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I'm ready for baby. Husband not too sure.

Lovemyhubs96Lovemyhubs96
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My husband has been on this not ready to even plan for a baby yet streak. I've been "ready" for the past 2 years. We've been married 3. He wanted to have the career then the house etc. well he has the career now, and we are in the process of buying a house. But a baby is still something we can't talk about. He knows I want it. He will point out every baby and pregnant women to me.

Anyways my birthday is in 3 months. I was thinking to write him my birthday wish list to include time frame of trying to conceive then when 9months would be...? As a way to bring it up break the ice. Or does anyone else have a better idea?! Please share. I know my husband is just nervous.oh yeah I'm 25, he is 29.
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  • Jasperk23Jasperk23 member

    Personally, I wouldn't do the birthday thing. I think that realistically, you should be able to sit him down and say "This is where I'm at, how about you?" Communication is key, especially with something as important as this. That being said, I would t

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  • Lovemyhubs96Lovemyhubs96
    Totally makes sense and you are right. I just want to be able to talk to him about it without him getting upset or putting too much pressure on him. I don't want that. In the past it's been brought up this is what I want and you need to want it too, ive
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  • memali26memali26 member

    I wouldn't do anything cutesy to bring it up to him. Just talk to him like an adult. "Hey, honey, I'd really like it if we could set aside a time to discuss the future and growing our family. Is now good, or can we pick a night this week we can talk wi

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  • SmileyJaySmileyJay member

    I think you should feel so fortunate that you have a husband who wants to make your future as bright as possible by preparing in advance for your children. He also probably loves this time with just the two of you.

    You are only 25, give him just

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  • Maya+MoreMaya+More
    I'd scrap the birthday "hint list" idea too and discuss TTC in a more serious setting. Let him pamper you on your birthday and enjoy all the non-baby gifts while you can in your pre-baby days! Then when it's time to chat with DH, maybe take a look at you
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  • jjgrl55jjgrl55 member

    I agree with PP about comparing bucket lists. Set realistic goals about what you both want to achieve before TTC and meet them. With DH, we set a goal and made the deal that once it was met, we would TTC (with the understanding that this deal could be

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