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Do not fly

On mother's day. As I sit and type on my tablet behind tears on a plane in the aisle, I needed a place to vent. I've been gone for 5 days on a much needed vacation to Vegas so I have a lot to catch up on when I get to a computer on all you ladies . I opened up the menu and saw it's free drinks for mother's day on Southwest. Dh said it's for everyone according to the menu so we ordered drinks. The flight attendant then says "coupon or credit?" then Dh says, "isn't it a free drink for mother's day?" Flight attendant says, "well its free drinks only for mother's." then she looks at me and says "are you a mother?" I couldn't believe it. I said "yes" and thought of our 5 frozen babies and baby in heaven from our recent miscarriage. Then she suspiciously goes, "oh really. How many kids do you have?" so I said "5 and they're frozen babies from our ivf cycles." I don't know what she thought after that but she is not one of us. She then charged Dh for 1drink and said "I am only charging you for 1 drink so I'm giving you one for free." I had to listen to her proceed to ask every female ordering a drink if they were a mother.  As she walked to the next aisle, I started to cry. Good news is, it took me awhile to type so the tears have dried up. Vent over. Thanks for listening. 

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Married June 2011 Dx: anovulatory due to prolactinoma (1.5cmx 1.5cm in 2006)
April 2012: MRI- questionable cyst 8mg by 12mm in pituitary ; referred to RE by Ob-gyn after amenorrhea x 4+ months, provera ineffective, low estrogen level
cycle 1: May 2012, clomid 50mg; cycle cancelled, thin lining, no response
cycle 2: June 2012, femara 5mg; cycle cancelled, no response
cycle 3: July 2012, femara 7.5mg; cycle cancelled (largest folli on Cd12 & cd 16: 11, lining 4)
Repeat MRI July 25,2012- Cyst unchanged, likely old infarction.
Aug. 8: met with RE, move to injectables if HSG and SA normal
Aug. 23: HSG all clear; DH- perfect
Switched to a new RE in early Sept. IVF here we come
Genetic testing reveals: Fragile X- Intermediate risk/grey zone.
IVF#1: ER 11/30: 14 retrieved, 10 mature, 7 fertilized. E2 prior to trigger 5200. Decision made to freeze 6 embryos and transfer later due to OHSS.
IVF#1.2/FET #1: estrogen injects start 1/18, FET delayed to try to thicken lining. lining 5.4mm. FET- 2/18- transferred one 3AA expanded blast. BFP 5dp5dt. Beta #1- 2/27 9dp5dt- 102.27 beta #2 3/1: 147 :(, beta #3 3/4: 268 told to stop meds and let nature take its course. requested 4th beta (3/6); Beta hell for 2 months.

FET # 2: endometrial scratch 5/6, added estrace vaginally and ASA to delestrogen and PIO. June 10- transferred one 4AA hatched embryo, BFP 4dp6dt, Beta 1 (9dp6dt) 187, Beta 2 (11dp6dt): 412; Beta 3 (15dp6dt ): 4452. U/S #1- one beautiful embryo with a heartbeat of 133 at 7 weeks.  8 weeks: heartbeat 156. EDD 2/26/2014: born 2-3-14 induced due to Pre-E and HELLP at 36w5d.

12/1: met with RE to discuss trying for #2


Re: Do not fly

  • Oh my god! Awful! Big hugs. I'd write a scathing letter to the CEO of the airline. Not that it will do any good but might help you vent. Ugh!!! 

    TTC #1 since 8/1/10; Me:41 and BRCA1+, DH:46
    DOR (FSH 24.3)/ terrible egg quality ; homozygous MTHFR c677t
    5 IUI's: 2/11 to 6/11 and 1/12= BFN
    OE IVF#1-4 8/11-6/12= all BFN
    DE IVF#1 11/12 bad embryos= BFN
    DE IVF #2 2/13 BFP/Beta hell: m/c 5w6d
    CFNBC 7 months, not doing well; decided on guarantee program at RBA w/frozen DE
    DE IVF #3 1/14  ET 4BB; BFP;M/C 5w1d, incomplete m/c; MVA extraction in ER 7w1d

    DE FET#1 ET 3/1714; BFP, beta 1 3/27= 197, beta 2 3/31= 1586, beta 3 4/7= 13879!!
    First u/s= Twins with HBs at 6w2d! We are Team Pink x 2!!

