Parenting after 35

We are too quiet on this board; I'm going to spice it up!

Here are my confessions:

1.) I usually forget to brush my kid's teeth but I'm obsessed with my own dental health.

2.) As PT is looming for us I'm actively ignoring the 'signals' he's gving me because I really, really, really don't want to do it.

3.) Yesterday, I found him sucking on the top of the Clorox toilet bowl cleaner bottle.  I about died.  He later ate a mixture of dry and moist dog food. 

4.) Unless we are leaving the house for a specific purpose we are usually in our pajamas well past noon.

5.) Everyone warned me how freaking exhausting it is to have a toddler but I kind of judged the harried looking mothers until recently.  I am bone-weary in a way that I find hard to describe. 

6.) I love being a mommy so much that I have guilt all the time that I didn't start sooner so I could have more!

I'm done...now it's your turn:) 

 

~Married 11/08~
~TTC since 01/09~
~SA & B/W - 06/09 - Normal~
~Encouraged by OB to "just keep trying" 06/09 - 06/10 (oh, the wasted time)~
~HSG - 08/10 - Clear/Normal~
~Lapo - 01/11 - Normal~
~Clomid 50mg, Trigger shot, Prometrium - 01/11, 02/11, 03/11~
~BFN - 02/11~
~IUI #1 03/15/11~
BFP 3/28/2011
Diagnosed with GD at 28 weeks. Controlled through diet and exercise. No insulin.
Diagnosed with Cholestasis of pregnancy @ 36 weeks.
Delivered via C-section @ 36 weeks on 11/9/11.

TTC#2 for a few months naturally (ha!)
~IUI#1, Clomid, Trigger,  10/13 - BFN
~IUI#2, Femera, Ovidrel, 11/13




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Re: We are too quiet on this board; I'm going to spice it up!

  • I love it. Here goes.

    1. I agree with #4, we sometimes don't ever get out of pajamas if we aren't going anywhere.

    2. I also feel guilty all the time because he is an only child, or because I have to work or some other reason.

    3. I am always so tired I am happy to get my daily shower and haven't actually "done' my hair in 2 years.  I don't even dry it, let it air dry, just so I can have 10 more minutes of sleep.

    4. If I have to work, I put my makeup on in car at stop lights, so I can have 5 more minutes of sleep.

    5. I procrastinate on almost everything anymore if it doesn't have to so with my son.

    6. I absolutely love when I put my son to bed and can actually go sit down for a few minutes before I fall asleep in a chair, then I feel guilty because I feel this way.

    7. Feel like I shouldn't share things about my son with friends/family, because I am afraid of getting that glazed look like they just don't give a damn.

    8. Love my son so much that I actually hurt when I am not with him and I think about him all the time.  I guess that means I am "obsessed" with him, just what I think parents should be about their kiddoes.

  • I'll play!

     I don't find motherhood hard at all.  It's all consuming, but not hard.

     My DH and I are going on a trip this summer without LO.  Some people are on board with this and others look at me as if I have 3 heads.

    I really don't want LO to be an only child.

      

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  • imageBootsyLou:

    I'll play!

     I don't find motherhood hard at all.  It's all consuming, but not hard

      

    I feel this way 100%.  However, if I had had kids earlier I don't know that I would have enjoyed it the way I do now.  Quite the conumdrum....

     

    ~Married 11/08~
    ~TTC since 01/09~
    ~SA & B/W - 06/09 - Normal~
    ~Encouraged by OB to "just keep trying" 06/09 - 06/10 (oh, the wasted time)~
    ~HSG - 08/10 - Clear/Normal~
    ~Lapo - 01/11 - Normal~
    ~Clomid 50mg, Trigger shot, Prometrium - 01/11, 02/11, 03/11~
    ~BFN - 02/11~
    ~IUI #1 03/15/11~
    BFP 3/28/2011
    Diagnosed with GD at 28 weeks. Controlled through diet and exercise. No insulin.
    Diagnosed with Cholestasis of pregnancy @ 36 weeks.
    Delivered via C-section @ 36 weeks on 11/9/11.

    TTC#2 for a few months naturally (ha!)
    ~IUI#1, Clomid, Trigger,  10/13 - BFN
    ~IUI#2, Femera, Ovidrel, 11/13




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  • imagemommytoconnor:

    I love it. Here goes.

    1. I agree with #4, we sometimes don't ever get out of pajamas if we aren't going anywhere.

    2. I also feel guilty all the time because he is an only child, or because I have to work or some other reason.

    3. I am always so tired I am happy to get my daily shower and haven't actually "done' my hair in 2 years.  I don't even dry it, let it air dry, just so I can have 10 more minutes of sleep.

