feeling like a total failure!

Jenny952

The last month or so has been really tough for me.  DD has been waking up almost every night overnight or waking early (4:45am today!!!).  Work is incredibly busy so I'm bringing some work home, going to bed late and then getting up early with her.  DH has been traveling a lot lately so it's been all on me to get everything done.  He sleeps in the guest room b/c I bring DD into bed with me when she wakes overnight, so I feel like a bad wife.  She is tired and cranky and I feel like I'm tired and stressed at her.  And I'm having a really hard time on a work project.  I'm just failing all around.  I'm sorry this is such a downer post, but I hope I'm not the only one out there who feels totally overwhelmed with everything.

gracefulruby33

It obviously all comes back to your baby getting more sleep. DD started waking at night almost a month ago as well. She got sick about a month ago and it hasn't been the same since. I finally had to start sleep training her again. You might (okay, probably will) be in for quite a fight, but in order for everyone to be happier in the long run, start sleep training her again, like you did before (if you did, I guess I'm making an assumption overall that you did this in the first place). We did CIO before and did again this time. DD is still waking up about every other night, but now in the last 4-5 days or so, cries for a limited amount of time (less than five minutes) after I go in one time.  

RedCamaro

gracefulruby33:

It obviously all comes back to your baby getting more sleep. DD started waking at night almost a month ago as well. She got sick about a month ago and it hasn't been the same since. I finally had to start sleep training her again. You might (okay, probably will) be in for quite a fight, but in order for everyone to be happier in the long run, start sleep training her again, like you did before (if you did, I guess I'm making an assumption overall that you did this in the first place). We did CIO before and did again this time. DD is still waking up about every other night, but now in the last 4-5 days or so, cries for a limited amount of time (less than five minutes) after I go in one time.  

This! OP, I'm sorry you're having a hard time all around. These times just snowball out of control. Start by trying to take control of one thing, then soon all the other things will fall back in line. I agree that you might have to do sleep training again. Also, try an eariler bed time; just 15 minutes can make a difference. GL!

LittleMommaBlueHen

Poorly sleeping baby is a pretty common caused of a frazzled momma.  Hang in there! 

Natty13umppo

Aw, you're not a failure at all!  I'm so sorry you feel that way.

Agree that a poorly sleeping baby can throw any momma off her game.  And to have work stress and a traveling DH?  I'm sure that's extra tough!

DD just got over a 4-6 week period of bad sleeping.....it was wearing me down.  And now that she's sleeping well again, I feel like a new person!

I hope your DD starts sleeping well for you!  Be it requiring sleep training or just the luck of her "figuring it out." 

jasnem

Oh, honey, <HUGS>. That's tough. 

I agree that lack of sleep is probably making everything far worse. I hope you can get a long stretch of sleep in soon.  

smwiggle

I completely understand.  Both DS1 is having some sleep problems, and DS2 is no where near the point of sleeping through the night.  I am one tired mama.

 I hope you can get some sleep soon.  If you have friends or family near by, maybe one of them can take her for a few hours to let you get some sleep.  

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jb2rn

You are not a bad mom AT ALL. I totally understand how sleep deprivation blurs everything.

Do you have any clues as to what has changed for her? Has her nap routine or bedtime changed? Getting teeth? Eating differently, or a change for your family (Daddy's work schedule or your own, etc)? I would look at that to see how you can make changes.

You gotta do what you gotta do. We aren't a CIO family, so if my son was waking like your dd was, I would look at his overal day and see what changes I could make, as in earlier bedtime, etc.

I hope this is a phase! hugs to you.

momatlast11

We also just went through round 3 of sleep training with DS.  Each time we do it, he is back on track for about 3 or 4 months, but then needs another round.  I noticed a change when the weather got warmer and he was playing more at night.  Just keep working at it-it's going to get better!