    K & K born 11/21/14 at 38wks 4 days

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  • Oh God. That is awful.

    I'm stuck out of town for work and when I went to the hotel restaurant today they were serving a 75 dollar Mother's Day brunch buffet ... with no option to order anything else. I just wanted a modest lunch. I complained to the manager ... told him I was staying at the hotel and was there alone and just wanted to be able to eat! He gave me the buffet for 1/3 the price. Which was still not cheap but whatever. I'm glad I complained. Not everyone's being treated to expensive Mother's Day festivities!
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  • Oh my goodness! That's just awful. I'm so sorry you had to go through that. I wish I could kick IF to the moon.
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  • Oh wow.  That is rough.  I am sorry you had that experience.  When you feel up to it, you should write Southwest a note and let them know how you were made to feel...hopefully they would find some way to make up 1% of the crappiness to you.

     
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    ttc since 10/2008; d/x: mild MFI, stageII endo
    ~~PAIF/SAIF Welcome~~
    11 IUI’s = 1 m/c (7w4d)
    IVF#1 January 2012 BFN, FET #1 April 2012 BFN
    Surprise BFP October 2012 m/c (7w), Surprise BFP April 2013 m/c (6w4d)
    IVF #2: July 2013, ET 1 embryo 7/18, beta 1 @ 14dp3dt - 757, beta 2 @ 16dp3dt - 1762
    U/S 1 @ 6w4d = 1 little frogger with HB of 118, U/S 2 @ 7w3d measuring right on track with HB of 160
    Stick Frogger Stick! Please!!!!!!!!!!!!!   It's a Girl, EDD April 7, 2014

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  • I am floored. I am absolutely FUMING. I am so angry that this happened to you. 

    I read your post to DH and he is furious also. It is WRONG on so many levels. You are a mother, you will always be a mother. Don't you let some a-hole attendant/airline tell you otherwise. I have such colorful words that I will keep to myself...but...ARGH.

    I will not mention you, and of course I don't even have the details of your situation/flight/name etc. But I saw that they posted their "free drink to mom's on Mother's day" on their site" and this is enough for me to write them a letter explaining the painful implications of such a stupid thing to do.

    https://www.southwest.com/html/about-southwest/whats-new.html

    I plan to write not only on behalf of all of us facing infertility, miscarriage, and loss...but how about those who may have lost a child in Sandy hook? Illness? Iraq? Car accidents? What is their "official policy" on that? I'm just livid. I will let you guys know what I find out. If anyone else wants to write them about this, here is the CEOs contact info. I've written to CEOs for stuff before, they do read them. At least someone does. They usually do care. Here is their contact info.

    Gary C Kelly

    Southwest Airlines

    2702 Love Field Dr

    Dallas, TX 75235 

     

    Take good care of yourself, sweetie. That is just WRONG.

     

    ************ Signature/Ticker Warning ************
    Me (32) DH (36) - Finding our way to baby #1
    Me: POF/DOR - AMH <0.16, heterozygous c677t MTHFR, insulin resistant and gluten intolerant
    DH: Severe MFI

    12/2/11 - IUI #1- BFN 
    8/1/12 - IVF #1 - Zero response from max stims (600iu intramuscularly)

    My ovaries are just for decoration

    12/6/12 - Adopted five embryos that had been frozen for over ten years!
    2/11/13 - DEmbryo FET #1 Thawed four, sadly two didn't survive. Transferred two beautiful blasts. 
    2/16/13 - First BFP of my life @ 6dp5dt! EDD 10/30/13
    3/27/13 - After beta and u/s hell, no heartbeat ever detected. D&C at 9w1d.

    6/5/13 - Adopted four new embryos that had been frozen for seven years!
     
