Feeling a bit sad tonight

Our friends who encountered IF at the same time as us are now expecting. Although we are very happy for them I still feel a little sad for us. Not to sound bitter but we've been dealing with this longer and we have nothing to show. I am excited to be moving through this adoption process but I can't help but feel jealous and frustrated.

Our friends announced their pregnancy on FB in a cute way. It made me sad that we will never be able to do that or announce to our friends and family over the holidays that we are expecting. It is just different when it comes to adoption because nothing is set in stone until finalization.
Pursing Domestic Infant Adoption through a local agency. In the meantime, our dog is our baby.  Bumping from Portland, Oregon. 

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  • The sad is hard. I'm feeling sadness and I didn't ever really want to be pregnant- I just tried because it was more affordable than adoption..... But there are things I'm sad about--- like when I see the baby kicking in the emom's belly, I'm weirdly jealo
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  • It's hard, really hard...... But, announcing your baby will be exciting, I promise! We didn't know about our kiddo until 5 weeks before he was born and we kept it very quiet in case things didn't work out. TPR was signed when Ryan was 3 days old and we go
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  • (((Hugs)))) I get it. I have been lapped several If friends at that. It sucks.

    It is very hard to let go of the way we hoped our lives will go. So many things you look forward to experiencing that are now not part of the plan. I have

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  • Hugs to you. Sad

    I love what Laura Bush wrote in her autobiography about her own struggle with infertility...

    For some years now, the wedding invitations that h

    I'm a dance studio owner, writer, cat mommy, and adventuress who is married to the man of her dreams. My husband and I have had a long-time dream to adopt and it's happening in a way that we didn't quite anticipate. But, like any move of God, it's turning out way better than we expected. We'd love for you to follow our story at!
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    Hugs I get it. I have been lapped several If friends at that. It sucks.It is very hard to let go of the way w
  • I know what you are going through. However, announcing your new addition will be the most amazing feeling, trust me. We just went through it after watching all of our friends have multiple children and watching several friends have babies through IVF w

    Cervical Cancer Survivor since 2007 TTC Since 2008 IUI#1 = BFN IUI#2 = BFN IUI#3 = BFN IUI#4 = BFN IVF #1 = BFN FET #1 = BFN FET #2 = BFN FET #3 = BFN IVF #2 = BFN IVF #3 = BFN FET #4 = BFN FET #5 = BFP!!! 06/10/2011 Miscarriage 06/21/2011 Adoption Application Submitted 09/2011, Personal Documents Submitted 11/18/2011, Home Visit 12/16/2011, Officially Waiting!!! 01/21/2013 MATCHED!!!! 01/24/2013 Baby Boy Born! Lilypie First Birthday tickers
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    Been on both sides of this one.  Choosing my words carefully b/c I don't want to make it sound like I'm minimizing your feelings in any way. 

    We struggled with infertility.  Did not pursue any treatments for personal reasons.&nbsp

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  • This helps.

    Pursing Domestic Infant Adoption through a local agency. In the meantime, our dog is our baby.  Bumping from Portland, Oregon. 
  • imageGinger71:

    (((Hugs)))) I get it. I have been lapped several If friends at that. It sucks.

    It is very hard to

    TTC #1 9/11-12/12, 9/12 Dx: Hypothyroid + DOR (AMH .76), IUI #1 & #2 BFN's
    1/13 Decided to pursue DIA, 4/13 Home study Approved 9/13 Matched!
    10/13 DS home with us! 2/14 TPR completed  5/14 ADOPTION IS FINAL!
    3/14 Surprise BFP 11/14 DD is here!
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  • I feel all the same feelings as you.  The only thing I think is cool(and maybe this will help you) is that one day, out of no where, you can post a picture of your new baby and say Welcoming "blank" to the "blank family"....ect ect.  People are
    I used to go by another name on here, but got a new computer and forgot my login information. I have been an active member on the TTC boards then moved to TTTC, then moved to the Infertility board, and now I am at the Adoption board. Crazy how life does not turn out how you expect it. I never thought I would join 4 different boards on The Bump before becoming a Mother! My husband I are pursing Domestic Newborn Adoption. Later in life we will attempt IVF again. We needed a mental break, but adoption is not much easier! The wait is very hard. We signed with our agency and then became home study approved in February of 2013. We are hoping to be matched soon!
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