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Toddlers: 12 - 24 Months
Ready for a vasectomy?
We've got two kiddos (1 and almost 5) and everything in me says we're done. I just can't imagine how we could make room in our life (house, finances, routine, etc.) for another.
DH feels the same way.
And every time we have sex I have that little bit of fear of pregnancy - the same feeling I had as a teenager - and I breathe a sigh of relief when I get my period.
So we're thinking it's time for a vasectomy.
Something about closing that door feels uncomfortable to me, but at the same time - can you ever really be certain about the future??
Thoughts please!
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Re: Ready for a vasectomy?
I personally don't want my dh to ever have this done. I have two children now and I am happy. But I still don't want medical science to say we can't have another. I have multiple cysts on my ovary and my doc says a partial hysterectomy. But I just want him to take them out but leave my ovary.
I guess I don't want to take th chance away from either one of us, should I dare say it, what happens if we diverse and get re married then I don't want to take that decision away from either one of us. Not to say we are leaving each other but you never know.
You don't know your future and if I am blessed with another child so then let it be. There are plenty of people that have children who can't afford it but still make it work. Gl
As much as I'm sure DH and I won't get divorced, this is the reason I wouldn't do anything permanent to stop babies. I'd rather be on birth control of some kind as I don't know how the future will be. I want the option open for me, and I prefer DH has the option for more kids too. That's just our decision though, and it is a personal one.
If you're pretty sure you're done, you get no judgements from me if you and your DH decide you'd rather take out the risk of another. I hope the procedure goes well, and enjoy your baby-free sex.
We are going the vasectomy route...it just seems like the best option.
It really is a personal decision. We are in the planning stages for baby number six. Being that six is our absolute and final pregnancy, we have been discussing this as well. I too feel nervous about the finality of that decision. The idea of closing the door on the possibility of future children makes me sad. I think this is why we are pushing back our original plan of trying late last year until later this year, because I'm just not ready to say this is it yet.
As pp said, vasectomies are reversible if you ever change your mind. Situations may change in the future, and I personally like to keep my options open:)
DH and I are in the decision phase as well. We are going to give it 1 year and if we still are certain we are "One and Done" at that point he is going to have the procedure.
Neither of us is going to think twice about it once we make the decision.
The only reason we aren't deciding now is we are coming off of 2 losses prior to DD, a rough pregnancy with pregnancy induced hypertension, a horrible L&D, and crippling post partum anxiety and don't think it is unbiased enough to make the final call this close to negative feelings.
I figure, if DH feels he wants no more kids (and we are in agreement), then a vasectomy makes sense. If he doesn't want more kids, then, divorce/remarry or not, he doesn't want more kids. But, I'm coming at it from the perspective of why HE doesn't want more kids (responsibility, mostly), and that probably differs for people. We also figure that I got to do the childbirth thing, so he can do this (more minor) ordeal.
But I agree, it's not the right choice for everyone. And there are lots of options out there to choose from.