No fetal pole at 7w

ksf0324

Had a second u/s yesterday and Dr couldn't find a hb or fetal pole.  Said it was likely a genetic abnormality and suggested I schedule a d&c for Friday.  I am crushed.  Been reading about blighted ovum/ova and it sounds about right... all the pregnancy symptoms but no fetal growth.  But, also reading other stories of women who just didn't see/hear it until 8 wks-plus.  Have another u/s on Thursday but I think I'm going to hold out and wait to m/c naturally if it's true.  I can't make a decision like that if there's any chance we might just be too early. 

Brookiebaby8

Trust your body to figure it out more than a piece of machinery prone to human error. Only in western medicine will you hear of DCs to clean out your body in place of nature. Check out the misdiagnosed miscarriage site.

https://mobile.dudamobile.com/site/misdiagnosedmiscarriage?url=http3A2F2Fwww.misdiagnosedmiscarriage.com2F2798

Kay6519

I'm sorry you are going through this. M/c is hard to deal with. Are you sure you are seven weeks? Maybe the baby isn't quite as old as you thought. T&P's for you! I hope things turn out ok.

Brookiebaby8

You could very well just have a tipped uterus. Not saying it isn't possible to have a blighted ovum, but it's less common than a tilted uterus.

alexpierce88

Just curious because my first u/s showed me way to early and we could only see gestational sac and yolk sac and a "dot" that "would be the baby" so the tech said. Did you see any of that in your first u/s?

Praying it is just to early for you.

RedCherry1109

Ticker warning..

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I would go for the U/S on Thursday and also if your on progesterone that could keep you from bleeding too.  

Firefly1220

Brookiebaby8:

Trust your body to figure it out more than a piece of machinery prone to human error. Only in western medicine will you hear of DCs to clean out your body in place of nature. Check out the misdiagnosed miscarriage site. https://mobile.dudamobile.com/site/misdiagnosedmiscarriage?url=http3A2F2Fwww.misdiagnosedmiscarriage.com2F2798

 

You're a jerk and that's completely disrespectful to many wonderful ladies who hoped against hope for a misdiagnosis and didn't get their miracle and to ladies who had D&Cs.

xconf143usionx

Brookiebaby8:

Trust your body to figure it out more than a piece of machinery prone to human error. Only in western medicine will you hear of DCs to clean out your body in place of nature. Check out the misdiagnosed miscarriage site. 

So if someone's say 19 weeks when they miscarry, you expect them to basically give birth to it on thier own? I think the surgery is a much better option in that case. Or if someone is not passing the tissue on their own. That can be a life threatening issue. Sometimes you need medical attention, and pregnancy is no different. Sometimes "nature" doesn't pull through for us.

OP, I am very sorry for you loss. If you want to wait to miscarry naturally, that is completely your choice. I chose to because then I could never look back and ask myself if I made the right decision/if the baby would have made it if I'd done something differently. I think it's very wise to repeat an ultrasound in a few days if you do elect to do a D&C. If there is no growth and still no heartbeat in about a week then it's not a viable pregnancy. If you'd like, you can head on over to the miscarrage/pregnancy loss board. There are some fantastic people over there and they will support you and help you heal through this difficult time. And if you're going to try again, I strongly recomend TTCAL (my home board for many months) they are incredible and will welcome you with open arms. Good luck!

aessary03

Sing2phins:

Brookiebaby8:

Trust your body to figure it out more than a piece of machinery prone to human error. Only in western medicine will you hear of DCs to clean out your body in place of nature. Check out the misdiagnosed miscarriage site.

https://mobile.dudamobile.com/site/misdiagnosedmiscarriage?url=http3A2F2Fwww.misdiagnosedmiscarriage.com2F2798

While I certainly agree that she might want to wait and see, there are plenty of women whose embyros die but whose bodies don't expel the tissue for weeks and weeks and weeks.  If it were me, I'd rather have the D&C and move on.

