Invite Etiquette..

kanned0121

So my best friend from growing up is throwing me a baby shower... My mom and I have offered to help with anything to make it easier on her and to show our appreciation.

 So here is the question I have... she text me today suggesting (stating) we should do a facebook invite rather than traditional invites. I would prefer "real" invitations, would it be bratty of me to offer to do the invites instead?

Thanks! 

1026pumpkin

I would tell her that you have some friends or family that don't really do Facebook, and your mom has volunteered to send out traditional invites.

cinderin

1026pumpkin:

I would tell her that you have some friends or family that don't really do Facebook, and your mom has volunteered to send out traditional invites.

yup! 

daphnemoon

cinderin:

1026pumpkin:

I would tell her that you have some friends or family that don't really do Facebook, and your mom has volunteered to send out traditional invites.

yup! 

I think this is perfect. This way you aren't telling her, "Ack! That's tacky!"  And you're offering to take the work off of her. How could she say no?

sarahharmintx

As someone who doesnt do Facebook, I would say real invites. And they dont even have to be custom ordered with lace and all that jazz. Target and Party City have low cost options and some stores (PC or Michaels) have 40% off coupons available.

rpalen29

fb invite= tacky!!

tell her you'll have your mom send out invites. Hopefully she doesn't do fb invites as well.  

RibbitGrl930

There are some social circles in which all event invites are done on Facebook. If everybody invited to the shower belongs to such a group, I say it's okay. However, the fact that you have expressed displeasure with this idea tells me this is not the case with you and your circle.

I second PPs who have suggested telling your hostess that not everybody coming to the shower is on FB, or checks FB regularly, to back up your request of doing real invites. They don't have to be expensive. 

rhubarb123

RibbitGrl930:

There are some social circles in which all event invites are done on Facebook. If everybody invited to the shower belongs to such a group, I say it's okay. However, the fact that you have expressed displeasure with this idea tells me this is not the case with you and your circle.

I second PPs who have suggested telling your hostess that not everybody coming to the shower is on FB, or checks FB regularly, to back up your request of doing real invites. They don't have to be expensive. 

Totally agree with this.  I have friends that do facebook and email but some of them do not look at them regulaly.  Matter of fact, I emailed a friend on April 20th and have yet to hear from her...yet she has been on facebook!  lol   Some of my friend refuse to open a facebook account.  One of my friends just got a computer so barely has started emailing.  Not everyone is "hooked up". 

I totally think facebook or evites are tacky.  Really, how hard is it to buy some inexpensive invites and write out an address on an envelope? 

NL105

1026pumpkin:

I would tell her that you have some friends or family that don't really do Facebook, and your mom has volunteered to send out traditional invites.

This. You can't tell me every single of your aunts, grandmas, etc have a FB account? Make that point to your hostess.

provwife

daphnemoon:

cinderin:

1026pumpkin:

I would tell her that you have some friends or family that don't really do Facebook, and your mom has volunteered to send out traditional invites.

yup! 

I think this is perfect. This way you aren't telling her, "Ack! That's tacky!"  And you're offering to take the work off of her. How could she say no?

Agreed. Guests aren't going to take a facebook invite well..I would think, "they want me to show up and bring gifts but they can't pay for a damn stamp?". It also seems very childish to do a facebook invite.

KellyBensimon

rpalen29:

fb invite= tacky!!

tell her you'll have your mom send out invites. Hopefully she doesn't do fb invites as well.  

I agree with this.  I don't really consider a FB invite as a real invite that's given with attention and forethought.