If this is your last.. birth control?

klyann

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Excuse me if this has been asked recently, I didn't see a post.

We are 95% sure that this will be our last LO, at least biologically.   My OB has asked me about what BC I plan to use, and I am still debating.  DH is not keen on getting snipped anytime soon.  I do plan to EBF, and with DD I didn't get a period until 12 months after she was born.   Then a surprise PG (resulting in mm/c) on the next cycle.  An emotional roller coaster I do not want to ever go through again.

So if this is your last (or you are planning on waiting at least a few years) what BC method are you opting for? Any specific reasons?

Liz4444

2 is plenty for me. I'm going to talk to my OB about Essure. DH refuses to have a vasectomy. He said he's only getting snipped down there once in his life and it happened when he was 8 days old.

missyjg

Since mine is a RCS I'm opting for a tubal. I NEVER thought I'd ask my doctor for one of those but that's the plan. It's easier b/c it's a quick proceedure and since I'm already in surgery, it's not any more invasive. DH is happy b/c he would have went for a V if I was able to have a VBAC.

melissabshelton

Between the 2 of us, this is #4.  I don't want to go back on a pill because they haven't been 100% for me even following directions exactly.  DH doesn't want me to get my tubes tied or anything permanent.  He's read/heard too many horror stories he says.  Whatever, works for me.  IUDs just weird me out.  So by default, I think DH is getting snipped.  He's talked with some guys at work who have convinced him that it's not as horrible as it sounds.

gemini2005

I've been thinking about getting the Mirena or going back on the mini-pill at least until I'm done BFing.  I'm struggling with the decision to stop at two so we aren't planning on doing anything permanent yet.  I know DH is 100% done and I'll be 34 soon so I bet this is our last...

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Liz4444:

2 is plenty for me. I'm going to talk to my OB about Essure. DH refuses to have a vasectomy. He said he's only getting snipped down there once in his life and it happened when he was 8 days old.

This made me laugh. 

I plan to get a copper IUD I think.  I haven't decided yet but I'm pretty sure I don't want to have anymore children and I don't want to have to take a birth control pill every day.

queenbone

I struggle with IF so this is kind of a moot point for me, IMO. I'd be fine with returning to NFP to avoid. But DH and his friend have big plans to go in for vasectomies next year when places offer their March Madness specials.

valstulas

I really wanted a tubal or Essure, but SO doesn't want me to do anything "too permanent." I don't care for hormones so I'll be doing a Paraguard IUD.

Abeille

We're done. I'm considering Essure.  

ETA: My husband might be willing to get a vasectomy. But if essure is a fairly simple procedure for me, I'd rather go ahead and do it myself just for my peace of mind.

This is ironic considering all the money we've shelled out for fertility treatments over the years. But it turns that if my body decides to ovulate, I get pregnant fairly easily, although it doesn't result in healthy pregnancies most of the time...I don't want to go through multiple miscarraiges again. 

Mrs JillB

We'll be using condoms until dh gets a vasectomy in the spring sometime.

dinomama13

valstulas:

I really wanted a tubal or Essure, but SO doesn't want me to do anything "too permanent." I don't care for hormones so I'll be doing a Paraguard IUD.

I'm not sure yet if we are team "one and done" yet but it's looking that way. IF we have another it'll likely be sometime after baby is about 5. This little guy was a complete surprise cause I was on bc. I will be talking to doc about paragaurd as well.

sonshine0609

At this point I'm thinking Mirena. I've used it twice before & although this baby was conceived on Mirena (I'm a freak of nature with BC) its the only BC that has worked for even a little bit for me. DH is considering a V but it's a big decision for him. He had thought before he met me & DS that he might not want kids at all. Before baby he had thought maybe no kids of his own. Now he's coming to the realization that more kids might be something to give more thought to. So basically while we didn't/don't plan on having more at this point we are just trying to buy some more time before making a permanent decision.

