Going at it alone. Single and wanting to become a mom.

Sunni01

Is there anyone going at this alone. I'm 39 and I decided that I want a baby. I can't wait for Mr. Right anymore. I have gone thru my first IUI this past March, and it was hard to get that bfn. The only thing I have working against me is my amh level .16. RE went aggressive and went straight to injectables. Boy was that different. I am a vegan and have been so for 11-12 years. I have not had any medication or anything synthetic in my body like that. I had cramps, bloating the whole shebang, for a month and a half. ( includes first day of injectables all the way to 2 weeks past IUI) needless to say I got my first bout with 2 collapsing cyst. Never had cyst before. Afraid of doing it again. Put off April cycle-cyst, went to RE looking to start May cycle-just started AF (4/25)- after u/s (4/26) I got scarred and postponed it till next cycle. Going at it alone is hard when you want this so bad. Any words of encouragement would be greatly appreciated.

HeathernSteven

I have no words of advce except, you will have to be very strong. If possible find a friend that can be your support, because its the UPS and downs that we need someone to hold our hands, to hug us when its bfn.

I wish you the best of luck, post whenever you need help or support

Sunni01

Thank you.

CHS2005

Sorry you are  going through this. My sister had a baby alone though IUI at 42. I know each person is different and every situation (medical/personal) is different, but best of luck to you! 

Samidez

I was single when I went for it alone at 39. Best decision I've ever made in my life. All the meds and needles are worth it to make it happen. Just try to focus on staying as positive as possible. Good luck to you!

Jacque Sills

I commend you for being such a strong person and moving forward in this wonderful thing called parenthood.  I can understand wanting a partner to help and be a part of your family experience, but I am sure that your child to be will see and benefit from such bravery and spirt on your part.......

Best wishes and stay strong for yourself and your dream of being a mother!

hooligans4

just wanted to wish you the best of luck.  if this is what you want then you will find the courage to stick with it.  being a parent will be well worth all the struggle.

this board will be there for you whenever you need it.  

dglvrk2

A dear friend of mine is 42 and going at it alone.  She's very happy with her decision.  She's very well established in her career and financially well off.  She has a very strong support network.  Family are helping too.  Really, that's key, she says.  She also looks on the bright side: she gets to raise her child exactly how she sees best.  She's 37 weeks now and is getting good at asking for help too.  The best of parents - IMHO - ask and appreicate help.  Even with a SO, you can't get by without a support system and some assertiveness :-)

Good luck!! 

Sunni01

Thank you all. Your words are encouraging and comforting.

Reilly626

There is a girl on the multiples site Melle from TX that went it alone. I wouldn't recommend multiples alone, it's been exhausting yet rewarding but I need lots of help. I think you are a very secure and brave person and will make a great mother. Best of luck to you! The injections aren't easy but its worth it!