Do you have a favorite?

marie2424

A favorite step kid that is?

I do. And I feel kinda bad about it. I would never let it show of course. My step son is 11 and just a really cool kid. I love to talk to him and pick his brain.

My step daughter is about to be 8 and just in a stage i'm not too fond of. She is whiny and complains a lot. I used to be very close with her so it kind of bothers me. I go back and forth it seems with who im closer with. But for right now my ss and I are bonding and I love it!

fellesferie

I love my kids equally. They're both biologically mine. 

But DD (3) is about a million times easier for me than DS (8). She's cooperative while DS talks back. She loves to learn new things while DS resists it. She snuggles and DS really only wants to roughhouse. DD will likely get to this stage DS is at, but right now I appreciate her!

Sunday924

Eh kinda but it's like comparing apples to oranges.. My SS 5 is so cute, he listens, and he doesn't talk back. I mean he has his moments but not often. SS 13 drives me BSC and I wish he didn't live with us. 

2chatter

I prefer the violent, ill tempered one over the sneaky, manipulative and malicious one....but struggle because they are nothing like DH.  DH prefers DS; he then prefers my two girls, then skids.  This is very, very hard to watch - but skids are hard to take.  It's to the point where DH's parents no longer have anything positive to say about skids, except to let me know that letting SS move in with us after HS would be a bad idea, or that SD lies and I should be careful.  Years of PA (frankly, before he even seperated from BM) have taken their toll.

hindsight's_a_biotch

I don't have step children but among the batch, I have favorites at any given moment, usually the one who isn't on my last nerves lolol.

As a whole, I love them equally and like them equally.

Although, the baby is at the bottom of the list today after poo poo picassoing his bed. 

Ginlyn0

I don't realy have a favorite, per say, but there have been stages where I have liked each kid a little more than the others.

DD was not my favorite kid around age 6-7 when a lot of her issues started rearing their ugly head. Oldest SS was the sweetest to me around the time he was 3-4, SD & DD fought alot and youngest SS was a total Daddy's boy. Then SD & oldest SS started getting on my nerves all the time fighting with each other and youngest SS and DD were the good ones. Now I would probably say that DD & SD tie for the least annoying, easiest to get along with, followed by DS because since's his young I know he can't help all his annoying behaviors and my two SSs fight constantly now and annoy me.

 I'm sure it will change soon though!

SimpleJane

I have 2 bio kids. J says I favor DS. I was an addict in young adult hood. I got clean when I was pregnant with DS and then moved away from my poisonous family and started over when he was only 2 or 3 months old. He changed my life. Or having him gave me a reason to change my life. I've been clean for 6 1/2 years now, and whenever the subject comes up J says 'I think you like DS more because he is your first and the reason you changed your life'.

In all actuality, DD is more fun. She's spunky and fun and we get to do girl stuff together. Also, she is constantly telling me how much she loves me and how beautiful I am, haha, so I eat that right up. She's my baby and my only girl so I feel like there is a special bond there. She's also very very stubborn and mouthy and we bump heads over little things a lot.

DS is more sweet and cuddly and sensitive. He doesn't misbehave much, is awesome in school, and is just super easy to parent. He's not my 'favorite' so much as he is just easier. Part of him being my first, and the fact that my life completely changed because of him also really does makes him special to me.

karatechrissy

I personally dislike most kids from the ages 7-10. 

It's just an annoying stage kids go through, and I"m sure I'll feel the same when my bio kids get there. lol.  

socloudy99

My favorite SKs are always which ever aren't in middle school at the time.

Seriously middle schoolers are the worst!

+just+j+

LOL!  No, I dis-liked them both equally.  Sad isn't it?  But I'm not the norm and had highly dysfunctional adult SK's.

socloudy99

wendilea:

socloudy99:

My favorite SKs are always which ever aren't in middle school at the time.

Seriously middle schoolers are the worst!

AMEN!  My DD's are both in middle school right now, and the middle school girl drama is killing me.  SD2 really mellowed out once she hit high school. 

Right now we have a junior in hs, 2 - 8th graders, and a 7th grader and all three of the middle schoolers have 10x the drama of the high schooler. Next year we will be 1 middle school and 3 high school so I am hoping it gets better. Even at sport/school events I have to sit as far away from the student section as possible because just hearing the drama from the other kids gets on my nerves. Terrible 2s and 3s my behind. It should be terrible 12s and 13s!