Something is wrong with me!!

sefferj

I already want to be pregnant with #2! A few friends have recently become pregnant or are TTC and I find myself jealous! Lol My son is only 10 weeks on Sunday. I know, I'm crazy....

Bride-hilda

I don't think you're crazy!

DH in the HOSPITAL was all, "Let's have another one." THAT was crazy. I'm with you! (Almost.) 

Runaway22

Yep, I miss being preggers.

sefferj

Bride-hilda:

I don't think you're crazy!

DH in the HOSPITAL was all, "Let's have another one." THAT was crazy. I'm with you! (Almost.) 

ha this sounds like my hubby, he's ready for #2 too! I'm breastfeeding though and will for at least 6 months and probably longer so even though I'm already ready, it prob wont be for some time. Well see what happens I think DS will keep us plenty busy until that day comes! 

lbonga1

My fiance would like me to be pregnant again now, but both of us know we should get ourselves in a more stable situation before we start TTC again. We want kids close in age, but I'm still pretty young (23) and DD wasn't planned, so we'll probably wait until she's 2. We're also trying to decide how many we want. At first it was going to be 2, then I decided I want 3, but my fiance said he either wants to do 2 or 4. Maybe he has a thing for even numbers?

artroyer

I'm in the same boat... One good friend is already pregnant and three others will be trying within the next couple of months! I really want to be pregnant with people this time; it was lonely last time lol. We plan on starting when DD is around 6 months too. I'm incredibly nervous about it but it's nice to know that there's other crazy women who will be trying soon too Haha

red daisy

Yall are crazy, haha

 Just keep in mind, 1 kid is relatively easy.  The second kid is exponentially more difficult.  This could also be due to the fact that my Toddler is very needy right now (terrible two's) but every day is exhausting around here.  Wouldn't trade it for the world, but its exhausting nonetheless. 

beanersmommy

red daisy:

Yall are crazy, haha

 Just keep in mind, 1 kid is relatively easy.  The second kid is exponentially more difficult.  This could also be due to the fact that my Toddler is very needy right now (terrible two's) but every day is exhausting around here.  Wouldn't trade it for the world, but its exhausting nonetheless. 

This! DD is 22 months, and she has been amazing with DS, but it is still hard. Doable, but harder. Breastfeeding one is easy, quiet, nice...but then add DD and sometimes I have to stop mid-feed to chase her. Luckily, DS is SO easy-going. He smiles and chills and I can play with DD, which works out very well. I know that this isn't always the case, though. I wouldn't trade it for anything, but there is a HUGE learning curve!

ETA: There is also a difference between wanting to be pregnant and wanting to have 2 kids...haha. Be sure to separate whether you are pregnancy jealous or another newborn/2u2 jealous.

artroyer

beanersmommy:

red daisy:

Yall are crazy, haha

 Just keep in mind, 1 kid is relatively easy.  The second kid is exponentially more difficult.  This could also be due to the fact that my Toddler is very needy right now (terrible two's) but every day is exhausting around here.  Wouldn't trade it for the world, but its exhausting nonetheless. 

This! DD is 22 months, and she has been amazing with DS, but it is still hard. Doable, but harder. Breastfeeding one is easy, quiet, nice...but then add DD and sometimes I have to stop mid-feed to chase her. Luckily, DS is SO easy-going. He smiles and chills and I can play with DD, which works out very well. I know that this isn't always the case, though. I wouldn't trade it for anything, but there is a HUGE learning curve!

ETA: There is also a difference between wanting to be pregnant and wanting to have 2 kids...haha. Be sure to separate whether you are pregnancy jealous or another newborn/2u2 jealous.

good point with the pregnant vs 2u2   We want our kids close in age... so we want the 2u2, but DH knows that he will need to step it up big time to help! (i only say this because i think he wants it a little more than i do lol). I have already begun to mentally prepare myself for it... But we'll see... I've told him too that if we get to the month where we said we'd try again and I don't feel ready then it's a "no go". I don't think there's anything that can TRULY prepare you for what it's like (if you've never experienced it before) but I do think it's important to actually WANT it and to have a good support team for tough times!

Lbug09

I feel like this too sometimes but its definitely just pregnancy jealous. I liked being pregnant and everyone gazes at you with such a warm smile when they see your belly, its nice. Even though I was totally annoyed at those gazes and comments by the end of my pregnancy because they were non stop! Lol. See? I'm not thinking logically! Haha.
But I am excited for the second time around someday. I know each pregnancy is different but I'm thinking ill have less fear of the unknown and perhaps enjoy it even more! And then there will come the juggling of 2 kids and I know that'll be a challenge and a joy!

ericalee27

red daisy:

Yall are crazy, haha

 Just keep in mind, 1 kid is relatively easy.  The second kid is exponentially more difficult.  This could also be due to the fact that my Toddler is very needy right now (terrible two's) but every day is exhausting around here.  Wouldn't trade it for the world, but its exhausting nonetheless. 