This. I had a blighted ovum. My body didn't know it and don't think it would have for a while. It was over 9 weeks before I had an ultrasound and 10 weeks at the confirmation ultrasound. If you're truly 7 weeks, I'm sorry for your loss. You can certainly wait for your body to naturally miscarry, but just be prepared to take a while. Also, don't build up too much hope with the missed miscarriage site. I held onto so much hope with that Site and was so devastated.

Laurakat81

Brookiebaby8:

Trust your body to figure it out more than a piece of machinery prone to human error. Only in western medicine will you hear of DCs to clean out your body in place of nature. Check out the misdiagnosed miscarriage site. https://mobile.dudamobile.com/site/misdiagnosedmiscarriage?url=http3A2F2Fwww.misdiagnosedmiscarriage.com2F2798

Really?!?! You're a bit misinformed and I think its very unwise to go around telling people to completely discount their doctor's advice.

I get what you're saying to a degree, the waiting and seeing, but ultrasounds are VERY RARELY wrong. I waited FOUR WEEKS with my first pregnancy for my body to get the hint that my baby had died. Ultrasound already let me know within days of her heart stopping but my body kept on producing pregnancy hormones, pregnancy symptoms, and I just sat there waiting and waiting. I thought I was doing what was best for my body by waiting and not doing the D&C.

With my second pregnancy the exact same thing happened. I thought for sure this time my body would get the hint when the baby's heart stopped beating. But again, weeks later and nothing was happening. No spotting, no cramping, not a damn thing was happening. My body had no clue.

 And guess what all that waiting around did? It left me with an infection that left me completely infertile. Yep, that's right. INFERTILE. An infection destroyed both of my fallopian tubes beyond repair. My third pregnancy was ectopic and when my tube burst and I was rushed into emergency surgery to save my life the true extent of the damage was found.

I only got pregnant this time by spending over $20k on IVF.

So no, I don't "trust my body" to figure it out.

Laurakat81

ksf0324:

Had a second u/s yesterday and Dr couldn't find a hb or fetal pole.  Said it was likely a genetic abnormality and suggested I schedule a d&c for Friday.  I am crushed.  Been reading about blighted ovum/ova and it sounds about right... all the pregnancy symptoms but no fetal growth.  But, also reading other stories of women who just didn't see/hear it until 8 wks-plus.  Have another u/s on Thursday but I think I'm going to hold out and wait to m/c naturally if it's true.  I can't make a decision like that if there's any chance we might just be too early. 

 

(((HUGS)))

I'm so sorry you're going through this. I see nothing wrong with waiting until you feel comfortable and sure that its either over or that things actually turn around. I think the worst thing in the world would be going through with something that you weren't mentally ready for and living with the doubt and what ifs.

CupcakeGirl08

Firefly1220:

Brookiebaby8:

Trust your body to figure it out more than a piece of machinery prone to human error. Only in western medicine will you hear of DCs to clean out your body in place of nature. Check out the misdiagnosed miscarriage site. https://mobile.dudamobile.com/site/misdiagnosedmiscarriage?url=http3A2F2Fwww.misdiagnosedmiscarriage.com2F2798

 

You're a jerk and that's completely disrespectful to many wonderful ladies who hoped against hope for a misdiagnosis and didn't get their miracle and to ladies who had D&Cs.

This..... What a completely ignorant and disrespectful thing to say.  In my last pregnancy I had a completely normal ultrasound at 8wks and baby had a heartbeat.  At my 12 week appt they found that the baby stopped growing at 9 weeks and no longer had a heartbeat.  I had no bleeding and no signs of being able to have a miscarriage naturally.  I was given the option to either take oral medicine to help me pass the tissue at home or have a D&C.

