Miscarriage/Pregnancy Loss

I just don't want to be sad anymore

I miscarried last Tuesday and I just don't want to be sad anymore.  Almost all physical signs are gone, minus very very light bleeding, but emotionally, I am feeling worse and worse each day.


DH is in Afghanistan and is so worried that I feel bad.  The last thing I want him worrying about over there is me, but he knows how upset I am.  My parents came to visit for the weekend which was a wonderful distraction, but when they left yesterday I crashed.


Please tell me it gets easier and that I won't feel this way forever.  

Re: I just don't want to be sad anymore

  • Kelley,  I had a d&c three weeks ago tomorrow and as time goes by I am having more good days than bad.  Every now and then it'll be overwhelming sadness.  But compared to a week ago I feel better.  I know it's such a cliche but it does get easier with time.  *Hugs*
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  • I am so sorry for your loss and so sorry that you have to deal with the added stress of SO being overseas!

    It will get easier. I promise you that. There will be good days and bad days and you will never forget your baby, but it will get easier. I just experienced my second loss in 4 months with no LO's. I can honestly say that I'm finally starting to feel better and my pg symptoms are finally gone a little over 2 weeks out from my D and C. My first loss was easier to move past because we were so optimistic and determined to try again.

    Take it one day at a time, be good to yourself and try and plan out some fun things to do with friends and family, set a goal, find something to occupy your mind and work to accomplish, it will help. Good luck, and reach out whenever you need to.

    BFP #1 11/19/12  EDD: 7/25/13  Natural MC on 12/31/12 at 10w4d

    BFP#2 3/1/13   EDD: 11/5/13   Missed MC 4/9/13 at 10w   D&C 4/11/13  
    Baby #2 diagnosed with Trisomy 16. Diagnosed Hetero MTHFR.

    BFP#3 8/5/13   EDD: 4/13/14   Team Green Turned Team Blue! Our rainbow baby, Griffin R arrived via c-section (breech since 20w) on 4/11/14. 



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  • Time... It just takes time. We lost our little girl Tuesday as well. What really helped me to find peace was to give her a name and to do something with DH to commemorate her loss. I finally feel like I have some peace about losing her. Granted I'm still emotional at times, but it is easier to handle.
  • I am so sorry this happened and DH is so far away. Below is a link to my earlier post, I hope you find some solace in it. Is there a support group nearby? It might help to go and talk about it.


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    Started dating in 5/9/05, Married 6/25/11
    Started TTC Feb 2013, BFP #1 3/4/13 EDD 11/10/13. MMC 4/9/13 D&C 4/22/13.
    BFP #2 7/17/13, EDD 3/29/14 ended in a CP on 7/22/13.
    BFP#3 8/19/13 EDD 5/3/14 Nerdling was born 4/29/14, welcome little one!
     All AL welcome.

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  • As a lot of PP have said, it takes time. Eventually you will have more good then bad days. Right now your wound is still so fresh.

    Daisypath Anniversary tickers November 22, 2012: Went into ER with spotting to discover my babies had stopped developing at 10 wks 4 days and 11 wks 3 days. Their hearts no longer beat. EDD:05/27/2013 Lilypie Angel and Memorial tickers April 22, 2013: Found out I was miscarrying May 3, 2013:Saw baby in Utero and in tubes diagnosed with Heterotopic pregnancy May 7, 2013: Taken into surgery for tubal pregnancy baby and right tube was removed Lilypie Angel and Memorial tickers
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