Life is different after baby...

DCKate

Anyone else here one of the first in their circle of friends to get pregnant? Being a new mom can be isolating, but our friends were great the first two months. Everyone came by, brought food, etc.

Now that my daughter is almost four months, I feel like a lot of that has stopped. I don't need anyone to bring me food or do my laundry, but it would be nice to get a checkin email or invite out for a beer, even of I can't go.

I guess I'm feeling a little sad that some of our closest friends have fallen off the face of the earth. I know they haven't had this experience yet, but come on guys! I'm there for you through breakups and tough days at work.

Just venting I guess. Some friends I wouldn't have expected to be involved have been amazing, and its really appreciated. I'm just a little bummed that some of my closest friends don't seem that interested.

Anyone else experiencing the same?

laura1

I totally hear you.  Even though I was 32 when I had DS, I was still one of the first of my friends to have a baby.  It would make me feel so sad when I would see pics on facebook of them all out and I wasn't invited, or hearing about nights

rjeller32

I was definitely the first of my friends, and two years later they are just getting to a point in their lives where they are starting to think about kids. I spent a lot of the first year adjusting to having to deal with the fact that my friends had other

mamaHippo23

Yes, we are the first one to have kids and since we're in our early 20's none of our friends are even close to settling down or starting a family. They're all musicians so they're almost always going out to bars, clubs, and parties. Luckily, our brothe

ForeverEverAfter

I was the first of my local friends, and there was a big difference. My closest friend was so involved in pregnancy and the first week (planned my shower, helped bring things home from the hospital) and I've seen her 3 times in the last 3 months. And 2 of

fennyann

I understand this completely. I am the first of my friends to have a baby and I don't see them too often. It can be pretty depressing at times. People just always assume that because I have baby, that i never want to get out and do things from time to tim

SingleMom31

I have one or two friends from high school that have been great to chat with on FB, but of my frequently-see-in-real-life friends, I'm the first too. 

When I was home on maternity leave, it got to me a lot.  Like, I didn't realize ho

tortuga47

I'm right there with you. And the big bummer is DH travels Monday - Friday so sometimes several days go by I only have my son to talk to because I work from home. Love him dearly, but it's isolating at times. Our closest family is 1000 miles away and t

elvinnoe

Exactly this.. I even asked some friends to let me know if they ever want to do something and I would try to clear my schedule. Still nothing. Ironically, DH gets invited everywhere to everything by the same people. He has the same kid I do lol - I'm not

carteramariec

SingleMom31:

She's in daycare all day while we're at work.  We don't want to pick her up from daycare just to pass her o