Because rocknroll asked in the family finances thread if someone would start this, what are your views on prenups?
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Re: Prenups- for rocknroll64
I don't really have an opinion, it's "to each their own" for me.
Personally, neither DH or I had enough to for a prenup to make a difference anyway lol.
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We never even talked about one before we got married. I think we actually collectively made below the poverty line the first year or two we were married, so it was a non-issue.
It wouldn't have mattered though, DH is staunchly against them. (We talked about them recently because two friends with a good chunk on change are separating and probably divorcing.) He thinks it's just setting your marriage up to fail. I mostly agree with him, but I wouldn't side-eye anyone who got one.
We didn't have enough assets on our own to worry about it!
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We built our house before we were married and dh had a significant down payment while I had barely anything. I signed an agreement that if anything should happen he would get back what he put into it. I had absolutely no problem with it and thought he was smart for doing that. Obviously I think we'll be together forever but there is absolutely no harm in protecting yourself.
This is my situation almost exactly. Except I don't think MH is excluded in any kind of language. Honestly, my parents love him like a son and together we are the executors of their will. I might be wrong but even if we got divorced I think they would want him to receive an inheritance from them.
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I respectively disagree with this. Hopefully when you marry someone, you believe in your vows and think you will be with that person until death parts you but life circumstances can change people and personalities. You have no idea what the future holds. Best to protect yourself in case it all goes down the pooper.
DH had substantially more assets than I when we got married, while I carried much more debt. If he would have asked for one, I would have thought he was being smart. We would have discussed it and made a decision.
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We had no real pressing reason to have one - but if we did I would of insisted on one, even if it was for his protection. Its always easier to work that stuff out before you hate each other.
And I am not cynical, its just a fact that I am only half of the decision making in my marriage. While I trust my DH whole heartedly, at the end of the day people can surprise you. Mitigating risk isn't sexy or romantic, but it is wise. Unneccesary court costs are wasteful and stomach turning. I like to live in my land of logic and reason, and not be guided simply by love and emotion.
If a prenup "sets your marriage up to fail" I have a feeling the marriage was going to fail anyway. Just like setting up guardianship for your children in your untimely death isn't setting yourself up to die, it's just smart business.
But hey - to each their own.
I would like to add to this that if one partner has children from a previous relationship and more assets it is very common for there to be a prenup for the sake of the children.
We did not have one but I can see how some couples might find it a good idea or a necessity.
Before H, I dated a guy for nearly 6 years and his family would have required a prenup. I wasn't really for or against but the way they acted about it really put me off. It wasn't the reason we broke up but I was glad that we did.
If we were to meet and get married current state, I would likely ask for one because I make considerably more than he does, and he may have more inheritance coming than we knew about 11 years ago.