Haha, I'm with you.  The thought of having another kid right now gives me the shakes. 

daisy000005

I'm right there with you. I go back and forth though. I had always said I wanted a bunch of kids and close together. I loved being pregnant, LOVED it. I had such an easy pregnancy and labor was a breeze thanks to my epidural (the worst part of the whole thing) but delivery was awful. His shoulder got stuck and it was terrifying, not to mention he was 9.04 at birth. And the first couple weeks were so hard with me being so sore and DH working 12 hours a day 7 days a week plus all of the joys of a newborn, I almost swore off more babies. But as soon as we got a schedule down I could feel the itch coming back. Sometimes I think it would be nice to wait a year or two to really enjoy Cam, but I also already miss when he was teeny tiny (he didn't linger in that stage very long since he is already in some 9 month clothes at 10 weeks) so who knows what will happen

jely26

It is my wish for my son to have a sibling, and ideally that would happen some time after his second birthday, but my husband and I are very concerned about the cost of having two youngsters in the house. Daycare is nearly breaking us already with just one. I cry every time I think that finances might be the reason that my son ends up being an only child. He is absolutely wonderful and I am not in any rush, but it ends in an argument with my husband every time I bring up the idea of a sibling one day. He just doesn't think we can afford it. How did those of you with two or planning on two (or more) manage the money issues?

ericalee27

jely26:

It is my wish for my son to have a sibling, and ideally that would happen some time after his second birthday, but my husband and I are very concerned about the cost of having two youngsters in the house. Daycare is nearly breaking us already with just one. I cry every time I think that finances might be the reason that my son ends up being an only child. He is absolutely wonderful and I am not in any rush, but it ends in an argument with my husband every time I bring up the idea of a sibling one day. He just doesn't think we can afford it. How did those of you with two or planning on two (or more) manage the money issues?

Both my infant and my 2.5 yr old are in full time daycare.  It is expensive as all get out right now.  But we make it work becuase that's what we wanted in terms of spacing.  There were a lot of serious hard looks at our budget and conversations on what we would cut back on, etc, to make it work.  This all happened way before we even started TTC #2, and I honestly tracked it down to the month that I felt comfortable starting TTC, knowing we could afford to have #2 at that point in time. 

You might have to think creatively about childcare options once the time comes.  Like with DS1, he was in a center starting as an infant.  Putting both of ours in the same center would be insanely expensive, so DS2 is in an in home daycare for at least the first year, which is much cheaper than the center.  You might find a nanny would be more cost effective, or nanny share, etc.  Or you might find you can be a SAHM if you really cut back somewhere else. 

 Good luck!

2moms2b

I totally understand now how someone can be pregnant more than once.  My pregnancy was pretty miserable but I miss it terribly!  I think what I miss is having the boys to myself, the kicks, the growing belly, knowing they are safe inside me.

All in all I think we are done but I told SO that I wanted to have another one.  I don't know that I actually could see us having a third child anytime soon with the boys but I miss pregnancy.  SO wanted to know how I could possible want to do pregnancy again with all the complications we had at the end and delivering early. (Possibly flame worthy) I told her, its very hard to explain but I kinda feel cheated.  I love my boys terribly and I couldn't imagine having one without the other but I miss the 4 weeks of kicks I didn't get to feel, I wonder what it would be like to just have one tiny baby that needed snuggles not two.  I hate that I have to leave one crying sometimes to tend to the other etc.  Breastfeeding two was just too hard so I gave up. Again I love my boys but when we decided on two kids, I thought that was two pregnancies.  I am just struggling to let it go.

I don't think you are crazy at all as it has crossed my insane mind as well. 

sefferj

I'm definitely jealous of the pregnancy itself, but it's also the newborn part. Don't get me wrong, I absolutely adore watching my son grow but a part of me is so sad that it's going by so fast!! I want my newborn back lol: We have always planned on a year before we start trying again and since I plan on breastfeeding for a year as well it will most likely be a year before I'm pregnant again. I just miss it already which definitely surprises me!! By the end of my pregnancy I was so ready forit to be over and have him already, and my recovery was awful and I wasnt completely healed until about 9 weeks PP. But there's that crazy part of me that says, let's do it again!! hormones are crazy! :

PnkDingo

I went from coming to terms with being told I wasn't going to be able to have a baby and looking into adoption in the next 5-6 years, to surprise pregnancy and being beyond thankful for a "full term" healthy baby and because of all my own issues being one and done, to wanting to just see if it happens again on its own.

There's never a guarantee, but I'd really like a girl, and I really would like to experience pregnancy again because despite all the medical junk especially at the end, I really enjoyed it. In a perfect world I'd like to try again come December/January just before Colton's 1st birthday, but we definitely aren't in a position financially to do that. Michael and I discussed and said if all things work out, when done my last year of nursing school (or 6 or 7 months before graduating if I had my way lol) we'd try again as long as he's working. (I -plan- to be working as an LPN until I graduate, so I hope to be able to take an actual maternity leave next time around, but just because I mentally plan it doesn't make it so...)

If we end up not being able to have more without medical intervention, we'll look back into adoption or wait for Colton to be older and for us to have an actual house, and then we'll look into fostering