    9/12/13 - DEmbryo FET #2. Thawed and transferred two beautiful blasts
    9/17/13 - BFP @ 5dp6dt! EDD 05/31/14
    9/29/13 - m/c @ 5w1d. :(

    11/19/13 - DEmbryo FET #3. Thawed and transferred one blast from each batch. Wow!
    11/23/13 - BFP @ 4dp6dt! EDD 8/7/13
    Beta #1 @ 13dp6dt - 522  Beta #2 @ 16dp6dt - 1373 
    6w5d ultrasound showed one perfect baby with a beautiful heartbeat of 134bpm!

    Snowflake baby is a girl! 
    Our beautiful Snowflake girl arrived on July 22, 2014!   
    My embryo adoption blog: Wishing on a Snowflake
     
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  • imageliz4paws:

    I am floored. I am absolutely FUMING. I am so angry that this happened to you. 

    I read your post to DH and he is furious also. It is WRONG on so many levels. You are a mother, you will always be a mother. Don't you let some a-hole attendant/airline tell you otherwise. I have such colorful words that I will keep to myself...but...ARGH.

    I will not mention you, and of course I don't even have the details of your situation/flight/name etc. But I saw that they posted their "free drink to mom's on Mother's day" on their site" and this is enough for me to write them a letter explaining the painful implications of such a stupid thing to do.

    https://www.southwest.com/html/about-southwest/whats-new.html

    I plan to write not only on behalf of all of us facing infertility, miscarriage, and loss...but how about those who may have lost a child in Sandy hook? Illness? Iraq? Car accidents? What is their "official policy" on that? I'm just livid. I will let you guys know what I find out. If anyone else wants to write them about this, here is the CEOs contact info. I've written to CEOs for stuff before, they do read them. At least someone does. They usually do care. Here is their contact info.

     

    Gary C Kelly

    Southwest Airlines

    2702 Love Field Dr

    Dallas, TX 75235 

     

     

    Take good care of yourself, sweetie. That is just WRONG.

     

    Love! You are so cute:-)

    TTC #1 since 8/1/10; Me:41 and BRCA1+, DH:46
    DOR (FSH 24.3)/ terrible egg quality ; homozygous MTHFR c677t
    5 IUI's: 2/11 to 6/11 and 1/12= BFN
    OE IVF#1-4 8/11-6/12= all BFN
    DE IVF#1 11/12 bad embryos= BFN
    DE IVF #2 2/13 BFP/Beta hell: m/c 5w6d
    CFNBC 7 months, not doing well; decided on guarantee program at RBA w/frozen DE
    DE IVF #3 1/14  ET 4BB; BFP;M/C 5w1d, incomplete m/c; MVA extraction in ER 7w1d

    DE FET#1 ET 3/1714; BFP, beta 1 3/27= 197, beta 2 3/31= 1586, beta 3 4/7= 13879!!
    First u/s= Twins with HBs at 6w2d! We are Team Pink x 2!!

    K & K born 11/21/14 at 38wks 4 days

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  • I'm so sorry you went through this! What a ridiculous flight attendant! Hope the rest of your day got better...{{{HUGS}}}
    Married 2007
    3 Clomid IUIs -- BFNs
    IVF #1 never made it to transfer
    On "egg health" cocktail DHEA/CoQ10/FRC/Pregnitude/Melatonin
    Starting IVF #2 for Feb 2013
    Follistim/Menopur/Ganirelix
    Cancelled mid-cycle due to high P4 levels early on.
    OCPs again for IVF 2.5 mid-March. IVF 2.5 transferred two "gorgeous" 5-day blasts and BFFN. Even REI is baffled
    On indefinite hold until a huge stroke of serendipity led me to IVF 3 May 2014
    Testing found positive cardiolipins/APS, now on lovenox and intralipid infusions
    Transfer of 2 5-day blasts and (FINALLY) BFFP!! 1st ultrasound shows two sacs and two HB, but one is sluggish, almost expecting vanishing twin Subsequent ultrasound confirmed vanishing twin, but my other Little critter looks fantastic!
    "You may have to fight a battle more than once to win it."
    -- Margaret Thatcher


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  • imageMrs.McIrish:
    imageliz4paws:

    I am floored. I am absolutely FUMING. I am so angry that this happened to you. 

