I know I'm superficial...please don't judge

Nursenic78

I currently have a 4 and a half year old little boy who I love very much. Hubby and I have been going back and forth about another baby. I feel I cannot do it as I do not have a single good reason to have another baby. All my reasons are superficial,therefore, it would be irresponsible to get pregnant.  Here are my reasons...in no particular order:

1) I loved being pregnant. I want to experience another pregnancy.

2) I want my son to have the experience of being a sister or brother

3) I want a baby shower (I know,lame, lame, lame)

4) I want to decorate a nursery (lame)

5) If a girl, I can't wait to pick out all the cute pin dresses (shallow to the max)

6) I want to take a 12 week fmla off work to stay home and spend quality time with my family.

 

I told my husband I cant get pregnant unless I have a better reason. What do you think? 

 

 

mamathefox

MelRC117:

You want another baby to be the center of attention? That sounds like a ridiculous reason. Who knows? You might not

PunkyBooster

I understand but nowhere in here do I see that you want a newborn or another child. Ultimately, as you know, that is what truly matters.

The rest is just fluff. Especially the material parts.

mrstengallonhat1

Do YOU want another child? You don't address that at all in your list.

Listing the fact that you want a baby shower for your second baby seems kind of tacky...and gift grabby. Most people don't even have showers for a second baby.

Venus201

Nursenic78:

I currently have a 4 and a half year old little boy who I love very much. Hubby and I have been going back and for

Venus201

Nursenic78:

I currently have a 4 and a half year old little boy who I love very much. Hubby and I have been going back and for

magdalina.h

We want Lucas to have a living sibling so that's why I got pregnant again.

What do you want a reason to be? Like you want to have the next Albert Einstein? 

magdalina.h

MelRC117:

You want another baby to be the center of attention? That sounds like a ridiculous reason. Who knows? You might not

SleepingBeauty79

 

Well, I DO appreciate your feedback, and that is why I am trying to convince my husbnad that I do not have any good reasons to have another baby.

Eastie156

Weird. It seems like you have some pretty legitimate reasons for wanting to get pregnant (you want your child to have a sibling, you enjoy being pregnant, you want 12 weeks FMLA) but yet you are saying you have no legitimate reasons. What do you classify

SleepingBeauty79

 

Yes, actually my current son was very sickly. had the tubes, adenoids, sinus surgery, speech delay, food aversions, falling off weight charts. Me- PPD, PPA. Now that he is 5, he is getting so much better. So, I think I may actually

Assembly_Reqd

magdalina.h:

What do you want a reason to be? Like you want to have the next Albert Einstein? 

SleepingBeauty79

 

Assembly-Reqd,

 Thanks, I laughed at that :-)

proudworkingmom82

Reason number 2 isn't really superficial.  If you can support another child and will love another child then have one.

BallSox

Sorry, but other than wanting to give your child a sibling, the rest of it, I roll my eyes at.  Most people want another child because they don't feel like their family is complete yet, and for some, that stems from wanting to give their child a sibl