Question about 20 month olds tantrums

MrsNyberg09

He is having bad tantrums like when he gets mad he picks up his toys or anything he can get his little hands on and throws it, I mean chucks it. My question is, how do I disapline this behavior?

Chatterbug6917

I ignore it, i find that if i make a big deal out of it,  they tend to last longer,as long as he's not hurtning anyone/anything.

MrsNyberg09

what about when he hits?

NNGnome

DS isn't a big hitter, but he does tantrum a lot, I generally ignore the behaviour and redirect, for example, he used to get really mad when he told me he wanted to go to the Park and we didn't go immediately, I would just say well then we are not going, and go get this pens and paper out or something and wait for him to calm down and come over to do whatever it was I got out for him.

It can be a pain because I wanted to go out, but I don't want to reward the behaviour, so I ignore what we were going to do and just redirect for now, it seems to have worked as the tantrums seem to be less frequent and long...If he really isn't having any of it I put on Sesame Street, that always calms him down LOL.

For hitting (he does try to attack the cats every so often) we say no very sternly and be gentle, and he is usually good and changes his behaviour, if he doesn't the cats hiss and run away, so I guess they are teaching him about being less violent as he wants to pet them so he knows he has to be gentle if he wants them to stay around, and this seems to have affected his behaviour to us too, as he is rarely violent to us (I know it is still early days yet LOL)...not sure this helps you much unless you want to get a pet...sorry.

I would also post this on the toddler board, you may get more help there.

NWmommy1112

Believe me I know how you feel. My daught is 22 months old ans she started having tantrums around 18 months. Im sure i said no more times in a day then i took breaths! So for the last week I have tried time out. I have a small plastic chair put in a corner in my dinning room I also have a little timer on a small table. So heres an example of what happens:

She flings her juice cup after i tell her no more juice. I ask her to pick it up, she doesnt, I take her by the hand an put her in the chair i say things like " you are not allowed to throw things, you may hurt some one.Now you have two minutes to think about what you did" I turn on the timer an leave. she cries, in two minutes timer goes off i come back an i tell her why she was there, then i tell her if she apologies she is free to go.She says sorry i give her a hug and a kiss and send her on her way.

Since I started this I have already seen a big difference in her additude. She doesnt throw tantrums much now an when she does she often stops an and says shes sorry. I dont know if it will work for you but it may be worth a try. good luck.