Hi,
I have a 3 year old daughter...its really her first year of understanding what a bday is. We are having a party at a park and also having a dinner just our immediate family.
My mother in law also wants to do a bday dinner for my daughter and it just bothers me. She does bday dinner for her kids aka my husband even now that he is going to be 36. I just feel that at some point I need to have my own family, my own birthday dinners and that this is just crossing the line a bit. I know it comes from a good place but let me have my own dinner for my own daughters bday.
The question is am I unreasonable? Out of line or do you feel this way too with your mother in law being supreme mother over your family too? Sell me straight here b/c my husband must think I am nuts!
Re: MIL advice - Party meddler?
As long as she doesn't want you to cancel YOUR bday dinner to substitute it with hers, I don't see what the problem is; I mean it's just an extra celebration for your DD and another chance to get together and eat cake.
Maybe it would bother me a little if she wanted to do it on the actual bday day, if it's another day then great!
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
I get where you are coming from, but I think as other previous post said she isn't trying to step on your toes, she just wants to do something for DD.
Is DD her only grandchild (or only one close by?). Have you asked DH if his grandma had birthday dinners for him when he was young--If your hubby is having issues "he thinks you are nuts" put it into perspective for him this way. Would his mom have been mad if his grandma wanted to throw him a birthday dinner when he was young?
In the end as other PP, if it doesn't interfere with your plans or overshadow what you are doing for DD, it is fine.