FTM over here!

Christee25

This morning my husband and I were talking and reminiscing about parenthood, our relationship, how the little guy is doing, etc, etc. Tomorrow will be 3 months and I feel like I am just now catching on to things. We have no real schedule to speak of and sleeping is still iffy, amongst many other things. But overall it has taken me this long to finally get comfy in my new shoes as a new mommy. For example, I used to avoid public places if DS was awake for fear of a screaming fit but now I just dont care....he is a baby after all! My cousin's baby was born
only 4 days after me and she seems to have this down pat already like she is experienced, although she is a FTM too. So I guess I was afraid to say I dont feel comfortable yet or tell anyone that I was nervous as hell with an infant in my possession.
Kept reminding myself we had a rough start from the git go. I caught stomach bug w/ fever from hell at the hospital plus a rash I couldn't shake for weeks. Then when DS was 3 weeks he needed surgery for pyloric stenosis...that certainly threw us for a loop! I think this week I finally feel like me and DS will make it and be ok!
Anyway, no real reason for this post except to say if you aren't feeling thos way yet, its okay to say and feel it! I never told my husband I felt like I was fumbling through but I wish I would have talked to him sooner.
P.S. Love this forum also....it has really helped me! Thanks ladies!!

ETA i knocked on wood, of course!!

OhBaby+2013

Every FTM finds there groove at their own pace.  Glad you are finding yours!

loreeann86

I think that's all normal! I'm also a FTM and had some doubts in myself and taking my DD to public because I wash afraid she'd start crying and I wouldn't be able to calm her. I'm glad you are feeling better about it all! And like PP said, I'm sure your cousin had a rough patch too.

sbevmc09

Glad you're getting into a groove and recognize that what you experienced is normal and okay!  Everyone really is going to settle in at different points.  Everyone is different and babies are different, etc.  It all works out though and it's no reflection on you as a person or a mom.  Try not to compare you or your child to others.  It always ends up creating unnecessary stress