Of course.. a sleep question and crazy situation

mcanant

My almost 10 month old has ALWAYS stirred during the night multiple times, to the point where we would have to put our hands on her (we co-slept) to get her to go back to sleep. She "woke" up once during night to eat, then goes back down for another 3 hours or so until 6:30 when we have to all get up for work. She normally goes to bed at 8:30, asleep by 9 by feeding.

A week ago, I left for a work conference. The last night I was gone (last Wed) she was at my parents and slept awful for them. Woke every hour to 2 hours, wasn't hungry just didn't know how to go back to sleep (my mom slept with her and tried to put her hand on her and it worked maybe a couple of times). Every since then her sleeps has been horrible. We moved her to the crib Saturday and the only change has been that we have to catch her starting to wake, run to her room, and put our hand on her so she doesn't freak out.  We don't know what to do. She obviously isn't getting long REM sleep. She only sleeps about 9 hours as it is and with frequent wakings, I am worried. I am assuming she is scared to be alone? I know its only been a week, but it seems to be getting worse. last night we were up 7 times to try and catch her before she woke all the way up. She goes down fine (I don't mind nursing to sleep, and even if I don't a bottle or rocking knocks her out) but keeping her asleep is killing us! If she were hungry that would be different, but she is not.

At this point and her age, I am not sure what sleep training if any will help us. She doesn't want a paci, she doesn't care that her lovey is with her when she wakes up. She is just awake and wants attention. 

any ideas on how we can help her sleep? is it a matter of her recognizing she is waking and she needs to put herself back to sleep? How do we do this if she doesn't use any other "crutch"?  I have read the various sleep training methods and I am just lost on what will work since she seems so unwilling to self soother. We tried CIO one night and the girl went insane for about 30 min. We checked in every 5 min and put our hands on her when she got really crazy, but my husband said no way after 30 min. Sorry for the length of the post and TIA for any advice that may help.

vrj0522

kbruington:

Oh man, you have to run to her crib and put your hand on her?! Yikes, that must be tough. I'm not saying you've cr

RioG1978

If you're uncomfortable with CIO (I am, so this is from my own experience) I would say give the crib a bit more time.  The changes that happen from month to month are so dramatic.  My DD is 10 months, 3 weeks.  Just 3 weeks ago she still

laurenhankey

Unfortunately, she's never learned how to soothe herself back to sleep.  Babies aren't naturally good or bad sleepers, they have to be taught "how to sleep".  Does she do any self soothing during the day or during nap time? LIke sucking her fing