WWPD?

NativeFloridian

My eldest daughter is almost 6 years old and just about to finish up kindergarten.  As the year has gone on it's been increasingly difficult to instill a sense of responsibility in her.

Of course, a lot of this has to do with living with my parents, as my parents are the type of grandparents who are unapologetic about interfering with my parenting, resulting in an inconsistency that naturally causes some behavior issues.

But what bugs me is that nothing I say or do seems to make this kid understand that what she's done is a problem.  For instance, I had all of her homework for tonight set out for her, ready for after she'd had a snack and played a bit.

Getting her to focus on her homework was a nightmare.  She did everything BUT her homework, and after I cut out all the distractions I could she simply started complaining about various discomforts on her immediate person.  After finally overcoming that and getting the math portion done, I realized her spelling homework had mysteriously disappeared.

Disappearing homework is also common, and she always expects me to find it for her.  So today I refused, meaning the homework will likely remain missing and will be marked as a zero.  She is not worried about this at all.  This is basically my daughter:

 

And then she'll start trying to talk about other things and/or try to do my housework for me to try and distract me/butter me up in hopes that I will let it slide.

How do I get her to understand that taking a zero just because she doesn't feel like doing her homework is not okay, and that she can't make me forget about it by being a butt kisser?

ridesbuttons

First I'd like to say that IMO, 6 year olds should not have homework.

I'd say that if you do have homework, that 2 things happen.  Homework gets done right away and that the homework portion of the evening is limited to 10 or 15 minutes TOPS.

She's 6.  Don't make school a battle.

NativeFloridian

ridesbuttons:

First I'd like to say that IMO, 6 year olds should not have homework.

I'd say that if you do have homework, that 2 things happen.  Homework gets done right away and that the homework portion of the evening is limited to 10 or 15 minutes TOPS.

She's 6.  Don't make school a battle.

This is my line of thought, but the school system is the way it is, my kid is stuck in the mire, and I have to help her get along in it as best I can.  I can't just let her take zeroes, and I know she can do the work.  Since she does have the responsibility of homework I feel like it's my job to make sure she understands that it needs to be done.