    4. If I have to work, I put my makeup on in car at stop lights, so I can have 5 more minutes of sleep.

    5. I procrastinate on almost everything anymore if it doesn't have to so with my son.

    6. I absolutely love when I put my son to bed and can actually go sit down for a few minutes before I fall asleep in a chair, then I feel guilty because I feel this way.

    7. Feel like I shouldn't share things about my son with friends/family, because I am afraid of getting that glazed look like they just don't give a damn.

    8. Love my son so much that I actually hurt when I am not with him and I think about him all the time.  I guess that means I am "obsessed" with him, just what I think parents should be about their kiddoes.

    Yep.  All of this.  My H babysat all the kiddos for me and his cousin for Mother's Day so we could go out on the town and when I came downstairs with make-up and my hair done it was like a slow motion scene from an 88's movie.  People were staring.  I think they forgot what I used to look like.  

    And the guilt.  Yes, I have the guilt.  All the time.  About something.

    I'm probably obsessed with my kid, too.  I do a pretty good job of hiding it, though. I think. 

    ~Married 11/08~
    ~TTC since 01/09~
    ~SA & B/W - 06/09 - Normal~
    ~Encouraged by OB to "just keep trying" 06/09 - 06/10 (oh, the wasted time)~
    ~HSG - 08/10 - Clear/Normal~
    ~Lapo - 01/11 - Normal~
    ~Clomid 50mg, Trigger shot, Prometrium - 01/11, 02/11, 03/11~
    ~BFN - 02/11~
    ~IUI #1 03/15/11~
    BFP 3/28/2011
    Diagnosed with GD at 28 weeks. Controlled through diet and exercise. No insulin.
    Diagnosed with Cholestasis of pregnancy @ 36 weeks.
    Delivered via C-section @ 36 weeks on 11/9/11.

    TTC#2 for a few months naturally (ha!)
    ~IUI#1, Clomid, Trigger,  10/13 - BFN
    ~IUI#2, Femera, Ovidrel, 11/13




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  • 1. It's killing me that DS doesn't have a sibling and we are trying so hard to get him one.

    2. The 3 days a week when I'm home with DS when he naps I do nothing but watch TV or take a nap.

    3. I don't find being a Mom and working outside the home that hard.
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  • I completely understand the whole not getting dressed thing.  I am a stay at home mom and I homeschool.   So we rarely get dressed unless we have to go to town or a homeschool event.  Summer attire around the farm is sweat shorts and t-shirts and winter attire is sweat pants and sweat shirts.  

    As far as being tired... right now I am doing okay.  Our son is 1 month old then I have a 10 year old daughter and a 23 year old son.   Yep I like to spread them out.    I had my oldest son when I was 17, my daughter at 30 and our newborn at 41.

    1. I am so glad we do not have company except for my father in law on occasion because my house normally looks as if a bomb has went off in it at any given moment.  It isn't "dirty" dirt but just untidy.

    2. The "flower" of choice this year is weeds.  OHH MY GOSH, I need to get out there and pull some weeds before they take over the spot where flowers should be LOL

    3. I love evenings when my husband is home and I can get on the computer with out the need to type one handed.

    4. My LO usually is covered in the crumbs of what ever I ate for breakfast or lunch, since he feels the need to eat at that exact moment I think he is asleep and go grab a bite to eat. :)

    5. This past Saturday my husband came in from working outside and I had him  sit down and watch Cavin so our daughter and I could go garage saleing for a couple hours. mwahahaha  When I came home they were both a sleep in the chair.

    6. I really enjoy our early morning feeding when it is just me and Cavin, after my husband has left for work and our daughter is still asleep.

    Being an older mom is not as bad as people said it would be.

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  • It seems a lot easier being a parent to an infant this time. When I was 19 and parenting, I was so busy feeling sorry for myself, it took me a while to realize I should enjoy my baby. This time, I feel like all I'm doing is enjoying the baby and I don't really care if that means we eat take out way too much.

    Sometimes I wish my hubby could hear the baby fussing in the middle of the night. Other times, I don't mind having the baby all to myself.

    In that vein, I'm counting the days until hubby goes back to work. 

    I'm tired. And, it's mostly because I don't want to wake sleeping hubby.

  • mwdmwd member
    Thanks for the post!  DH and I are having a hard time agreeing on parenting lately. I feel that we should both putting everything into parenting, DH is more self centered.  It is making me exhausted.  
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  • I'll play.  

    I don't like my stepdaughter.  She's 21 and highly selfish. As long as I've known her all she does is hurt her father.  He does everything for her. She jumps from one guy to the next like they are water.  She got pregnant right after I did.  Her baby just turned one a couple weeks ago and she's on guy number 2 after her baby's father. She dumped baby's father while she was pregnant, picked up guy number 1 at the end of her pregnancy, they got engaged after 6 months together, were living together, then about 2 months ago they broke up, she moved back in with her mother and 2 weeks later was in a relationship with another guy who she "loves".  She quit her job at Taco Bell because they wouldn't let her have her phone during a team meeting (15 minutes) and her baby had a fever, um, she was supposedly with a capable adult, and it was a slight fever, so you need your phone???  This was in January and she still doesn't have a job.  But that's because she's too busy finding guys to pay her bills for her.

