WWPD? Update

SLO2005

So I took my 3.5 year old to a bday party today.  It was at a house.  The house was on a hill and you had to go down the hill to get to the play area/bounce house/swing set.  So I was down in the the play area chatting to another mother, but we were both watching our kids.  There was this child in the bounce house that first decided that he was going to block my son from getting in.  I was kind of like whatever.  This kid's mother was no where in sight.  She was up the hill by thr house.  I just kindly said to the child "oh we all need to share the bounce house" and my kid went in.  I saw some scuffling in the bounce house, but it was in the corner and I couldn't see real well.  So my DS and this other boy both come down the slide of the bounce house right in front of me.  They both stand up and my DS all but levels the kid right off his feet.  So I immediately tell my son "that is not okay to do and you need to sit in timeout".  My DS starts bawling saying "that kid keeps pushing ME and I pushed him back".  So I start to talk to my son you know the speech Two Wrongs Don't Make a Right Speech.  Well the other kid leans over the bounce house and says "LOSER" to my son.  OMG made my blood boil!

So this is the part that I ask "What Would You have done?". 

I told my DS if the child does it again to say "I don't like that, that is not okay and walk away and go to the other play area"

At this point I didn't even know who this kid's mother was.  Would you have tried to tell find her tell her? Or just ignore the kid.

 Update: After posting this my DH came home and I told him the story and he was glad that our DS pushed the kid back and stood up for himself. Then we kind of had the same discussion about two wrongs not making a right.  My Dh insists that boys at some point go through this and need to stand up for themselves like my DS did. He agrees that he should try to use his words first.  I just feel that 3-4 is a little young to work it out themselves.

Ms. Lisi

So, while I am with you on the violence thing, I am also of the mindset that my kids should be able to defend themselves.  Standing up to a bully can be a good thing. I would have gone up to the house and asked who the boy's mother is, though, and explained the situation.  The kid could have been acting out because things aren't honky dory at home. 

MamatoA2010

How old was the offender? I would have gone back and tried to find the mom and said something. But that's just me...

LaurelBee

I probably would have said to the kid "excuse me, we DO NOT use that kind of language."  And then I would've redirected LO to another place away from that kid. I wouldn't have looked for his parents unless he followed my LO to continue harassing. I'm angry for you! Sorry it happened to your Ds

Nita2603

mbenit4:

I think you handled it well with your DS.nbsp;The old me would tell my DS if he pushes you again, push his azz back harder. nbsp;Trying to be a responsible mom: I probably would have told the other child and mine no pushing each other. Keep your hands off each other or no one will be in the bounce house. I mean since no other adults were around.nbsp;

This. And I think I am with the old you.

SLO2005

MamatoA2010:

How old was the offender? I would have gone back and tried to find the mom and said something. But that's just me...

He was 3 or 4 years old too