    I read your post to DH and he is furious also. It is WRONG on so many levels. You are a mother, you will always be a mother. Don't you let some a-hole attendant/airline tell you otherwise. I have such colorful words that I will keep to myself...but...ARGH.

    I will not mention you, and of course I don't even have the details of your situation/flight/name etc. But I saw that they posted their "free drink to mom's on Mother's day" on their site" and this is enough for me to write them a letter explaining the painful implications of such a stupid thing to do.

    https://www.southwest.com/html/about-southwest/whats-new.html

    I plan to write not only on behalf of all of us facing infertility, miscarriage, and loss...but how about those who may have lost a child in Sandy hook? Illness? Iraq? Car accidents? What is their "official policy" on that? I'm just livid. I will let you guys know what I find out. If anyone else wants to write them about this, here is the CEOs contact info. I've written to CEOs for stuff before, they do read them. At least someone does. They usually do care. Here is their contact info.

     

    Gary C Kelly

    Southwest Airlines

    2702 Love Field Dr

    Dallas, TX 75235 

     

     

    Take good care of yourself, sweetie. That is just WRONG.

     

    Love! You are so cute:-)

    Not sure what is cute about that.... ;-)

    I'm sincerely furious and I know many are probably thinking that writing a letter won't matter. I used to feel that way too. Most big companies front-line customer support people generally don't give a crap about anything and just clock in and clock out. But I've actually written to a couple of CEOs before over issues in the past: Ti.me War.ner, AT.&T, and I've actually received a meaningful response when no one else gave any kind of crap about my issue. Someone in SWAs corporate headquarters wasn't thinking straight about how they would determine their official criteria for "mother" when they came up with this asinine free-drink thing. Writing them might help them realize it's not only insensitive, it's bad for business because frankly it makes me (and I'm sure others) not want to fly with them anymore. And if they don't have a compassionate response to my letter, I won't plan to fly with them again. BrideJackie didn't deserve this and the many other women who were questioned about whether or not they were mother enough for a free drink can maybe find another airline who doesn't do this kind of crap.

    I'm sorry, this really struck a chord. I need to at least try to bring awareness to infertility and loss to SWA.

    BrideJackie, my heart just has hurt for you so much ever since I read this. 

    ************ Signature/Ticker Warning ************
    Me (32) DH (36) - Finding our way to baby #1
    Me: POF/DOR - AMH <0.16, heterozygous c677t MTHFR, insulin resistant and gluten intolerant
    DH: Severe MFI

    12/2/11 - IUI #1- BFN 
    8/1/12 - IVF #1 - Zero response from max stims (600iu intramuscularly)

    My ovaries are just for decoration

    12/6/12 - Adopted five embryos that had been frozen for over ten years!
    2/11/13 - DEmbryo FET #1 Thawed four, sadly two didn't survive. Transferred two beautiful blasts. 
    2/16/13 - First BFP of my life @ 6dp5dt! EDD 10/30/13
    3/27/13 - After beta and u/s hell, no heartbeat ever detected. D&C at 9w1d.

    6/5/13 - Adopted four new embryos that had been frozen for seven years!
     
    9/12/13 - DEmbryo FET #2. Thawed and transferred two beautiful blasts
    9/17/13 - BFP @ 5dp6dt! EDD 05/31/14
    9/29/13 - m/c @ 5w1d. :(

    11/19/13 - DEmbryo FET #3. Thawed and transferred one blast from each batch. Wow!
    11/23/13 - BFP @ 4dp6dt! EDD 8/7/13
    Beta #1 @ 13dp6dt - 522  Beta #2 @ 16dp6dt - 1373 
    6w5d ultrasound showed one perfect baby with a beautiful heartbeat of 134bpm!

