We both are knocked up by him!

ShaCourtney

I have been dating a guy my EX now. Everything was good at the beginning could've swore he was the perfect man . He has a one year old with another woman by when we first started dating he swore they weren't intimate just friends for their child. I took a leap of faith by dating this guy he is 21 I'm 25 and she is 30.. when I found out I was pregnant back in January I was very happy about our baby and he just seemed so depressed and sad...Feb on Vday of all days he tells me he got his first baby mama pregnant again...so here we are two women pregnant by the same guy..she is due in August I'm due in October.. This situation has caused me nothing but stress she is completely drama...I've tried talking to her but she is angry at e for some reason and she wants him to have nothing to do with me... Idk what to do or who to talk to but this is driving me crazy.. I can't even share my happy time on FB cuz people around my town are like dang who isn't pregnant from him .. I'm hurt humiliated and angry..how do I move on? Sorry for long post ..

mel1987

This child is innocent in your ex's drama. You can be happy about having a baby! Dont worry what others think.

tig594

Why would you want to talk to her?  Do you expect her to no longer have anything to do with him?  She now has 2 kids with this guy who is obviously a cheating lying sleeze bag.  He was probably depressed and sad knowing he now has (at least) 3 kids to pay child support for.  He lied and cheated on you.  Cut your losses and move on.  Who cares what others think and why is it anyone else's business who got you pregnant?  Focus instead on bringing a healthy child into this world and doing what's best for your baby.

ShaCourtney

Thank you. I wanted to talk to her to make sense of our situation but it only makes things worse. Thank you for your advice.

babymama619

I have a similarly awful situation and although I was tempted to talk with him and/or her in the beginning I realized that will only bring dram, something I am not interested in. Perhaps after the baby is born I will write her a letter leaving open the option for our children to interact with their siblings. But for now i am focused on me and my baby which is what I think you should do too.

Runaway22

francophile619:

I have a similarly awful situation and although I was tempted to talk with him and/or her in the beginning I realized that will only bring dram, something I am not interested in. Perhaps after the baby is born I will write her a letter leaving open the option for our children to interact with their siblings. But for now i am focused on me and my baby which is what I think you should do too.

This is pretty good advice.  

ShaCourtney

Thank you it's hard going through this. But I don't want our children to suffer because of this. Thank you so much

ShaCourtney

It's so hard thank for your advice ...

mel1987

Are you feeling any better? I hope you can start to feel happy soon!

inthelost

focus on your child, and you CAN be happy about your LO. who cares what others may think?

ShaCourtney

Thank you