BM disappoints again...

Sweet30pea

SDs 13th bday is June 12th but BM decided to plan her sleepover birthday party for this coming Friday. It's our weekend because we have Memorial Day Weekend this year. She made SD ask us if she could come to our house Sat instead of Friday so she could still have her party at BMs. It would seem like no big deal, but this happens a lot. She claims "she didn't know" it was our time repeatedly. Which in turn makes my DH obligated to agree so he doesn't look like the bad guy. We have has a court ordered parenting plan for almost 3 years. If she would just pay attention to a calendar and the parenting plan she would always know when it's our time. It's just hard because I'm 99 sure she does this crap on purpose so DH is put in this position repeatedly. SD thinks her BM is an angel and can do no wrong because DH always agrees when she messes up. At some point I hope SD learns to see through her mom's deceiving ways.

PrettyInPearls23

Absolutely she's doing this on purpose. Why wouldn't she? After all, it sounds like your H always lets her get away with it.

Rather than hoping your SD can see through her mom's deceiving ways, I'd turn that focus to having your H stick to his CO. Being nice gets you screwed.

Sweet30pea

It's nice to be able to post on here and know that other people will understand the situation. I agree with both of you.

twister22

Tell BM if she's going to shorten your Memorial Day weekend that you will like the full weekend the weekend after (so 5/31-6/2) otherwise you will not agree. And then stick to it. (And get it in writing if she agrees.)

She's absolutely doing this on purpose and it's BS.