    Snowflake baby is a girl! 
    Our beautiful Snowflake girl arrived on July 22, 2014!   
    My embryo adoption blog: Wishing on a Snowflake
     
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  • How horrible! I want to write to them too! Hugs!!!!
    "Everything will be alright in the end. So if it's not alright, it is not yet the end."
    Me:29 DH:29  TTC since 1/11 Dx: unexplained IF/early DOR/immune issues 
    Feb'12- July'12-testing(all clear minus slight arcuate ute), 3 IUI with clomid all BFN
    8/30IVF#1 Antagonist protocol- ER 9/11-8R, 7M, 5F. 
    ET 9/14 2 embies transferred. 1 10cell Grade 4, 1 8cell Grade 4. No frosties. BFN
    IVF#2 Antagonist protocol plus baby aspirin- ER 12/5-16R, 12M, 8F!
    ET 12/10 5dt! 1 fully expanded blast & 1 early blast. No frosties. BFN
    3/13 hysteroscopy & polypectomy, Consulted w Dr. Kwak-Kim.  
    DX: High NK cells, cytokines, DHEAs& PAI1;  hypothyroid, +APA, restricted bloodflow
    7/13 IVF#3 Long lupron protocol with PIO, Crinone, Prometrium, and vivelle
    (plus synthroid, metformin, baby asa, metanx, PNV, Vit E, D, calcium, fish oil, CoQ10, IVIg infusions and lovenox per Dr. Kwak-kim)
    ER 7/19 14R, 11M, 9F(4 natural fert, 5 with ICSI)
    ET 5dt 7/24 2 fully expanded blasts.  SURPRISE 3 FROSTIES!!!
    Beta #1 8/2 335!!!! Beta #2 829!!!  1st u/s 8/14 showed TWINS!!!!!
    11/11: TEAM PURPLE!!!!!
    3/21/14-L&W born at 37w via csection

    Here Comes the Sun Blog
    PAIF/SAIF welcome!
  • Wow.  Just wow.  I'm so sorry that you and probably many others were treated so horribly.  ((hugs))
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    Me: 29 (3/5/13- high NK cells)  DH: 28 (5/8/12- MFI low morph and motility)
    Cycle #21 (IUI#1), Cycle #22 (HSG 9/21/12) and Cycle #23 (IUI#2)=  image
    Cycle #24- December Snow Bunny IVF #1
    ER 12/6/12 (14R, 11M, 9F), ET 12/9/12 transferred 2 day 3 embies
    Bleeding and low betas=very cautious image C/P 5W3D
    Cycle #26 March Lucky Duck- FET #1
    scheduled 3/20/13- CANCELLED- lining issues
    Cycle #27 May Emerald- FET #1.2
    delayed- Starting Trental for 3 months + natural cycles Cycle #28-30=  image
    Cycle #31 August Shooting Star- FET #1.3 
    transferred 1 hatching blast 8/21/13= imageBetas 8/30 (108) and 9/3 (565)

    U/S 9/19/13- HR is 128!  U/S #2 10/4/13- HR is 174!
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  • imageMrs.McIrish:
    imageliz4paws:

    I am floored. I am absolutely FUMING. I am so angry that this happened to you. 

    I read your post to DH and he is furious also. It is WRONG on so many levels. You are a mother, you will always be a mother. Don't you let some a-hole attendant/airline tell you otherwise. I have such colorful words that I will keep to myself...but...ARGH.

    I will not mention you, and of course I don't even have the details of your situation/flight/name etc. But I saw that they posted their "free drink to mom's on Mother's day" on their site" and this is enough for me to write them a letter explaining the painful implications of such a stupid thing to do.

    https://www.southwest.com/html/about-southwest/whats-new.html

    I plan to write not only on behalf of all of us facing infertility, miscarriage, and loss...but how about those who may have lost a child in Sandy hook? Illness? Iraq? Car accidents? What is their "official policy" on that? I'm just livid. I will let you guys know what I find out. If anyone else wants to write them about this, here is the CEOs contact info. I've written to CEOs for stuff before, they do read them. At least someone does. They usually do care. Here is their contact info.

