wow...

Ash_n_Rob1010

So I am new here and posted in TTGP because that is what I am doing obviously lol. Well, apparently I am not as IF as others and totally got torn apart. At least I think I did.

I came to this site for encouragement, but got nothing but mean, negative comments minus a few.

I hope I do not sound like I am whining lol.

I am guessing that TTGP is not the place for me. So is it safe here in BOTB?

please say yes... 

indiana101

I don't genuinely believe that everyone was trying to help. I believe some were looking for 'holes' in her story so they can berate her for listening to her doctors, not being as infertile as she thinks she is and for daring to mention clomid. All under the guise of helping her without actually being positive or welcoming at all.

Ladies on that board (looking at you GM) like to play doctor. They're not doctors. They're women who spend a ridiculous amount of time on internet forums telling others how to live their lives.

And that is all I have to say, apart from welcome! And probably lurk a little more on the boards, especially TTGP to understand why your intro went down the way it did.

ksuRN09

I'm also new here and thought the same thing...well, I am TTGP so this is the board to be on for questions and encouragement. I've posted a couple of times and gotten mostly encouraging responses but a few have been a little snarky. I've mostly lurked though and I will admit, I'm a little intimidated by those ladies and am careful about what I post. However, I just think that's life; there will always be snarky people wherever you go and you learn to take the good and ignore the bad. At the end of the day, I'm not going to lose sleep because someone was mean to me on TB, ya know? I think if you just lurk a little more and learn the no-no's, you'll be ok. From what I've seen, there are some truly nice people on there that want to be encouraging and helpful.

Ash_n_Rob1010

Thank you! Yes I definitely learned my lesson. Did I lose sleep over it? Not at all. I was just surprised by how that thread turned out. I really thought my doctor was telling me to do the right thing. I was not being defensive. I answered all their questions. The reason I was vague is because it was an intro type of post. The last thing I wanted was to made to feel like an idiot. I do appreciate that I was given advice as to some further tests I should do apart from b/w and u/s. those were done already. I really wasn't trying to say anything about myself other than what a doctor said.
If I could do it over again I would simply say "hi I am TTC/TTGP and am very excited to be doing so!" Because that is why I am here. Whatever the outcome, we should just be encouraging no matter how hard the journey is for another. Just because I'm only now starting with medication, does not mean the past three years of not conceiving naturally hasn't been hard. I'm just now at a place in life where things are calmer and I am able to do something about it.
Again thanks to those who understand me. I just wanted to speak my peace and be done with it.

Ash_n_Rob1010

indiana101:

I don't genuinely believe that everyone was trying to help. I believenbsp;some were looking for 'holes' in her story so they can berate her for listening to her doctors, not being as infertile as she thinks she is and for daring to mention clomid. All under the guise of helping her without actually being positive or welcoming at all.Ladies on that board looking at you GM like to play doctor. They're not doctors. They're women who spend a ridiculous amount of time on internet forums telling others how to live their lives. And that is all I have to say, apart from welcome! And probably lurk a little more on the boards, especially TTGP to understand why your intro went down the way it did.

I didnt know what I was getting myself into hahahahaha. Thanks for the welcome and the advice!

Ash_n_Rob1010

kspark9311:

I'm also new here and thought the same thing...well, I am TTGP so this is the board to be on for questions and encouragement. I've posted a couple of times and gotten mostly encouraging responses but a few have been a little snarky. I've mostly lurked though and I will admit, I'm a little intimidated by those ladies and am careful about what I post. However, I just think that's life; there will always be snarky people wherever you go and you learn to take the good and ignore the bad. At the end of the day, I'm not going to lose sleep because someone was mean to me on TB, ya know? I think if you just lurk a little more and learn the nono's, you'll be ok. From what I've seen, there are some truly nice people on there that want to be encouraging and helpful. :

Thanks and I totally agree. People are people. I deal with women all day in my industry of work so it's not something new to me. But yes, I shall lurk. Thanks for the advice. I also want to say welcome and good luck to you! :

KdgTeacher

Ash_n_Rob1010:

So I am new here and posted in TTGP because that is what I am doing obviously lol. Well, apparently I am not as IF as others and totally got torn apart. At least I think I did.

I came to this site for encouragement, but got nothing but mean, negative comments minus a few.

I hope I do not sound like I am whining lol.

I am guessing that TTGP is not the place for me. So is it safe here in BOTB?

please say yes... 

It has nothing to do with being "IF enough."  You posted on a board where people, like myself, have dealt with IF and have been down the road before. Since I've dealt with it myself for over 1.5 years--I picked up a few things and know a little bit about what I'm talking about. 

You weren't torn apart. It isn't good to come to another board and b*tch about another--lots of people post here too.

 

korrid

Hello Im glad you are here I have been on and off this site for awhile it is a great place to find support. 

Beelinda2013

indiana101:

I don't genuinely believe that everyone was trying to help. I believenbsp;some were looking for 'holes' in her story so they can berate her for listening to her doctors, not being as infertile as she thinks she is and for daring to mention clomid. All under the guise of helping her without actually being positive or welcoming at all.Ladies on that board looking at you GM like to play doctor. They're not doctors. They're women who spend a ridiculous amount of time on internet forums telling others how to live their lives. And that is all I have to say, apart from welcome! And probably lurk a little more on the boards, especially TTGP to understand why your intro went down the way it did.

This is how I felt that the women on that board act... Like they know EVERYTHING. I just lurked there for a while TTGP but never has the guts to post because people were so mean sounding. Unless there is a resident RE or OB on that site, I'd take that with a pound of salt and a desire to avoid unicorn farts...

