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I just don't want to be sad anymore

72kelley72kelley member
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I miscarried last Tuesday and I just don't want to be sad anymore.  Almost all physical signs are gone, minus very very light bleeding, but emotionally, I am feeling worse and worse each day.

 

DH is in Afghanistan and is so worried that I feel bad.  The last thing I want him worrying about over there is me, but he knows how upset I am.  My parents came to visit for the weekend which was a wonderful distraction, but when they left yesterday I crashed.

 

Please tell me it gets easier and that I won't feel this way forever.  

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Re: I just don't want to be sad anymore

  • kenzers88kenzers88 member
    Kelley,  I had a d&c three weeks ago tomorrow and as time goes by I am having more good days than bad.  Every now and then it'll be overwhelming sadness.  But compared to a week ago I feel better.  I know it's such a cliche but it does get easier with time.  *Hugs*
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  • porterlove525porterlove525 member
    I am so sorry for your loss and so sorry that you have to deal with the added stress of SO being overseas!

    It will get easier. I promise you that. There will be good days and bad days and you will never forget your baby, but it will get easier. I just experienced my second loss in 4 months with no LO's. I can honestly say that I'm finally starting to feel better and my pg symptoms are finally gone a little over 2 weeks out from my D and C. My first loss was easier to move past because we were so optimistic and determined to try again.

    Take it one day at a time, be good to yourself and try and plan out some fun things to do with friends and family, set a goal, find something to occupy your mind and work to accomplish, it will help. Good luck, and reach out whenever you need to.

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  • Kay6519Kay6519 member
    Time... It just takes time. We lost our little girl Tuesday as well. What really helped me to find peace was to give her a name and to do something with DH to commemorate her loss. I finally feel like I have some peace about losing her. Granted I'm still emotional at times, but it is easier to handle.
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  • SerenlaSerenla member
    I am so sorry this happened and DH is so far away. Below is a link to my earlier post, I hope you find some solace in it. Is there a support group nearby? It might help to go and talk about it.

    https://m.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/73689511.aspx



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  • Katie5295Katie5295 member
    As a lot of PP have said, it takes time. Eventually you will have more good then bad days. Right now your wound is still so fresh.

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