     

    Gary C Kelly

    Southwest Airlines

    2702 Love Field Dr

    Dallas, TX 75235 

     

     

    Take good care of yourself, sweetie. That is just WRONG.

     

    Love! You are so cute:-)

    All of the above. I usually love all things Southwest. Going to write an email now.

     

    TTC #1 since 12/2010 DH: MFI, cancer survivor Me: Resected septate uterus, lap treated mild endo, tubes open, ovulate on own, autoimmune disease 3 Failed IUI's (2/2012, 4/2012, 6/2012) 
    IVF #1 August 2012. BFP! Beta #1 56.7 Beta #2 150 One baby, one heartbeat on 9/20/12! no h/b @7w6d. dandc @8w0d
    FET #1 December 2012, BFN
    FET #2 February 2013, no embies survived thaw
    IVF #2, BFP #2, Loss #2 March 2013, Scar tissue discovered, RPL testing,
    IVF #3, BFP #3, Loss #3 (twins) September 2013
    Hostile ute, moving onto Gestational Carrier!

    GC/FET #1 of 1 5AA blast and 1 compacted blast, February 2014, BFP #4 on 3/1/2014!
    6w u/s 1 bean with h/b of 145 bpm, 8w u/s 187 bpm
    EDD 11/7/14. Please, please, please stick little one!

    Praying unceasingly for a miracle. ALL welcome!

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  • imageliz4paws:
    imageMrs.McIrish:
    imageliz4paws:

    I am floored. I am absolutely FUMING. I am so angry that this happened to you. 

    I read your post to DH and he is furious also. It is WRONG on so many levels. You are a mother, you will always be a mother. Don't you let some a-hole attendant/airline tell you otherwise. I have such colorful words that I will keep to myself...but...ARGH.

    I will not mention you, and of course I don't even have the details of your situation/flight/name etc. But I saw that they posted their "free drink to mom's on Mother's day" on their site" and this is enough for me to write them a letter explaining the painful implications of such a stupid thing to do.

    https://www.southwest.com/html/about-southwest/whats-new.html

    I plan to write not only on behalf of all of us facing infertility, miscarriage, and loss...but how about those who may have lost a child in Sandy hook? Illness? Iraq? Car accidents? What is their "official policy" on that? I'm just livid. I will let you guys know what I find out. If anyone else wants to write them about this, here is the CEOs contact info. I've written to CEOs for stuff before, they do read them. At least someone does. They usually do care. Here is their contact info.

     

    Gary C Kelly

    Southwest Airlines

    2702 Love Field Dr

    Dallas, TX 75235 

     

     

    Take good care of yourself, sweetie. That is just WRONG.

     

    Love! You are so cute:-)

    Not sure what is cute about that.... ;-)

    I'm sincerely furious and I know many are probably thinking that writing a letter won't matter. I used to feel that way too. Most big companies front-line customer support people generally don't give a crap about anything and just clock in and clock out. But I've actually written to a couple of CEOs before over issues in the past: Ti.me War.ner, AT.&T, and I've actually received a meaningful response when no one else gave any kind of crap about my issue. Someone in SWAs corporate headquarters wasn't thinking straight about how they would determine their official criteria for "mother" when they came up with this asinine free-drink thing. Writing them might help them realize it's not only insensitive, it's bad for business because frankly it makes me (and I'm sure others) not want to fly with them anymore. And if they don't have a compassionate response to my letter, I won't plan to fly with them again. BrideJackie didn't deserve this and the many other women who were questioned about whether or not they were mother enough for a free drink can maybe find another airline who doesn't do this kind of crap.

    I'm sorry, this really struck a chord. I need to at least try to bring awareness to infertility and loss to SWA.

    BrideJackie, my heart just has hurt for you so much ever since I read this. 

    Liz- Cute was not an insult! I meant that it was cute that you were providing the address for Southwest in an instant, like it was in your back pocket.