Twinkie0612

Beelinda2013:

This is how I felt that the women on that board act... Like they know EVERYTHING. I just lurked there for a while TTGP but never has the guts to post because people were so mean sounding. Unless there is a resident RE or OB on that site, I'd take that with a pound of salt and a desire to avoid unicorn farts...

Says the women who used her first ever bump post to criticize the women on 3T.

  https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/73824631.aspx

 

Beelinda2013

Twinkie0612:

Beelinda2013:

This is how I felt that the women on that board act... Like they know EVERYTHING. I just lurked there for a while TTGP but never has the guts to post because people were so mean sounding. Unless there is a resident RE or OB on that site, I'd take that with a pound of salt and a desire to avoid unicorn farts...

Says the women who used her first ever bump post to criticize the women on 3T.

  https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/73824631.aspx

 

Wow! Don't YOU spend your whole life on the Bump? Maybe it's time to get one... A life that is. My post was to ask a question. It was others' opinions that I was criticizing. I had a legit question and got flamed for it. Life goes on.

You win the Internet! Congratulations!!!!1111!!! Eleventy

PunkyBooster

People have covered it.  You don't *** about one board to another. Lots of us are on multiple boards throughout the week. You also shouldn't be on clomid without screening, testing, and without an RE but you never were clear about that (which is why the other ladies were asking you FU questions) however, many OBs I know hand out Clomid like it's a vitamin, so this isn't 100% your fault. 

When it comes to your body, especially with regard to "accepting" that you are IF or taking a drug like Clomid, I honestly feel that you should 100% educate yourself with a variety of professional opinions before accepting the diagnosis or prescription. This is not said meanly, it's just said as a fact- and I think the other ladies were saying the same thing.

 

Twinkie0612

Beelinda2013:

Twinkie0612:

Beelinda2013:

This is how I felt that the women on that board act... Like they know EVERYTHING. I just lurked there for a while TTGP but never has the guts to post because people were so mean sounding. Unless there is a resident RE or OB on that site, I'd take that with a pound of salt and a desire to avoid unicorn farts...

Says the women who used her first ever bump post to criticize the women on 3T.

  https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/73824631.aspx

 

Wow! Don't YOU spend your whole life on the Bump? Maybe it's time to get one... A life that is. My post was to ask a question. It was others' opinions that I was criticizing. I had a legit question and got flamed for it. Life goes on. You win the Internet! Congratulations!!!!1111!!! Eleventy

Really? You couldn't figure out why women would put ticker warnings or siggy warnings when posting on a board where women dealing with IF post?

Yeah, I'm calling BS.

FWIW tickers and pics don't bother me, but they bother some women.  That's why the board requests warnings.  Mystery solved! 

dragossoul84

Beelinda2013:

Twinkie0612:

Beelinda2013:

This is how I felt that the women on that board act... Like they know EVERYTHING. I just lurked there for a while TTGP but never has the guts to post because people were so mean sounding. Unless there is a resident RE or OB on that site, I'd take that with a pound of salt and a desire to avoid unicorn farts...

Says the women who used her first ever bump post to criticize the women on 3T.

  https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/73824631.aspx

 

Wow! Don't YOU spend your whole life on the Bump? Maybe it's time to get one... A life that is. My post was to ask a question. It was others' opinions that I was criticizing. I had a legit question and got flamed for it. Life goes on. You win the Internet! Congratulations!!!!1111!!! Eleventy

 

Are you aware how childish this sounds Beelinda? You were really quite rude on the 3t board and unless you have known the pain those woman face than perhaps you should keep your questions to yourself. And despite claiming to have struggled with IF when she really hasn't yet the women on TTGP really did try to understand what she was saying to give the best advice. 

indiana101

WhoCanItBeNow:

Ash_n_Rob1010:

indiana101:

I don't genuinely believe that everyone was trying to help. I believenbsp;some were looking for 'holes' in her story so they can berate her for listening to her doctors, not being as infertile as she thinks she is and for daring to mention clomid. All under the guise of helping her without actually being positive or welcoming at all.Ladies on that board looking at you GM like to play doctor. They're not doctors. They're women who spend a ridiculous amount of time on internet forums telling others how to live their lives. And that is all I have to say, apart from welcome! And probably lurk a little more on the boards, especially TTGP to understand why your intro went down the way it did.

I didnt know what I was getting myself into hahahahaha. Thanks for the welcome and the advice!

She's not one to have on your side. All she does is show up to talk smack about other people. And this is one of several SNs she has (despite how much she will deny it). She is a well known troll. 

 

Ha, you think I'm a troll with AE's -that's hilarious! Guess you don't know everything after all! I say what I want under the only username I have ever had - I know you can't say the same.

BonnieBlue83

I totally agree!! Ive asked a few questions and end up deleting them because if the attacks!! I thought this was a safe place to ask questions I might not know about not to be told Im a moron and stupid and feel like a scolded child. I hope once if I actually ever get pregnant and get on a month board there will more support..but there are definitely some snarky women on here.

nikinabox

I had the same experience as you did. I had one question, and not one person answering me was kind, patient, or helpful. They were quick to judge, tell me I'm wrong, and belittle what I was saying in every aspect, down to the words I chose. I deleted my post as well... wasn't worth it when I can go to other sites and read posts from people who are kind and realize that not all of us are experienced in this area. Forums are built to inform and share stories and be a support system... I am shocked at the community on the bump.

Even reading through some posts today I was shocked to see some of the responses. Some people responded and all they said was "I can't even deal with this post" and things like that. I have a lot of questions, but am afraid to put them out there in case someone belittles me for it. I couldn't believe the amount of mean-spirited women in this community.