crib? Maybe the RNP isn't comfortable anymore and she needs more space to sprawl out. Just a thought.

 

Yes, we are attempting it this weekend.

bhawk0527

how is your supply? have you met with like a lactation consultant or whatever
my kid NEVER slept more than 3-4 hours at max until she was about 9 mos old and I often wonder (looking back) if it was a low supply issue ? or if she just very little per feeding

i feel ya! hang in there

Also the bottle--it takes awhile to get them used to it so keep trying!!

ClandestineX

Have you tried Co-sleeping? My son won't sleep for more than 3 hours alone (sometimes), which is why at night he sleeps with me and I can get a 6 hour stretch out of him... two nights ago I got a 7 hour stretch..it was nice.. but pass 6 am he goes back into the pack and play or his bouncer. 

honeydew01

Thanks everyone..I know I shouldn't compare and be patient..

monalua

I know how hard it is! It's totally normal though. I would definitely consider cosleeping. Many babies wake up because they want human contact/comfort, not always because they're hungry. Cosleeping might give you some longer stretches until she's old enough for CIO sleep training, if you want to do that. Have you tried the swing, and/or a pacifier? Just some ideas!

honeydew01

monalua:

I know how hard it is! It's totally normal though. I would definitely consider cosleeping. Many babies wake up because they want human contact/comfort, not always because they're hungry. Cosleeping might give you some longer stretches until she's old enough for CIO sleep training, if you want to do that. Have you tried the swing, and/or a pacifier? Just some ideas!

I sleep next to her RnP on the floor in her nursery. She doesn"t fall asleep in her swing and doesn't take a pacifier..we tried quite a number of times.

honeydew01

kbruington:

honeydew01:

monalua:

I know how hard it is! It's totally normal though. I would definitely consider cosleeping. Many babies wake up because they want human contact/comfort, not always because they're hungry. Cosleeping might give you some longer stretches until she's old enough for CIO sleep training, if you want to do that. Have you tried the swing, and/or a pacifier? Just some ideas!

I sleep next to her RnP on the floor in her nursery. She doesn"t fall asleep in her swing and doesn't take a pacifier..we tried quite a number of times.

What does she do when she wakes up in the night? Is she fussing or full on crying? Do you feed her everytime she wakes? Is that the only thing that makes her happy and back to sleep?

 

It varies, sometimes she starts the high pitch crying right away, sometimes she fusses. If it's been 2 hours I feed her, but most often I try to rock her either by holding her or by rocking her RnP. As far as feeding her, she eats for 5 minutes and is done. I have tried waking her up fully (once she's up to feed already) so she'd eat more and perhaps sleep more but she is pretty stubborn once she is done eating she is done eating.

As far as my supply, I am pretty sure it's fine. She's gaining weight fine. At her 2 months appointment she was at 75th percentile for weight and 95th percentile for height.

 Thank you guys for all your suggestions, I just feel very desperate and sleep deprived and I know everyone says it gets better, this is my first baby, so I am holding my breath and waiting to hopefully see the end of the tunnel. 

VPGIRL06

honeydew01:

Thanks everyone..I know I shouldn't compare and be patient..

 

have you tried not sleeping in there with her? I know it sounds counterintuitive but my LO was like that until my husband MADE me come to bed and not sleep in there with her. Once I started sleeping in the room (and turning the monitor down so I only heard the actual "I need something" cries versus the "ugh getting back to sleep is rough, guys" fusses, she began to "sleep" in longer stretches. I just needed to give her the opportunity to go back to sleep when she woke up instead of immediately rushing to get her like I was apt to do.

it might help. it might not though so...just what worked for us.