MrsMcC.10409

We're pretty sure we're one and done. To hedge our bets, I'll have an IUD for the next 4 years. Unless we change our minds before I turn 35, He'll get a V at that time.

kaylakim

I'm curious as to what other moms are saying about this. We are also 98% sure this is it for us but are not looking at permanent birth control yet. DH will NOT get snipped, he is very adamant about it. I'm thinking something like Mirena or Paraguard, some type of IUD.

solsburyhill

I wanted a tubal but my midwife basically talked me out of it. So for now I'm going to do either Mirena or Paraguard (haven't decided yet) and then when I'm done with that DH'll get a V. We *know* we don't want a 3rd child but we weren't ready to answer the question "what would you do if one of your 2 children died" yet. She asked - if this new baby dies of SIDS at 8 weeks, would you change your mind about the tubal. It's just not something I can commit to at this point.

babykk

I THINK this is our last. But I am not ready for anything permanent, so I will be getting a mirena IUD at my 6 week PP checkup! Down the road, when we know for sure, DH will get snipped!

equinus

We are 95% sure we are done after this one, I will probably wait until my cycles start up again (we EBF, and I didn't get my first PPAF until DD was 11mos), then DH has agreed to get snipped. We will be doing the pull out method until then, which is what we did until we started trying for this LO, and it still took us 6 mos with perfect timing to conceive, so I am not too worried about a super sperm.

santoriello21

DH is getting snipped.  If he wasn't, I would have considered the Morena.

thegoodpotato

We are on the fence about a third right now, but when we decide we're done, H is getting snipped for sure (he's already said so).  

I really don't want to get flamed here, so I'm a little scared to say this... But I think if a man refuses to get snipped, and that he's done having children, that he's being selfish. He can solve the problem with a short day surgery - in and out in an hour or two - while a woman either has to have invasive abdominal surgery (although with a PP, maybe that's a good option if you're opened up already), have a foriegn object imbedded in your body, or be on artificial hormones until you hit menopause (which is also costly).  It just seems like its unfair to ask a woman to go through one of those if you can solve the problem so quickly and easily.

But then again, maybe I'm just an awful, opinionated old bag.  I'm never sure if I'm just being a hormonal, otherwise, biznitch. :S

bobcee

My H is convinced we're done after two and is willing to get snipped, but I'm not ready for something so permanent yet so while I BFing we'll use condoms as we did while I was BFing DD and then I'll make a decision on BC pill or IUD until I'm comfortable with the more permanent route.

queenbone

thegoodpotato:

We are on the fence about a third right now, but when we decide we're done, H is getting snipped for sure (he's already said so).  

I really don't want to get flamed here, so I'm a little scared to say this... But I think if a man refuses to get snipped, and that he's done having children, that he's being selfish. He can solve the problem with a short day surgery - in and out in an hour or two - while a woman either has to have invasive abdominal surgery (although with a PP, maybe that's a good option if you're opened up already), have a foriegn object imbedded in your body, or be on artificial hormones until you hit menopause (which is also costly).  It just seems like its unfair to ask a woman to go through one of those if you can solve the problem so quickly and easily.

But then again, maybe I'm just an awful, opinionated old bag.  I'm never sure if I'm just being a hormonal, otherwise, biznitch. :S

 

klyann

Thanks for all the responses!  I'm still debating what I want to do.  But I really appreciate hearing what everyone is planning on doing or thinking about.

 

As for Vasectomies, one of the boys in DD's playgroup was the result of a vasectomy from years ago that decided to reverse itself.  Oops!

Bkuhman

I'm getting the iud for five years and after that if we still are happy with just two than DH will get snipped.

futuremrssmith7

Due to my body not handling pregnancy well (PTL both times), this will be our last biological child. I really don't want to pump my body full of hormones again  (bcp) but am unsure of taking permanent measures since I'm only 28.  After talking with DH, we came up with a couple options.

1. If I end up needing a c-section due to baby being breech or other reasons, I will opt for a tubal ligation (since they will be in there anyway). This would avoid having to have an additional procedure and my deductible is already met for the year. 

2. If I end up being able to have a vaginal delivery, I will either opt for Mirena (IUD - BF safe) or Nuvaring. I do not plan on being able to BF as I was unable to BF last time. I am a bit concerned about rare horror stories I've heard about Mirena but I would need something at least until DH has a vasectomy (+ 6 months).

futuremrssmith7

casey78:

Paragard IUD.  It is completely nonhormonal, immediately effective, lasts 10 years, and has immediate return to fertility if you change your mind.  My insurance covered mine at cost of office visit copay ($40).  I was paying that in monthly birth control copay.

You do have to be careful with Paragard though as the copper IUD can cause heavier periods and has been problematic for people with Endometriosis or PCOS.  Because I have a history of endometriosis and irregular periods, my doctor strongly recommends against Paragard. (Although, I like the fact that it's non-hormonal)

rubbielynn12

DH is so getting snipped. We're having a vasectomy party lol. However I am
going to start some sort of birth control after I'm done BFing. Some sort of insert, just to help regulate my periods. Still have to talk to ob about it, but again going to wait until after I'm done BFing.