I'm assuming you didn't plan this pregnancy. He is probably in shock and needs space and time to sort through his feelings and figure out how to deal with his new role as "dad". If this wasn't something you guys planned, he probably just needs time. Give him his time and space. Try not pressure him. What he said does not in anyway mean he doesn't want to be with you or doesn't want the baby. It just means exactly that, he needs time and space to think. Deciding to start a family and purposly getting pregnant is still a major change for a lot of coupkes. So an unplanned pregnancy brings a lot more feelings and insecurities.
In the mean time, tell him to take his time, you have 9 months to figure things out, and that you are there when he is ready to talk. Take are of yourself by eating healthy, getting a prenatal pill and finding a good OB to schedule your first prenatal appointment. Congrats.
MMC 01/26/12
MC 12/25/12, D&C 01/05/13
BFP 03/05/13, EDD 11/12/13. HB 175 @ 9w2d. Its a Girl!
Madeline Lorraine H. Born 11/12/13 @9:10pm, 7lb6oz
DX with EA/TEF Type C & Tracheomalaysia MC @ 13wks 01/15/15
DX Septate Uterus - surgery recommended
BFP 3/18/16, EDD 11/13/16 It's a boy! Clint Kiszonas H. Born 11/21/16 @10:38pm, 9lb11oz
I'm assuming the pregnancy wasn't planned. How long have you been together? Do you have your own friends and family to support you? Personally, I'd give him his space, but in the mean time, I'd be making my own plans on how to proceed with this pregnancy and for the possibility of raising the child on my own. I was a single mom until my kiddo was almost 5 ... it's hard, but I had lots of help from my little brother.
Good luck and hope he figures things out and steps up to be a dad.
Thank you, this helps me. I just hope he doesn't take long! It's already tough cuz I still live with my parents and so does he and he is also in the military, but I will take your advice.
I will be 19 in June and he wi be 20 in September. We've been together for 4 months. We thought the me being on birth control was a big protector when we didn't use a condom.
I will be 19 in June and he wi be 20 in September. We've been together for 4 months. We thought the me being on birth control was a big protector when we didn't use a condom.
I was 18 when I had my son. I won't candy coat anything, being a teen mom ESPECIALLY unplanned and not married is going to be really tough. You world will drastically change BUT your baby is a blessing and after it's all said and done, it's amazing at worth it.
I am not surprized by your boyfriends reaction considering his age and how short yall ha ve been together but I think telling you he wants time from you was very inconsiderate. You can't take time away from your baby inside you...
I will be 19 in June and he wi be 20 in September. We've been together for 4 months. We thought the me being on birth control was a big protector when we didn't use a condom.
I was 18 when I had my son. I won't candy coat anything, being a teen mom ESPECIALLY unplanned and not married is going to be really tough. You world will drastically change BUT your baby is a blessing and after it's all said and done, it's amazing at worth it.
I am not surprized by your boyfriends reaction considering his age and how short yall ha ve been together but I think telling you he wants time from you was very inconsiderate. You can't take time away from your baby inside you...
Good luck and I wish you the best.
Thank you so much for your help! It will be tough but I am ready to do it, about an hour ago he came around!! And he felt horrible for how he was acting so that was good!!
I hope everything works out for you. Remember that in all of this to take care of yourself and that baby growing inside of you. Pregnancy can be a scary thing especially if not planned. I was just a year older then you when I got pregnant. Things between the guy and me didn't work. Being a "father" wasn't really something he was ready for and he didn't care.
I ended up choosing adoption because at the time that was what was best for me and my daughter. It was one of the hardest and best things I had ever done and I still deal with that because it is an emotional battle. But I am thankful I can look back and know that I did what was best.
Just make sure in all of this you are doing what is best for you and that baby. If your boyfriend is supportive that is great and I hope for the best for all of you. Raising a child is definitely not easy even when you are married but it definitely is a blessing. Good luck!
Re: Problems with the boyfriend
In the mean time, tell him to take his time, you have 9 months to figure things out, and that you are there when he is ready to talk. Take are of yourself by eating healthy, getting a prenatal pill and finding a good OB to schedule your first prenatal appointment. Congrats.
MMC 01/26/12
MC 12/25/12, D&C 01/05/13
BFP 03/05/13, EDD 11/12/13. HB 175 @ 9w2d. Its a Girl!
DX with EA/TEF Type C & Tracheomalaysia
MC @ 13wks 01/15/15
BFP 1/11/18, EDD 9/21/18
I'm assuming the pregnancy wasn't planned. How long have you been together? Do you have your own friends and family to support you? Personally, I'd give him his space, but in the mean time, I'd be making my own plans on how to proceed with this pregnancy and for the possibility of raising the child on my own. I was a single mom until my kiddo was almost 5 ... it's hard, but I had lots of help from my little brother.
Good luck and hope he figures things out and steps up to be a dad.
Emma Kate - born 10.16.03 @ 29 weeks, weighed 1lb 13oz and 13.5" long.
TTC #3
I was 18 when I had my son. I won't candy coat anything, being a teen mom ESPECIALLY unplanned and not married is going to be really tough. You world will drastically change BUT your baby is a blessing and after it's all said and done, it's amazing at worth it.
I am not surprized by your boyfriends reaction considering his age and how short yall ha ve been together but I think telling you he wants time from you was very inconsiderate. You can't take time away from your baby inside you...
Good luck and I wish you the best.
Thank you so much for your help! It will be tough but I am ready to do it, about an hour ago he came around!! And he felt horrible for how he was acting so that was good!!
I hope everything works out for you. Remember that in all of this to take care of yourself and that baby growing inside of you. Pregnancy can be a scary thing especially if not planned. I was just a year older then you when I got pregnant. Things between the guy and me didn't work. Being a "father" wasn't really something he was ready for and he didn't care.
I ended up choosing adoption because at the time that was what was best for me and my daughter. It was one of the hardest and best things I had ever done and I still deal with that because it is an emotional battle. But I am thankful I can look back and know that I did what was best.
Just make sure in all of this you are doing what is best for you and that baby. If your boyfriend is supportive that is great and I hope for the best for all of you. Raising a child is definitely not easy even when you are married but it definitely is a blessing. Good luck!