    TTC #1 since 8/1/10; Me:41 and BRCA1+, DH:46
    DOR (FSH 24.3)/ terrible egg quality ; homozygous MTHFR c677t
    5 IUI's: 2/11 to 6/11 and 1/12= BFN
    OE IVF#1-4 8/11-6/12= all BFN
    DE IVF#1 11/12 bad embryos= BFN
    DE IVF #2 2/13 BFP/Beta hell: m/c 5w6d
    CFNBC 7 months, not doing well; decided on guarantee program at RBA w/frozen DE
    DE IVF #3 1/14  ET 4BB; BFP;M/C 5w1d, incomplete m/c; MVA extraction in ER 7w1d

    DE FET#1 ET 3/1714; BFP, beta 1 3/27= 197, beta 2 3/31= 1586, beta 3 4/7= 13879!!
    First u/s= Twins with HBs at 6w2d! We are Team Pink x 2!!

    K & K born 11/21/14 at 38wks 4 days

    imageimage

    SAIF/PAIF Welcome


    http://waitingforraintostop.wordpress.com

  • imageMrs.McIrish:
    imageliz4paws:
    imageMrs.McIrish:
    imageliz4paws:

    I am floored. I am absolutely FUMING. I am so angry that this happened to you. 

    I read your post to DH and he is furious also. It is WRONG on so many levels. You are a mother, you will always be a mother. Don't you let some a-hole attendant/airline tell you otherwise. I have such colorful words that I will keep to myself...but...ARGH.

    I will not mention you, and of course I don't even have the details of your situation/flight/name etc. But I saw that they posted their "free drink to mom's on Mother's day" on their site" and this is enough for me to write them a letter explaining the painful implications of such a stupid thing to do.

    https://www.southwest.com/html/about-southwest/whats-new.html

    I plan to write not only on behalf of all of us facing infertility, miscarriage, and loss...but how about those who may have lost a child in Sandy hook? Illness? Iraq? Car accidents? What is their "official policy" on that? I'm just livid. I will let you guys know what I find out. If anyone else wants to write them about this, here is the CEOs contact info. I've written to CEOs for stuff before, they do read them. At least someone does. They usually do care. Here is their contact info.

     

    Gary C Kelly

    Southwest Airlines

    2702 Love Field Dr

    Dallas, TX 75235 

     

     

    Take good care of yourself, sweetie. That is just WRONG.

     

    Love! You are so cute:-)

    Not sure what is cute about that.... ;-)

    I'm sincerely furious and I know many are probably thinking that writing a letter won't matter. I used to feel that way too. Most big companies front-line customer support people generally don't give a crap about anything and just clock in and clock out. But I've actually written to a couple of CEOs before over issues in the past: Ti.me War.ner, AT.&T, and I've actually received a meaningful response when no one else gave any kind of crap about my issue. Someone in SWAs corporate headquarters wasn't thinking straight about how they would determine their official criteria for "mother" when they came up with this asinine free-drink thing. Writing them might help them realize it's not only insensitive, it's bad for business because frankly it makes me (and I'm sure others) not want to fly with them anymore. And if they don't have a compassionate response to my letter, I won't plan to fly with them again. BrideJackie didn't deserve this and the many other women who were questioned about whether or not they were mother enough for a free drink can maybe find another airline who doesn't do this kind of crap.

    I'm sorry, this really struck a chord. I need to at least try to bring awareness to infertility and loss to SWA.

    BrideJackie, my heart just has hurt for you so much ever since I read this. 

    Liz- Cute was not an insult! I meant that it was cute that you were providing the address for Southwest in an instant, like it was in your back pocket.

    Sorry, yesterday I think I was a little on edge. :) Yeah, Google is my friend! ha

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  • Thanks for all your support!!! I will definitely be writing a letter to the CEO :)

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  • hmz819hmz819 member

    I am so sorry you had to go through that.  They either should give all women a free drink on Mother's Day or none at all.  They should not "demand" proof that you are a mother. 

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  • Scoop77Scoop77 member

    Ugh. I'm sorry.

    If I'd been that flight attendant, I'd have given you and your H two free rounds on the house after hearing that.

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