June 2012 Moms

Do I back down or not

A little backstory: My folks were physically and verbally abusive when I was growing up. They had rotten parents themselves so I forgive them but I will never forget how it made me feel as a child. I promised myself as a Mom I would do better I wouldn't ever make my kids feel that way. Although my son is only 10 months old we have had some trying times like his colic and I have been the best Mom I could holding him and rocking him when he would cry in my face telling him how much I love him.

My mom who lives 2 states away skypes me last week and asks to see my son. He's in his swing in the corner facing me on the couch. He had a really fussy needy day (he just started cruising) and was resting a little and drinking a bottle. I would have taken him upstairs but I didnt expect him to really go to sleep. My mom starts laying into me how cruel I am, how wrong it is for his swing to be in the corner of the room. Basically reading me the riot act and calling me a bad parent. Hearing that is like a knife to my heart I love my son so much and I give him the best of everything including myself. I ended the conversation telling her she owed me an apology before I would be willing to Skype or speak to her again. That she had no right to critize me as a parent.

Today she Skypes me and I remind her she has not apologized. She goes on to tell me she has no intention of apologizing its her right to say whenever I'm doing things wrong and that she is going to talk to her grandson.

I really feel that until she can respect me as a parent I need to stay away from her. She thinks I'm using my son as punishment to get what I want but I just want to keep him as far away from the dysfunction as possible until i know she will be kind.

I've been manipulated and abusived for so long by these people I just want make sure that I am being a reasonable adult with my decision

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