Anyone have bio-kids and are/have adopted

Josh2415

I almost feel like I'm being greedy. We have 3 children and we are starting the adoption process to have more. We would like our children to all be fairly close in age, but we're open. The main goal is to not adopt older than our oldest. I've read that that can be more disruptive to the family dynamic in place. 

 DH and I have always wanted to adopt and discussed it before we were even married. We were each adopted by a Step-Parent, so we have some understanding of the gift we have been given and would love to do that for others. 

I'm just wondering if there are others out there who are going to or have blended their family in this way? What was your experience/thoughts? 

Dr.Loretta

I haven't, but we do have some parents here with a mix of bio, adopted, and sometimes also stepkids. You are not alone. I'm sure they'll chime in.

Josh2415

Foster-adopt

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MayDayGirl

We have one bio, one on the way and two adopted kids. We have one embryo in the freezer and plan to adopt seriously, oodles of more kids. We would love like 812 ! I don't see it as greedy, there are so so so many kids waiting for forever families and I wish more people would think like you after bio kids!

MayDayGirl

MayDayGirl:

We have one bio, one on the way and two adopted kids. We have one embryo in the freezer and plan to adopt seriously, oodles of more kids. We would love like 812 ! I don't see it as greedy, there are so so so many kids waiting for forever families and I wish more people would think like you after bio kids!

8 to 12, not 812 lol my dash doesn't show up, weird

ellekae

I have a 2-year old bio DD, and we are in the process of adopting a toddler from China's minor/correctable special needs program.

LOL at MayDay. 812 kids would be a lot. You'd def get a reality show. HA.

shortstuff15

We have 2 biological kids, are trying for #3 right now, and are planning on adopting at least a couple via international adoption.  Adoption has always been on my heart and via family circumstances it was placed on my husbands heart shortly after we got married.  We are not going to adopt older then our oldest, but we also don't want to disturb the birth order for our other kids either.  So we are kind of holding off until we are done having biological kids, or feel a very definite push to go now.

julandjo

We have two bio kids and have been in the waiting  stage of domestic infant adoption for 18 months.  Any day now baby!  

Stacy092306

We have one biological daughter, who is 3.  She is basically our miracle child through IVF, as she was the only embryo we had during any of our treatment cycles.  I really felt the pull to adopt internationally, and I got DH on board this past winter. We are so excited to add to our family through adoption.

smithpaint

We have 5 bio kids and are adopting our first child.  I had always thought we'd adopt a child or two when we were done having kids.  But once we have 5 kids the thought pretty much left my mind.  Then last fall I started thinking about it again and researching. 

 The boy we are adopting is 3 and will be next to youngest.  The other kids are super excited, but it's hard to say how they will be effected. 

potatohead

I have a bio DD and we adopted our second DD.  I love having the experience of both and wouldn't trade it for the world.  I also love having an open adoption.  DD's BM is super sweet.  It's such a neat, special relationship.

Josh2415

Our kids are 18m, 3yo and 5yo. We're open to adopting under 5yo, likely more like 3yo and under. Although I know this could be quite a long process, so really probably just at or under the age of our 3yo at the time. 

penguincrazy

We have 3 biokids and are adopting from China's special needs program.  The way I see it, anyone willing to open their hearts/homes/lives to a child who may not get one otherwise is about as far from greedy as you can get, especially when you factor in the significant costs, financially and emotionally, of adopting.  And foster-adopt is even less "greedy"! 

We, too, are not adopting older than our oldest, but our son will likely be older than at least one of the other two since we started with youngsters.  I say go for it and enjoy the ride.