OP, move forward with what you are comfortable with and I'm sorry for your loss.  I chose the D&C because at that time I couldn't handle doing it at home.  I also highly recommend posting on the loss boards as the women there are very helpful and know what you are going through.

missesru

Sing2phins:

Brookiebaby8:

Trust your body to figure it out more than a piece of machinery prone to human error. Only in western medicine will you hear of DCs to clean out your body in place of nature. Check out the misdiagnosed miscarriage site. https://mobile.dudamobile.com/site/misdiagnosedmiscarriage?url=http3A2F2Fwww.misdiagnosedmiscarriage.com2F2798

While I certainly agree that she might want to wait and see, there are plenty of women whose embyros die but whose bodies don't expel the tissue for weeks and weeks and weeks.  If it were me, I'd rather have the D&C and move on.

I agree with Sing2phins.  I think OP may want to wait it out due to dating issues, error, etc..... I personally had a missed m/c for my first pregnancy.  My body was not miscarrying naturally and it was a million times better for me physically and emotionally to have the D&C. 

CaliforniaDream87

Sing2phins:

Brookiebaby8:

Trust your body to figure it out more than a piece of machinery prone to human error. Only in western medicine will you hear of DCs to clean out your body in place of nature. Check out the misdiagnosed miscarriage site.

https://mobile.dudamobile.com/site/misdiagnosedmiscarriage?url=http3A2F2Fwww.misdiagnosedmiscarriage.com2F2798

While I certainly agree that she might want to wait and see, there are plenty of women whose embyros die but whose bodies don't expel the tissue for weeks and weeks and weeks.  If it were me, I'd rather have the D&C and move on.

Um yea like me with my last pregnancy.

Seriously people are so uneducated!

readyornot12345

I'm so sorry for what you are going through. Prayers for the best outcome.

maycouple

Sing2phins:

Brookiebaby8:

Trust your body to figure it out more than a piece of machinery prone to human error. Only in western medicine will you hear of DCs to clean out your body in place of nature. Check out the misdiagnosed miscarriage site. https://mobile.dudamobile.com/site/misdiagnosedmiscarriage?url=http3A2F2Fwww.misdiagnosedmiscarriage.com2F2798

While I certainly agree that she might want to wait and see, there are plenty of women whose embyros die but whose bodies don't expel the tissue for weeks and weeks and weeks.  If it were me, I'd rather have the D&C and move on.

 

This. I am so sorry you're going through this--hugs to you. 

hjweber

Sing2phins:

Brookiebaby8:

Trust your body to figure it out more than a piece of machinery prone to human error. Only in western medicine will you hear of DCs to clean out your body in place of nature. Check out the misdiagnosed miscarriage site. https://mobile.dudamobile.com/site/misdiagnosedmiscarriage?url=http3A2F2Fwww.misdiagnosedmiscarriage.com2F2798

While I certainly agree that she might want to wait and see, there are plenty of women whose embyros die but whose bodies don't expel the tissue for weeks and weeks and weeks.  If it were me, I'd rather have the D&C and move on.

 

This.  It's a horrible decision to have to make.  With my very first pregnancy, I was officially diagnosed with blighted ovum at 9 weeks.  The pregnancy stopped developing sometime around 6 weeks.  I was having horrible m/s with vomiting and after hearing the bad news, my anxiety levels skyrocketed.  My Hcg levels were so high, it was unlikely that my body would recognize it was not a viable pregnancy.  The doctor said it could be several weeks.  I just wanted to accept it and move on.  It wasn't easy and there were lots of tears.  This diagnosis is actually a lot more common than some people know.  I feel if you choose to wait another week to see if there is any progress made, that would be understandable.  But I wouldn't put yourself through much more than that.  T&P!

Lissa832

If you've had 2 scans done at least a week apart, then I think it is wise to discuss your options. I have had a medicated miscarriage, 2 natural, and a D&C. If I ever have another missed miscarriage, I will have a D&C, no questions asked. It was the easiest miscarriage by far physically. I had minimal bleeding, and zero pain. It was also nice to know when I left the hospital that it was done. No walking around wondering when it would be over. The medicated miscarriage was very painful and completely traumatic for me. You need to do what's best for you. Hang in there. I'm sorry for your loss.