Need some advice for next cycle.

sueann911

I think I already know the answer to my own question but I wanted to bounce it off you guys too.

IUI 1 was a fail. It's CD 1. I can go back on the Femara again but I don't think we will be able to schedule the IUI this month. We're going away to the beach right before and possibly during FW with our family. We can do the midcycle scan right before we leave but prior natural O has been around CD 13ish. We won't be back until CD 13 and I'm afraid to schedule it and then be worried about trying to rush back.

So I think we're going to take this month off and go with TI.

Do you guys agree or should we not waste a potential IUI cycle and try to rush back to get the IUI?

Also, this may be a sensitive topic but what are your plans for Mothers Day? We will be at the beach with my mom, dad, bro and my SIL and their two children. DH wants me and him to get away for the day without them. We're doing a MD and dads birthday celebration the night before with them. DH and I are going to take the day to enjoy each other.

RunCC37

Sorry about CD1... that stinks.

IUI number two's timing is tricky... For me, it would depend on where my head is. I don't know what that is for you, but for me I think I would probably schedule the IUI. I'm in a spot where we are just about to get started with treatments and I can't stomach the thought of another cycle of TI... TI just seems so pointless. How far will you need to travel from the beach to your doctor? Would it be possible to make a trip and come back to the beach? The last thing you want is to be kicking yourself after you've made the decision, so maybe think of how you'll feel in both scenarios. GL!

As far as Mother's Day... I have already decided that I will be staying far, far away from Facebook. DH and I are spending the weekend with my family. We will get to see my mom, dad, sisters, BIL and my 3 month old niece. I'm running a 5K on Sunday morning and will mail or give cards to the mothers in my life. A few BFF, MIL, SIL, sister, and my own mom.

katib77

If there is a chance of bad timing I say skip this month. No need to stress, once month break isn't going to kill you.
As for mothers day, every year we hang at SIL's house with MIL and there is drinks and hot tubbing. Since this is my fourth Mothers Day TTC, I'm getting better at handling it. Year two was the worst. Booze helps.

ena724

If timing is going to be an issue, I would probably take a break this month. Try to enjoy going away and have a few drinks. Believe me, sometimes a break is a good thing. I know it was for DH and I.

I have no idea about Mother's Day. It's going to be a little hard this year bc last year at this time, I was pg. and we told my grandmother's on mother's day. So it will be sad to look back and think about what it might have been this year. 

 

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monimu13

I would say take a break and enjoy your vacation...it sounds wonderful!

 

olson2903

Sorry to hear about CD1 starting  

I would say skip this cycle. I think of money signs... If you are not going to be close enough to get to your doctor, then I wouldn't waste the money this month. Plus, think of the stress release of not having to think about medication, u/s's, appointments, IUI, and the worst -- 2WW after the IUI. You will still have a 2WW but I feel the wait after an IUI is way worse than the wait when its just TI (just my opinion). Just ENJOY the beach, especially for me. I'm in MN and its currently 37* and possible snow accumulation. I feel like I am never going to see sun again!

As far as Mother's Day goes, I'm a server at a pretty nice restaurant and we're required to work every 3rd Sunday brunch. Mother's day happens to fall on my sunday so I will be working from 8am-5pm, but it's a buffet at $26/person so hoping I can make good money. I might have my mom/stepdad and MIL/FIL over to grill after I get off. It sucks because I don't really get along with my mom, and its always awkward tention in the room when were together buts its like an obligatory holiday... 

curlylocks3

Sorry about cd1 Sueann. I would take the month off and use the time to just unwind. I wouldn't want the stress of possibly missing my IUI hanging over my head.
As for Mother's Day we are going to an OOT wedding not far from H's family that weekend. We suggested getting together with them for brunch that Saturday. Mother's Day itself we will have a hangover brunch with friends and be flyimg home.

Cara1024

I'm sorry for the BFN for IUI #1. (((hugs))) I do think i'd take this month off for the IUI and just TI. Its a hard decision though. 

That is a great idea to get away just the two of you for mothers day. I will probably see my mother in law which hopefully won't be too bad because there are no babies or even children on DH's side of the family. Then I'll leave the next day for a week long trip to visit my sister so I have something great that i'm looking forward to at least. 

scbedi

I am so sorry about CD 1. If it were me, I would probably take this cycle off. It sounds like you have such a nice beach trip planned, i would hate to rush it because of an appt.

As for Mother's Day- nothing planned so far. usually my dad and I cook my mom breakfast in bed then go to church. We will probably go to brunch with my mom and grandparents. This is the first year my grandparents are living close to us so it will be pretty special. I am sure we will see MIL at some point. No kids in our family, but I do intent to stay away from FB. If this cycle works for us then we will know on Monday and we were hoping to tell parents on M-Day, but I think that is just wishful thinking. 

EIK2013

I agree with the other ladies, if the timing is going to be iffy I would take the month off. I have had to make this decision before and it sucks, it's like you are desperate to find a way to make the cycle work, but it always turns out to be stressful and really not worth it. Especially if you are taking a trip, you want to be able to enjoy it and not be stressing about getting back on time for the IUI

In regards to Mothers Day: I guess I haven't thought about it I don't want to think about it lol...i have a feeling we will probably spend some time with my mom and sister and then hit up some breweries just me and the boy...nothing some good thick beers can fix  

sueann911

katib77:

If there is a chance of bad timing I say skip this month. No need to stress, once month break isn't going to kill you.
As for mothers day, every year we hang at SIL's house with MIL and there is drinks and hot tubbing. Since this is my fourth Mothers Day TTC, I'm getting better at handling it. Year two was the worst. Booze helps.

Thanks everyone! I'm really leaning towards the break too. I still need to talk to DH about it and get his thoughts but I think he will probably agree.

As for MD, I wish I had the chance to help it along with booze but I don't think that will be an option unless we're away from everyone. Last year I was ok. I was still in the first year of trying and never thought it would take this long. Now, I'm just coming out of a dark place and I think being alone with DH will be better for me than around people.

Thanks again!