Want another baby but hubby isn't into it right now :(

Starlight811

I want another child and we have a almost 2 year old together and i have a stepson who is 7 going on 8 this summer. We always talked about having 3 all together and waiting to have the last one where they were at least 2 years apart. Since my youngest is almost 2, i want to try for another so if I get pregnant soon they will be almost 3 years apart. My husband thinks its too soon bc our 2 year old is the "baby" of the house still and I get that but i really don't want the kids 4 years apart I'd like them closer and I feel it would be easier for me to transition a new baby into the family next year rather then 2 years later when the baby stage is no more in our home. Anyone else go through this? I don't want to push another child into our lives if we aren't on the same page but maybe 4 years apart isn't that bad?

tracy41

Maybe you could point out to your husband that even if you got pregnant today your son would be close to 3 by the time the baby came! And how likely is it that you'll get pregnant immediately?

rosesandpeonies

I would let it go for an entire month.  Don't talk about it etc.  Then I would sit down with him one night and tell him how important it is to you and that your really want to bring another child into this world. 

My brother is 7 years older than me and my sister and brother are 12 and 13 years younger we are all close now.  Same parents.  So no 4 years isn't a big deal.

Starlight811

Thats good advice...i just hate having regrets and wishing we would have started sooner bc it may take a while to get pregnant. If it does become a 4 year difference i think that would be okay but of course i would personally like to start sooner. Thanks girls!

dragon_chica

Starlight811:

Thats good advice...i just hate having regrets and wishing we would have started sooner bc it may take a while to get pregnant. If it does become a 4 year difference i think that would be okay but of course i would personally like to start sooner. Thanks girls!

Sure, who wouldn't want things to go on their schedule and with their wants and needs?  But, in the end it's better to have this next child when he's ready too even if it means there's a slightly bigger age gap.  The alternative is to "convince" him to start sooner and you have a resentful DH.

Love My Lil Princess 509

I agree, give it a few weeks, a month, and sit down and talk to him about it. I think 2-3 years apart is a great age gap. Also, you can most def. get pregnant right away if you want, and Mother Nature does too, if you time it right. We got pregnant both times the first month.

Starlight811

All sounds like good advice, i will wait and bring it up naturally after a month, we've got time :