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I'm not pg just yet.  My H is my second H.  We have two from my previous marriage.  We have our 2 full time and thier bio father has been out of the picture for a long time. Anyway as you can tell from the feet below, they are older.  DD is 16 and DS is 13. 

I've always wanted 4 kids but now that my H wants to TTC, I'm think I'm too selfish to start over with an infant.  I'm really starting to move up in my career and I like to sleep in on the weekends.  My DD is going to jr Prom on Saturday. 

I'm so conflicted.  I want to have a baby w/ my H.  I loved being pregnant w/ both of my children.  But I also really like no babysitters, no daycare fees, sleeping through the night.

I'm 37 and my H is turning 39 in May.  And things will be so much different this time b/c I'm not 20 and 23 in a terrible relationship and I'm not a single mom any more trying to do it all by myself.  Pros: are that I'm in a stable strong relationship w/ my best friend who has accepted and loved my children and has been helping me raise them.  We have similar parenting styles.  We have our own home and we have stable careers.

Cons: really come down to I'm selfish and used to older kids who make their own sandwiches.

My OB/GYN says I'm healthy and I shouldn't have any problems.  And they recently delivered a  FTM close to 50 so I'm not old I'm one of the younger moms.  I was kinda hoping he would discourage so I wouldn't say to my H I was unsure if I wanted to start over again.

If I just got "ktfu" i would happy and love this baby and no second thoughts.  But the idea of planning and going off my BC and being hormonal (i get PMDD) really scares me.

ANY advice or encouragement or discouragement is all welcomed.

 

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  • technigirltechnigirl

    I can understand your dilemma!  I often wish my 2 year old could make her own sandwiches (or even wipe her own butt) without my help lol.

    You're definitely not too old to do this.  I think the question, which only you can answer, is do

    Me - 38 DH - 38 DD - 2 pregnancy
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  • AliSarahAliSarah

    I'm 37 and 39 weeks pregnant with my second child, first with DH (his first all together). And, I have a 17 year old daughter who will graduate from high school a couple months after her baby brother is born! I totally understand your thought process a

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