Isn't it funny...

pregokat

How even though I know %100 who my sons father is.. 

that I'm the whore.. and I'm the slut...

I recently heard that my sons father is saying "there is a list of men for dna testing" and that I don't know who the father is..

He's the only person on the 'dna test list' lol, and he's the whore.. He created 2 children within less than 3 months... and wants to deny my child up and down left and right. He no showed to his first Dna test and then rescheduled for as far as possible. I can't wait for the test to come back and people can see he's full of lies. 

Its so hurtful hearing those types of things. I believed his lies in the first place and ended up in this situation, then he ran and disappeared. Yeah I made a mistake by not protecting myself from pregnancy better...

Is it wrong that I feel like a total victim.. ? I know that I have a blessing now, and I know that my life is so amazing, so much better than it was before.. But this sorry joke of a man is running my name through the mud, after he told me "I want to have kids with you, I want the white picket fence, the american dream" then ran away..

any similar experiences.. ? how did you deal with it.. ? any advice.. ?

Any time I think about it I try to stop the thoughts, redirect to how great my life is and I'm hoping I'll get over it.. I'm just so hurt that this is happening and "i'm the bad person"  

MinnesotaMomma91

My little mans dad has flat out denyed being the father because he didnt want to look bad for getting me pregnant. I had a casual fling with my best guy friend after seperating from my now ex husband and got pregnant. I feel sad for little mans bio dad because he is the one missing out.

And i have to admit its hard not to want to talk bad about him some days because he choose to leave. But i dont want to influence my son so once he is born i wont talk about his bio dad if it isnt nice

mel1987

Men are idiots. I am 100 positive of this baby's father and now that I'm super close to having the baby, he freaks out and emails me saying that he knows it's not his and he'll need a DNA test. Ugh. He's the one who went on a drug and sex binge after I told him that I'm pregnant. Part of me is glad that he doubts paternity, maybe he will disappear.

babymama619

You're telling me!! I was casually sleeping with a guy who lied about a vasectomy!!! we used confons for the first year then devided to give them up since "i was the only on he eas dleeping with". Then I found out he was married! So not only am I the slut, I'm also a home wrecker!!

I was thinking about how this sucks just yesterday. B//c when I tell people on pregnant and they ask about the day I play it off like it was just some guy. I'm sure I look like a careless idiot! Because I don't really want to go into all the sordid details. Ugh!

pregokat

I was thinking about how this sucks just yesterday. B//c when I tell people on pregnant and they ask about the day I play it off like it was just some guy. I'm sure I look like a careless idiot! Because I don't really want to go into all the sordid details. Ugh!

When I was prego my reply was simply "the father chose not to be involved" which was true, and nobody needs the details... Usually after you say that they don't dig more because they feel bad 

So I'm not alone in this, that makes me feel better, but still. I wish someone would chop off his nuts because a person like that doesn't deserve to be creating babies all over the place.

He's telling his newest baby mama, (their son is 2 months younger than mine) that I'm a jealous ***... And she believes all his lies... I feel so bad for her that she keeps taking him back... She's gonna have a rude awakening eventually, poor poor girl...

I left his when I learned that everything he was telling me was lies.. He begged for me back (I have the emails) He begged my friends through emails to talk to me and tell me to give him another chance... I was like nope you lied to me you're done.

Then I found out I was pregnant, and told him... and He agrees to come talk to me about it but no showed multiple times so I gave up on it.

I really have no idea how to get over all this hurt that one person has created. Its not something thats going to go away, I have a lifetime of raising a child of his with no support & he has the audacity to make it worse on me.. careless fool 

pregokat

mel1987:

Men are idiots. I am 100 positive of this baby's father and now that I'm super close to having the baby, he freaks out and emails me saying that he knows it's not his and he'll need a DNA test. Ugh. He's the one who went on a drug and sex binge after I told him that I'm pregnant. Part of me is glad that he doubts paternity, maybe he will disappear.

 

i got an email during my last month of pregnancy as well. Saying "I'm going to laugh in your face if you go for child support because I'm going to make you take a paternity test and your going to end up paying for it because I'm not the father, I'm not physically able to have kids" (while he had a pregnant girlfriend whom he was living with)

 I wish he'd disappear too. The state I live in makes us cooperate with child support enforcement if we are on foodstamps or state insurance or else I probably wouldn't have gone through with this.... Either way.. In the end I think I'll be happy with the results.. I guess I'll get awarded child support and have justification for all the ppl talking *** and believing his lies..  

babymama619

" I wish he'd disappear too. The state I live in makes us cooperate with child support enforcement if we are on foodstamps or state insurance or else I probably wouldn't have gone through with this.... Either way.. In the end I think I'll be happy with the results.. I guess I'll get awarded child support and have justification for all the ppl talking *** and believing his lies..  "

 I have a hard time with this statement. I know that everyone has their own ideas of what is right for them, but I say take the bastard to the cleaners! If he doesn't want to be in your child's life and put the work in parenting, then at least he should be financially obligated. Why let him off scott free? I say even if you don't need the money take and put it in a college fund.

nikkilyn35

I understand what all you ladies are going through.  I had a long term casual FWB relationship with my son's father.  after 3 years, we had an oops, and Mr Nice Guy turned into Mr Liar.  and they weren't even good lies.  He tried to pressure me into aborting, then lied over and over about being married with 5 kids (he was not married, had not been for over 15 years, and only had one "kid", his 16 year old son).  he did everything he could to convince me that pursuing him for child support would be useless.  and I actually planned on letting him off the hook, but I was sort of forced to go after him.  to apply for any assistance, the state made me go after him.  so instead of going on welfare, I kept my job and went after him anyway. 

 he even went as far as saying "don't you dare give the child my name, I don't want my other children (the fake ones) being embarrassed by this." 

 I sort of regret going after the CS though, because then he claimed to want to be an involved father, and for the last 3 years, all he's done is lie to me again.

 

 

mel1987

pregokat:

mel1987:

Men are idiots. I am 100 positive of this baby's father and now that I'm super close to having the baby, he freaks out and emails me saying that he knows it's not his and he'll need a DNA test. Ugh. He's the one who went on a drug and sex binge after I told him that I'm pregnant. Part of me is glad that he doubts paternity, maybe he will disappear.

 

i got an email during my last month of pregnancy as well. Saying "I'm going to laugh in your face if you go for child support because I'm going to make you take a paternity test and your going to end up paying for it because I'm not the father, I'm not physically able to have kids" (while he had a pregnant girlfriend whom he was living with)

 I wish he'd disappear too. The state I live in makes us cooperate with child support enforcement if we are on foodstamps or state insurance or else I probably wouldn't have gone through with this.... Either way.. In the end I think I'll be happy with the results.. I guess I'll get awarded child support and have justification for all the ppl talking *** and believing his lies..  

What if you say you don't know who the father is? Can you still get food stamps n such?

pregokat

I guess I could have. The thought didn't even  cross my mind, I'm not the kind of person who lies to get things in life. Not saying that as a put down or anything I just have a real hard time lying. I can't even tell ppl things like "no, that doesn't make you look fat" I am brutally honest, to a fault

Plus wouldn't that just make me as bad as the lying jack of a father.. ?

 

CoIvie

I haven't gotten a reply from my child's father yet. Everyone is making excuses for him saying "well he's young and his life is changing".. Ummmm. HEEEELLLLOOOOOO mike is too. I'm 21. He's 22. I'm 12 weeks and 5 days so yes, he does still have time to step up but you can't even give me some type of reply..