    Sorry, that turned into more of a rant.

    Here's one more:

    I let DD watch Mickey Mouse Clubhouse, Sofia the First and Octonauts on the weekends.  She loves them and I see no reason not to let her watch. 

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  • I, too, have guilt. I feel guilty for letting my son play by himself as long as he wants. He will sit on the floor and play with the pile of toys for an undetermined amount of time. I think the longest he has gone (before my guilt kicks in) is an hour.

    I am glad that I waited to be an AMA momma. I got to do everything I wanted to (for the most part) before having him. I had a career, I socialized, moved to another state, travelled and learned a lot (about life in general and myself). I don't think I could be the mom I am today without having lived 40+years first. I often wonder how moms in their 20's could have experienced everything they needed to. Maybe I'm just a late bloomer.

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    imageBootsyLou:

    I'll play!

     I don't find motherhood hard at all.  It's all consuming, but not hard

      

    I feel this way 100%.  However, if I had had kids earlier I don't know that I would have enjoyed it the way I do now.  Quite the conumdrum....



    I agree with all of this.

    We also stay in pajamas late on weekends.

    I sometimes send C to daycare and realize I didn't brush his hair.

    On weekends I sometimes won't change C's overnight diaper till he has been up a couple hours because he will fight and scream and he wakes up so happy and smiley.  I just want to enjoy his happy first thing in the morning.

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  • KL777KL777 member

    -I have no desire to mother mulitple children.  One and Done works perfectly for our family.

    -My first two years as a SAHM were great! The third year was BORING and irritating with the whining and tantrums.

    -When I EBF (exclusively breastfed), occasionally I did supplement with formula.

    -DH and I get more couple time, "me" time, and have more money with one child versus multiple.

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    Great idea!

    1. DS1 never, ever had store bought baby food. I made all his purees then moved into BLW. I made DS2's earliest foods - purees and cereals - but he has become so incredibly ravenous that I've been relying on the squeezee pouches to supplement his breakfast and snacks. NBD, but I feel bad for not having it in me to be as hardcore with the homemade food with DS2 as I was for DS1.

    2. I sometimes bribe DS1 with cartoons to keep him quiet while trying to get DS2 to nap.

    3. DS1 farting around because he wanted to take something with him to school this morning and I yelled at him because we were late.

    4. I'm lucky to have 2 babies, but I also sometimes feel that we should have started sooner so our 2 could be 3 or 4.

  • imageCheezeFace:
    imageBootsyLou:

    I'll play!

     I don't find motherhood hard at all.  It's all consuming, but not hard

      

    I feel this way 100%.  However, if I had had kids earlier I don't know that I would have enjoyed it the way I do now.  Quite the conumdrum....

     

    This, I say that it's the best and easiest job in the world. As long as you don't have anything else you need or want to do. ;) 

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  • Mine will make everyone feel great I guess...lol

    i find parenting incredibly hard, almost all the time, but I will make myself feel better about it bc I have twins, and they are four,  and they were not and are not "easy" babies/kids. Love them to death, and they are hlarious and fun a lot of the time, but easy is really not a word to describe them...it is all good though. But I will say, once they can move, talk back, throw 30 min screaming tantrums about their clothes or not reading 100 books or bc you ran out of their favorite breakfast food, it gets harder. But it might just be me, hat is entirely possible too. Lol.

    ds swallowed a bead from his sisters necklace kit today. I felt better tho b/c at first he told me he swallowed her entire necklace so the bead was like a big relief, not to mention it is really small..  He is also almost four and not poop potty trained and we have tried everything. Pt training stinks (literally and figuratively ) but I know this too shall pass and will soon be a semi funny memory...

    I also don't mind being a slightly older mom other than the tired factor. 

  • All of these make me smile. The confessions are all very real. I forget to brush her teeth, and I didn't change her into Jammie's last night because she fell asleep really early. She will be two in November and I'm due in December. I don't want to take her to see Santa. Not that I object to Santa, I just don't want to stand in line. I put on makeup every day, but I don't always get dressed up. I encourage naps so I can watch sports on tv. I haven't weeded my garden in... Like, ever, and my mom came over today and did it :)
  • IlumineIlumine member
    edited August 2013
    1) I loath playing dolls, barbies, horsies, etc with my DD. I did not play dolls/etc when I was a kid and I just cannot do it. I will read with her. I will color. We do tons of crafts. We garden. We cook. We spend hours in the water at he beach. But I cannot do make believe, which leads me to sucking at it when we do play, that she is even more hurt then when I say no, 

    2) I am perpetually tired. But I don't know if its becuase DD is such an early bird or becuase DH snores and we don't have a spare bed for me to sleep on (I a, typing this from the sofa right now). 

