Do you ever wish...

Stillharbor

...your husband WOULDN'T get you a gift.

Hubby already got my Mother's Day gift and I know it is jewelry.  I know this b/s he said that he got $$ off, so he went ahead and brought his Father's Day gift ( he lost his wedding band on vacation).  Uh, geez, thanks for letting me think of something you'd like.  Also, we're approaching summer when we are down to one pay check and we've got numerous medical bills, insane health insurance, the closing from refinancing, and car repairs that NEED to be paid for.  Sigh...   Why can't he see that the perfect gift for me would be to pay some of these down or off?  Yes, I know it's not glamorous, but taking that worry off my mind, and fixing dinner would make me the happiest person in the world.

jkuhmann

Men need things explained to them, and in specifics.  I told my husband that, if he really wanted to help me with the baby, he would take out the diaper trash every morning and do the dishes at least every other day.  That's exactly what he does.  If I would have said "Can you help me out a little more around the house?" he wouldn't have even known what to do.

I'm the same way in that I'd way rather pay things down than gets gifts or buy things that would be nice to have but aren't absolutely necessary, but...it is sweet that he thought of you.  Maybe he bought his own gift "from you" thinking he was taking some pressure and stress away from you?

Starfish+77

I'm really hoping my DH didn't buy me something either.  He asked me what I wanted for Mothers Day.  I told him I wanted a basil herb p,ant and flowers p,anted in the pots outside and for him to do it. Nothing expensive but this would be greatly appreciated!

i know he'll probably buy me something anyway.  Making dinner for once would be nice too! Even if its pasta with jar sauce LOL 

minervacullen

We have tons of medical bills right now too, but I still don't have the hunger games movie, so I told him that would be a great gift. It's cheap and I really want it.
I also have to spell it out for DH. Last night he was on the deck lounging while I was juggling homework, bed time, making lunches. I had to tell him in detail what I needed him to do. Boys.....

MrsT0514

That's not really an issue in this household, TBH. Aside from birthdays and christmas, neither me or DH are big gift givers for any of the smaller holidays. We're more into just giving a card and doing something together for the day. Simple stuff.

Like pp said, my suggestion would be to tell him directly when it comes to this stuff. Men need specific directions when it comes to this!

ForeverEverAfter

Usually, yes. We set small limits for birthdays and Christmas, and usually get something we need anyway. But DH often gets an idea and goes and breaks the limit, with no idea how to pay for it. I go over too, but I cash in air miles, use my piggy bank or spend less somewhere else.

Things are tight right now with me still on maternity leave, but its my first Mother's Day and I want to celebrate! I wanted to be a mom so badly...that just this once, Im gonna enjoy every second and figure out the money later. 

Jdismybug1

Well at least the thought is there. Dh has only bought.me jewelry twice. wedding and engagement. Hes not good at picking jewelry out even with help. He had.my bf help him and was trying to be quiet ab it, but was prettt obvious.

Just explain to him you appreciate the sentiment but you know its not affordable right now.

LSU628

I told DH that all I want is sleep. I want him to take the kids in the back yard or to the park and just let me have about 3 hours of uninterrupted sleep.

TheEditor

LSU628:

I told DH that all I want is sleep. I want him to take the kids in the back yard or to the park and just let me have about 3 hours of uninterrupted sleep.

This.  Except I want an entire day to myself.  :-)  We only have one LO, though, so this would be more manageable for DH.

OP, I'm the SAME as you.  My H sighed and looked all disappointed when I told him I don't want flowers (they'll just die in a few days, or I'll kill them anyway).  I also find paying down debt and saving money much more attractive than gifts.