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confusing mothers day

mel1987mel1987 member
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On mother's day of all days, I find myself so confused. I have two amazing children. They have a great father in their lives. I'm weeks away from having another baby, by a man who is not in the picture at all. This whole pregnancy has been weird, I feel totally disconnected from this baby. And now I am thinking, if I feel this way... should I keep her? Will she resent her siblings for having a father when she doesn't? Will I ever find a man that loves and respects a mother of three by two men? I'm okay with having a harder life. But is it unfair to this baby to keep her? Is it unfair to my other children?? Will they understand if I come home from the hospital empty handed? I need answers, I know I will love this baby entirely. ... but maybe love is knowing when to let go... I feel horrible posting this on today of all days... I'm so confused and looking for answers... any advice? Please be honest with me.
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  • Dr.LorettaDr.Loretta member

    First of all, happy Mothers Day. You have 2 great kids and another on the way.

    Neither answer is going to be right or wrong, and both have their difficulties. You have to do what's right for you and your family, whatever the consequences.

    If you are considering adoption, I recommend finding an agency that will give you unbiased options, including  resources should you decide to parent. I wish you peace with your decision

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  • mel1987mel1987 member
    Thanks for your response. I don't know what to do.
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  • mtenderemtendere member
    imageDr.Loretta:
    First of all, happy Mothers Day. You have 2 great kids and another on the way.Neither answer is going to be right or wrong, and bothnbsp;have their difficulties.nbsp;You have to do what's right for you and your family, whatever the consequences.If you are considering adoption, I recommend finding an agency that will give you unbiased options, including nbsp;resources should you decide to parent. I wish you peace with your decision


    I couldn't say it any better than this. Counseling is what you need most right now.
    ***************************** Our beautiful daughter was born in October 2009. Turns out she was quite the miracle. After two years of TTC, diagnosed with DOR. A couple of failed treatment cycles later, we decided to let go of our hope for more biological children and explore adoption.
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  • Ginger71Ginger71 member
    I have no advice but I hope you can come to a decision you are at peace with. Lots of (((hugs)))
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