     3) we watch way mote tv than we should. But that goes back to my early riser. When your up at 6am, there really isn't a whole lot to do...or we use up everything g we could do before noon. Hence the hours on end at the beach or tons of Disney JR
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  • LO is ending the summer with a rich golden tan. We just constantly forget.
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  • anchibaanchiba member
    edited August 2013
    1.  I'm feeling incredibly guilty about the prospect of being one and done. On one hand I want DS to have a sibling, on the other hand I'm terrified of having a child with serious developmental issues. I thought I'd be totally okay with one, but now I'm having major doubts ... but I'm too scared to do anything about it.

    2.  I feel embarrassed about wanting a daughter. If we ttc again I want to try for a girl but feel kind of ridiculous even saying that!

    3.  I'm still wearing some of my maternity clothes! A pair of jeggings, a dress, and a maxi skirt. I feel a bit strange about it, but I just love the dress and skirt and they don't look "maternity". The jeggings I just wear to the grocery store, etc.

    4.  I'm incredibly frustrated that I'm not losing weight any faster. But it's so hard to find time to go to the gym. Sigh.

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  • Ok, ladies, I'm new to this board, but since I qualify, I'll make some confessions.

    1.  I haven't washed a single bottle since LO was born (she'll be 2 in October).   We don't have a dishwasher that's worth a damn, so they have to be hand washed...and they're Dr. Brown bottles with 8000 pieces per bottle.  I have "greased" my husband into doing all of the bottle washing by trading that chore with BJs.  That's right...5-10 minutes around 9pm, 5-ish times a week has gotten me out of this chore.  And something about that makes me feel empowered.

    2.  When I get home from work, DH and DD instantly swarm me.  And while it's nice to be missed, I don't get ONE SECOND of alone time...ever.  I have someone who rides with me to work, so I don't even get the car ride to jam to some tunes and zone out.  I daydream about having ONE NIGHT in a hotel, by myself, ordering room service, having some wine, watching whatever I want on tv, read without someone going "Mama!!" or "Ang!", and sleep without worrying about diapers and whether the baby got the right food for dinner.

    3. When Sabrina is in a particularly bad tantrum, I keep cheese puffs around constantly because she LOVES those things, even though I know they're crap.  They do calm her down though, so it's cool with me.

    4. I love my daughter more than anything, and honestly my husband is the best I could imagine.  I would love to have one more, but I'm terrified of being pregnant again.  I wish I could get pregnant, they could put me in a coma, and wake me up at about 38 weeks.  Delivery is a piece of cake...I'm petrified of the pregnancy.  And time is a' tickin'.  Our personal cutoff for kids is when I turn 40 (and most of that "rule" is based on hubby's age...he's 42 now, I'm 35.  He thinks that 47 is old enough to become a dad again.  It's arbitrary...but that's where we are right now.

    5.  I have blown my hair dry exactly ONE time on my own since February of 2010.  I have no plans in rectifying this frizzy situation any time soon.

    6.  Oh, and I call my vodka "mommy juice."  I don't drink much, but when I feel myself losing it, I take a shot and relax.

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  • Hi, Over 35 Lurker here - but I'll play!

    1) I loathe giving DS baths. LOATHE it.  Sure, it's cute to watch DS splash around, but from the moment he gets in the tub I'm counting down waiting for the battle trying to get him out without a full on meltdown or him cracking his head because he's trying to pull away from me.  As such, DS gets a bath 2, maybe 3, times a week.  Rest of the days, he gets a wipedown with a washcloth, which is a whole other battle. 

    2) I whip out the pacifier to have a moment (or ten moment's worth) of peace way too often.  I know we have to break DS of his dependence on it eventually, but first I have to break myself of it.

    3) I get up at 6 am everday just to sit by myself and watch TV - not to work out - which is one of my main guilts right now - but to watch TV that I have DVR'd.  I love every minute of this time to myself.

    4) My brain is mush.  I thought "mommy brain" was just a cliche but I absolutely have it.  I cannot remember the most simple words sometimes.  I must sound moronic to people.

    5) My dog notices when I have on nice clothes. Seriously. When I'm in work clothes or going out to dinner clothes my dog gets all crazy wondering what's going on.  That's how rarely I dress up.  I work at home and I am in some version of sweats almost everyday.  It occurred to me the other day that I could be nominated for "What Not To Wear," and it made me kind of sad because I used to love getting dressed up.  I just don't have the energy for it right now.

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